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[OrByte]

it is the parent's responsiblity to be superhuman and make the right decision, and not a decision out of convenience. the families i speak of... the parents in the family spend a TREMENDOUS amount of time, energy and resources into deciding and executing how they raise their children. it is nowhere near easy for them. these people have my greatest and deepest respect, for they're the strongest people i know.

I am sorry but the only person I can think that is superhuman in my life is God, and I like it that way. Until I can leap tall buildings in a single bound I will raise my children as I see fit, I think the MAJORITY of parents out there feel the same way.

people like those you reference are great! I am glad to hear that they take a proactive approach to thier childrens daily activities. I like to think that my wife and I do the same with our daughter. She is by far the most well adjusted kid at our church, at her school, and in our neighborhood. I also like to think that this is because for the first few years of her life she was raised in a house that didn't use physical forms of punishment (MY HOUSE). Now a days she can be very willful, and yes she does pit her will against ours (I don't know a single child that does not do that at her age) so my wife and I are infact currently trying to figure out how to discipline this girl. yes I have spanked her on occasion, and it is effective.

again the situation, the child, and the parent....it all factors into the discipline.


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[djheater]

Originally posted by: Millenium

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: OrByte
...Wills are pitted against one another and on some occasions it maybe necessary to spank your child...

It is never necessary to spank your child. You always choose to do so. I have never felt "pitted" against my child or ANY child. Parenthood and adulthood in general is not a competition.

I would have to disagree with you djheater. Spanking a child and incorporating a lot of what OrByte says is a proper way to raise a child.

Whether or not you agree with me isn't relevant really. It is never "necessary" to spank your child, whenever you choose to do so it is because you see no other option in correcting misbehavior that does not mean it is "necessary" only that you are ignorant of alternatives.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: djheater
An excellent book I suggest all parents read is Spiritual Parenting by Hugh and Gayle Prather. They are ministers and deliver an extraordinarily enlightened view of parenting. Although I am not christian I profited from this book imensely.... very, very strongly reccomended.

OrByte, Millenium - Please read this book.

 

[OrByte]

glad to see you aren't taking the high road on this djheater.

🙂



ok ok forgive me if 'necessary' isn't a term that sits well with you and truth be told you are right it is never 'necessary'

there feel better?

and I would like to think that short of a brain transfusion for my child I know any and all alternatives. I may not have read that book you linked earlier (in fact I know I haven't) but I know what my options are given the situation I am in with my child...everything from time outs to taking away treats, privledges etc etc etc...




edit I meant to use a smily not a eye rolls sorry!

 

[OrByte]

and djheater, I just might buy that book and give it a shot.

Like I said in my earlier posts, my wife and I are searching for ways to deal with my daughter at this stage.

I don't know why people think that age three was so terrible, age 2 was tough, and age 4 is tougher!

I can only imagine how much fun 5,6,7,...... is gonna be 🙂


btw djheater, how old are your kids? I have my girlie who is 4 and my bouncing boy who is 6 months

NO WE DO NOT SPANK MY BABY BOY!!!!!!!!! don't be silly.

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: OrByte
and djheater, I just might buy that book and give it a shot.

Like I said in my earlier posts, my wife and I are searching for ways to deal with my daughter at this stage.

I don't know why people think that age three was so terrible, age 2 was tough, and age 4 is tougher!

I can only imagine how much fun 5,6,7,...... is gonna be 🙂

tons of fun... then they'll start to use their developing sense of logic against you 😛 i think 13 is also a rough age... at least it was with me and my sister.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: OrByte
glad to see you aren't taking the high road on this djheater.

I'm not sure I understand that colloquialism and can't derive your intention from the context. Sorry.

You must admit it's impossible that you know "any and all" alternatives. I'm certain I don't and am willing to investigate each new one I encounter. Are you?


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Like I said in my earlier posts, my wife and I are searching for ways to deal with my daughter at this stage.

I don't know why people think that age three was so terrible, age 2 was tough, and age 4 is tougher!

I can only imagine how much fun 5,6,7,...... is gonna be

I applaud you. Your desire to determine what is best for you and your child will ultmately be what your child benefits most from. 😀

I have two daughters one almost 5 and one 13mo. My sister claims I've gaut it easy because I have two girls... her little boy (2.5) is a hanfull 😉

Good Luck.

 

[OrByte]

TextI'm not sure I understand that colloquialism and can't derive your intention from the context. Sorry.

I was sincere in that comment, sorry if you felt otherwise, I hate flame fests.


and I ordered that book, I read a little of its sample pages, it seems like a good read, thanks.

as for this poor unfortunate incident, why not let the little girl stay with family members? are these nomadic people that bad? can none of them be trusted let alone that girls father, or maybe a grandmother or aunt or uncle?

 

[gopunk]

as for this poor unfortunate incident, why not let the little girl stay with family members? are these nomadic people that bad? can none of them be trusted let alone that girls father, or maybe a grandmother or aunt or uncle?

perhaps the acorn doesn't fall far from the tree?

 

[MaDHaVoK]

Anyone who says spanking a child (when deserved) causes violence is just full of crap. Most people who commit violent crimes were either seriously abused, or had no form of discipline growing up.

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: MaDHaVoK
Anyone who says spanking a child (when deserved) causes violence is just full of crap. Most people who commit violent crimes were either seriously abused, or had no form of discipline growing up.

do you think people that hit their children were

a.) also hit by their parents as children

or

b.) never hit by their parents

??

who's full of crap now? 😀