Wife Wants a Room with a View

[D1gger]

My wife told me yesterday that she looked at a house that is for sale in our neighbourhood that she is interested in.

Home she looked at:
Built in early 70?s
~2,700 ft2 ? 2 story - no basement
No den/office
Fabulous ocean and mountain views

Our Current House:
Built in early 90?s
~3,700 ft2 ? 2 story ? no basement, crawlspace for storage
1 den/office (2 computers used here)
1 open space office (2 computers used here)
No View

Our situation is that I am edging towards retirement, approximately 10 years to go, our two kids will be out of the house in the next 5 ? 8 years. The kids currently each have large 15? x 20? bedrooms, with a computer and desk.

The prices on the homes would be very similar, so in essence, we would be trading 1,000 ft2 of living space and a 20 year newer home for a view.

This is going to become very emotional for my wife. I am not the least bit interested in moving at this time. We are currently completely debt free and I don?t want to take on a mortgage, so a larger newer home with a view is simply not an option I want to explore.

For the life of me I can?t figure out why she would want to make this trade, but I know if I tell her what I really think she will go off the deep end, and I will be hearing about the house that got away for the rest of my life. I told her last night to do whatever she wants (and I will keep my mouth shut). I think she is being irrational and has been sold a bill of goods by the realtor that the 70?s home won?t require any work. I am so frustrated I spent the entire drive to work this morning screaming and swearing to my self.

I fully expect that by the end of today she will have put an offer on the house.

CLIFFS:

Wife wants to buy a smaller older house with a view
I do not
She will win
:disgust:

UPDATE:

Sorry to take so long to update, but I have been away from computers for 10 days.

Good news for me. My wife put an offer in on the house, but didn't get it. She was considering increasing her offer, but another buyer got in before her and made a deal. Looks like we will be staying put at least for a while!

 

[bamacre]

Take a big picture of your ass and hang it on the wall. Boom, a room with a view.

 

[Chunkee]

please turn in your man card..oh sorry, you dont have one.

jC

 

[meltdown75]

dang women!

that sucks man. try to find something negative about that property... and quick! tell her the taxes there are ridiculous or something. or lie and tell her someone was brutally murdered there and the place is allegedly haunted.

other than that, sounds like you're screwed. :beer: sorry! naggy wives FTL

 

[Tom]

A nice view can be very satisfying, life changing even.

 

[jaedaliu]

Sounds like you've been married for quite a few years. I'm also assuming that she's made every financial decision in the past and you just listened to her.

if not, why the heck is that happening now?

and if my assumptions are right, there's no time like now to start discussing financial situations together like 2 people in an adult relationship.

 

[PingSpike]

Sounds like you're trading down to me. Tell her you'll buy her a flatscreen 52" TV and play a looped track of the ocean on it as a compromise. It'll be you busting your ass up on the roof, fixing the hot water heater and pounding on a leaky toilet with a pipe wrench while she sips wine out on the back porch.

 

[Mermaidman]

If you didn't have little kids, I would go for the smaller house with view because "fabulous views" isn't something that can be added! But, as it is, you have very good and practical reasons to stay. How old is your wife? Is she in the emotional peri-menopausal age?

 

[Ameesh]

just tell her no.

 

[K1052]

I could have had at least twice the sq footage that I do now, but I paid a premium for my views.

I really like having something nice to look at and knew when I first walked into the place that I would buy it. If I ever sell, it will be for a condo on a higher floor of the same building.

East view

 

[D1gger]

Originally posted by: jaedaliu
Sounds like you've been married for quite a few years. I'm also assuming that she's made every financial decision in the past and you just listened to her.

if not, why the heck is that happening now?

and if my assumptions are right, there's no time like now to start discussing financial situations together like 2 people in an adult relationship.

We have been married for quite a long time, and I have made most of the previous financial decisions. She has let me know that she feels she never got a fair deal in careers or financial decisions since everything revolved around my career (moving to other cities did disrupt her ability to advance). So now I am backing out of this decision and letting her make it. It will likely drive me crazy.

 

[gigapet]

Refuse. whats she gonna do ? Divorce?

 

[D1gger]

Originally posted by: Chunkee
please turn in your man card..oh sorry, you dont have one.

jC

I hear you. That is exactly how I feel today.:frown:

 

[akubi]

Originally posted by: Mermaidman
Is she in the emotional peri-menopausal age?

lol

 

[D1gger]

Originally posted by: gigapet
Refuse. whats she gonna do ? Divorce?

No she wouldn't likely divorce over this issue, but she could definitely make sure I never forgot how I didn't let her have her "dream house".

 

[radioouman]

You really should compromise and enjoy life a little more. It is just a house, and a happy woman will make her man happy.

 

[D1gger]

Originally posted by: akubi

Originally posted by: Mermaidman
Is she in the emotional peri-menopausal age?

lol

Yes. She told me last week that she thought she was entering menopause.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: D1gger

Originally posted by: jaedaliu
Sounds like you've been married for quite a few years. I'm also assuming that she's made every financial decision in the past and you just listened to her.

if not, why the heck is that happening now?

and if my assumptions are right, there's no time like now to start discussing financial situations together like 2 people in an adult relationship.

We have been married for quite a long time, and I have made most of the previous financial decisions. She has let me know that she feels she never got a fair deal in careers or financial decisions since everything revolved around my career (moving to other cities did disrupt her ability to advance). So now I am backing out of this decision and letting her make it. It will likely drive me crazy.

Vent on, get it all out of your system, then go home and give her a hug and a kiss.

I'm sure there's a reason you picked that quote for your sig.

 

[JLGatsby]

Convince her out of it.

Really, what's in a "view"? What actual purpose does it serve?

Promise her she will grow bored with this "view" in a short time, because she will.

 

[D1gger]

Originally posted by: radioouman
You really should compromise and enjoy life a little more. It is just a house, and a happy woman will make her man happy.

That is exactly what I am trying to do, but I fear it will make me nuts to come home to a house that needs work / money.

 

[D1gger]

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: D1gger

Originally posted by: jaedaliu
Sounds like you've been married for quite a few years. I'm also assuming that she's made every financial decision in the past and you just listened to her.

if not, why the heck is that happening now?

and if my assumptions are right, there's no time like now to start discussing financial situations together like 2 people in an adult relationship.

We have been married for quite a long time, and I have made most of the previous financial decisions. She has let me know that she feels she never got a fair deal in careers or financial decisions since everything revolved around my career (moving to other cities did disrupt her ability to advance). So now I am backing out of this decision and letting her make it. It will likely drive me crazy.

Vent on, get it all out of your system, then go home and give her a hug and a kiss.

I'm sure there's a reason you picked that quote for your sig.

Thanks for reminding me.

 

[40Hands]

Stand up to her. She will eventually get over it.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: D1gger

Originally posted by: radioouman
You really should compromise and enjoy life a little more. It is just a house, and a happy woman will make her man happy.

That is exactly what I am trying to do, but I fear it will make me nuts to come home to a house that needs work / money.

Compromise means you both give up a little and are both a little happy. Not one person is miserable and the other happy.

 

Not a great idea getting deep into a mortgage late in your professional career.

 

[imported_Beavis]

Originally posted by: D1gger
My wife told me yesterday that she looked at a house that is for sale in our neighbourhood that she is interested in.

Home she looked at:
Built in early 70?s
~2,700 ft2 ? 2 story - no basement
No den/office
Fabulous ocean and mountain views

Our Current House:
Built in early 90?s
~3,700 ft2 ? 2 story ? no basement, crawlspace for storage
1 den/office (2 computers used here)
1 open space office (2 computers used here)
No View

Our situation is that I am edging towards retirement, approximately 10 years to go, our two kids will be out of the house in the next 5 ? 8 years. The kids currently each have large 15? x 20? bedrooms, with a computer and desk.

The prices on the homes would be very similar, so in essence, we would be trading 1,000 ft2 of living space and a 20 year newer home for a view.

This is going to become very emotional for my wife. I am not the least bit interested in moving at this time. We are currently completely debt free and I don?t want to take on a mortgage, so a larger newer home with a view is simply not an option I want to explore.

For the life of me I can?t figure out why she would want to make this trade, but I know if I tell her what I really think she will go off the deep end, and I will be hearing about the house that got away for the rest of my life. I told her last night to do whatever she wants (and I will keep my mouth shut). I think she is being irrational and has been sold a bill of goods by the realtor that the 70?s home won?t require any work. I am so frustrated I spent the entire drive to work this morning screaming and swearing to my self.

I fully expect that by the end of today she will have put an offer on the house.

CLIFFS:

Wife wants to buy a smaller older house with a view
I do not
She will win
:disgust:

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