Wife Wants a Room with a View

[jadinolf]

Originally posted by: D1gger
My wife told me yesterday that she looked at a house that is for sale in our neighbourhood that she is interested in.

Home she looked at:
Built in early 70?s
~2,700 ft2 ? 2 story - no basement
No den/office
Fabulous ocean and mountain views

Our Current House:
Built in early 90?s
~3,700 ft2 ? 2 story ? no basement, crawlspace for storage
1 den/office (2 computers used here)
1 open space office (2 computers used here)
No View

Our situation is that I am edging towards retirement, approximately 10 years to go, our two kids will be out of the house in the next 5 ? 8 years. The kids currently each have large 15? x 20? bedrooms, with a computer and desk.

The prices on the homes would be very similar, so in essence, we would be trading 1,000 ft2 of living space and a 20 year newer home for a view.

This is going to become very emotional for my wife. I am not the least bit interested in moving at this time. We are currently completely debt free and I don?t want to take on a mortgage, so a larger newer home with a view is simply not an option I want to explore.

For the life of me I can?t figure out why she would want to make this trade, but I know if I tell her what I really think she will go off the deep end, and I will be hearing about the house that got away for the rest of my life. I told her last night to do whatever she wants (and I will keep my mouth shut). I think she is being irrational and has been sold a bill of goods by the realtor that the 70?s home won?t require any work. I am so frustrated I spent the entire drive to work this morning screaming and swearing to my self.

I fully expect that by the end of today she will have put an offer on the house.

CLIFFS:

Wife wants to buy a smaller older house with a view
I do not
She will win
:disgust:

Like you say: she will win.

 

[Shadowknight]

Originally posted by: D1gger

Nice try, as mentioned earlier in the thread, we are in Canada, and the entire gain on our current home is tax free. There is no capital gains tax on the sale of our principal residence, unless Revenue Canada suspects you have started to do it as a business and are flipping two or three homes per year. Just out of interest the gain we would make on our current home is quite a bit more than $250,000 for the 13 years we have been living in it.

I'm one of those lazy people who needs cliffs after ever 12 replies. Anyway, say no, do not compromise, do not listen to her side, just say no. Remember, she's NOT going to be able to dictate you're living situation, you have to agree to it as a couple; ignoring all the other flaws with swapping your house for a comparatively piece of crap, how can she prove to you she won't get sick of it in 6 months and realize what she gave up on?

 

[preslove]

Tell her to wait till the kids leave the house and then buy a condo with a kick ass view.

 

[jmgonzalez]

Originally posted by: D1gger

Originally posted by: jndietz
dude just make a deal with her. sex twice a day and blowjobs at night for ten years and then she will agree. then buy the house. WIN WIN SITUATION!

FTW!!! This is the best suggestion I've heard all morning.

I concur with this suggestion.

Nothing better out there to convince someone on something than to include a little more enjoyment in life than usual.

My wife wants a new SUV in the next year or so and she knows what it is that she needs to do for her to get it.

 

[Ausm]

I put my foot down with my Ex and that was the first foot out the door soon to to be followed by the rest of my body

Ausm

 

[D1gger]

UPDATE:

Sorry to take so long to update, but I have been away from computers for 10 days.

Good news for me. My wife put an offer in on the house, but didn't get it. She was considering increasing her offer, but another buyer got in before her and made a deal. Looks like we will be staying put at least for a while!

 

[Xyclone]

Originally posted by: bamacre
Take a big picture of your ass and hang it on the wall. Boom, a room with a view.

:thumbsup::beer::laugh:

 

[conehead433]

Just let her go see some Chippendale dancers once a week.

 

[EagleKeeper]

You will still lose.

She has gotten the bug and will continue to look.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: D1gger
UPDATE:

Sorry to take so long to update, but I have been away from computers for 10 days.

Good news for me. My wife put an offer in on the house, but didn't get it. She was considering increasing her offer, but another buyer got in before her and made a deal. Looks like we will be staying put at least for a while!

Funny how things work out. At least she can't blame you.

 

[D1gger]

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: D1gger
UPDATE:

Sorry to take so long to update, but I have been away from computers for 10 days.

Good news for me. My wife put an offer in on the house, but didn't get it. She was considering increasing her offer, but another buyer got in before her and made a deal. Looks like we will be staying put at least for a while!

Funny how things work out. At least she can't blame you.

My thoughts exactly. I got the brownie points for letting her try to fulfill her desire, while at the same time my wishes were met. It is bound to come up again, but maybe the next house is one I will like as well.

 

[Skunkwourk]

Originally posted by: EagleKeeper
You will still lose.

She has gotten the bug and will continue to look.

for some reason I feel the same way...

 

[Ranger X]

Grow a pair and tell her "no"!

You probably make most of the money so she shouldn't be able to force you to do ANYTHING.

 

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: D1gger
Sorry to take so long to update, but I have been away from computers for 10 days.

Good news for me. My wife put an offer in on the house, but didn't get it. She was considering increasing her offer, but another buyer got in before her and made a deal. Looks like we will be staying put at least for a while!

Good to hear :thumbsup: I hate when women want stupid sh!t like that that makes no practical sense whatsoever.

My gf wanted to buy a new loveseat from a furniture store going out of business; even tho our 2-story, 2-bedroom, 1200 sqft condo would get even more crowded with a loveseat (in addition to a huge couch and small single-person loveseat thingie). Luckily the store wouldn't sell it w/out the couch

 

[AMDZen]

I really can't understand how every married guy has the attitute:

"The Wife will win"
"Whatever she wants is what goes."
"I have no choice in the matter, its what the wife wants."

And then when I talk to the guys I know who always say things like this, they tell me that I will understand when I'm married. Not that I plan on ever getting married, but if I do - it will certainly not be "Well she wants it and so I'm going along even though I completely disagree."

With an attitude like yours, its no wonder marriage gets such a bad rap - and how its always referred to as a ball and chain. Also why its always looked at as a worse situation to be in for a man. I say, since guys like you have an attitude like that you deserve what you got when you married her, and what you will have to live with when your buying a home that you don't want.

You can do one of two things - make your opinion more valid in her eyes because it shouldn't be that she always gets her way, or you can continue to be the pvssy you make yourself out to be and simply put up with it like you obviously have all your life. Either way ATOT cannot possibly help you.