Wife just come home from work, and gave me the bad news

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funboy6942

funboy6942

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So to say the least right now Im not doing all to well about it. It was my wife's Mothers, Sisters, Husbands, younger brother, she really had no really ties with him other then knowing he was family through marrage, but since I moved here 3+ years ago from up north, having pretty much my whole family die on me, and not having any family down here, he and I hit it off pretty good. He had the same warped sense of humor as I did, got hurt on the job he was at fighting to get on SSI, but was able to get on it a few months back but had to wait till this August to collect on it. He survived 3 heart attacks, 1 stroke, and several mini strokes, but today his heart couldnt take another attack and was found dead in his house by his wife, which was ruled as another heart attack.

He has no children of his own, and one brother and 2 sisters, and died at the age of 56. Because him, and his whole family isnt doing to well health wise, or cash wise, they can only afford to take him from the morgue, to the grave site and there is not to be any wake, or anything typical of a regular death. I wish I knew him more then three years, he waqs a real true friend to me and I am going to miss him more then he can ever know. He was a great guy, a true friend, a Vet, and I am going to miss him forever.

Be well my friend, I will see you again one day, hope not to soon.

I only wish my last words I told to him was what his friendship means to me, and not "Dude your breathing to heavy into the phone and Im starting to get turned on."

If I could drink, and was not in the middle of this fucking colon fucking test with the shits, Id be out there having that one last smoke and drink with you. I love you man!

Please excuse my typing Im in the bedroom typing this and cant see all to well. I am trying to edit as fast as I can.
 
ConstipatedVigilante

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Jeff7

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Originally posted by: funboy6942
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I only wish my last words I told to him was what his friendship means to me, and not "Dude your breathing to heavy into the phone and Im starting to get turned on."
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Well heck, that's not bad, you know? It was you and him enjoying some of that warped humor you both like. :)

Any words can be our last, but we can't spend every single word telling those who are important to us that they are just that. What was done in the life before those last words is what really matters.

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funboy6942

funboy6942

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Thank you for the words. I cant express how truly alone I feel right now. He was waiting for me to feel better to come over and watch a movie with me. Im just in shock right now, and saddened by all of this, not just for me but his family as well. Out of the bunch he was the one in the best of health of them all. His brother is soon to pass soon as well. But now I wont have anyone calling my house and messing with me, or to joke with, or anything like we used to do. He made me feel great when around him, and we could talk about anything and everything. This death is going to be hard for me to swallow for a bit, so do excuse me if Im not to "fun" for awhile, as if I really was anyway.

Man I got to find a way to turn off the water works.
 
Cogman

Cogman

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man that's tough. My condolences, it is never easy to loose a loved one.
 
BurnItDwn

BurnItDwn

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Ohh shit man, I'm sorry to hear about that :(

My grandfather is pretty close to the end of his days, and it's just so painful to think about losing him. I am very close with him, but he and my grandmother live 250 miles away so I don't get to see them as often as I'd like to ..

Anyhow, your last last exchange of words with the man musta made him laugh.... If I know one thing about death, it's that whenever I die, I want to die happy, even if it's just from a cheap laugh. My thougts and sympathy goes out to you and your family.

Perhaps on a better day, when you reflect upon the good times past, you could share your story as to how Mike got his nickname?
 
funboy6942

funboy6942

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I cant thank you guys enough. I plugged my ass up and went to his brother house and his wifes house to give them the deepest regards from me. Just spent over a hours crying my ass off. I think between the shits and crying I got no more water left in me to give.

I did just think of him just now, and decided to swallow a few gummy bears whole. Im sure he is laughing his ass off right now at the though of what my doctor may find in his camera tomorrow, provided it doesnt liquefy by then :)
He would of gotten a hell of a laugh out of it if I told him what I did, and especially if the doc finds a half melted green gummy bear or two in my ass. I am so going to miss him. 3 years I got to really know him, yet it feels like a lifetime and as though he was my brother. His wife is really having a hard time with it all emotionally and financially. She was only able to do a quick immediate family only open coffin for a few moments because she couldnt afford to get him embalmed, and between that and the plot, she has already racked up $4000. I plan on taking what I was going to spend on my van to get it fixed when my tax money come on the H&R card, but have decided to do the right thing and give her the cash, and just wait out mine for a bit longer. She needs it more right now then I do and Im sure Mike will be happy with my decision for Im sure he didnt plan on checking out this soon, there was nothing leading up to this to give a warning that anything was going to happen.

But this did hit me hard when my wife told me, I have really no other friends here, and absolutely no family other then mine, so Im not sure what Im going to do now that he is gone with my free time. It was nice watching movies with someone as my wife and kids were away at school and work, and you can only neff for so long here at at before that starts to get boring. What do I do now :( sure as hell cant keep crying.
 
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