Wife is driving me insane...

[SaigonK]

Just needed to rant a bit...

Damn wife is being a pain in the ass, she acts like she owns the world!

We had a spot of trouble back about 6 years ago, and ever since we got things worked out she feels like she runs the damn show because I admitted i was wrong all those years ago.
Tonight we get into an arguement and she pulls the classic "well there's the door...you can leave if you want to" in quite serious tone.

 

[Platypus]

take her advice.

 

[boyRacer]

She wouldn't be called a wife if she isn't driving you insane.

 

[NuclearFusi0n]

 

[rudeguy]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
take her advice.

agreed...if she doesnt want you there, and you dont like it there....then leave

 

[wyvrn]

What were you wrong about before?

 

[StageLeft]

Hmm seems that she DOES own the world then doesn't she? Because she says that and you just sit there. That just further cements the power dichotomy between both of you. As I see it you have two choices:

1) Leave next time she says that. This will either
a) Make her wake up to the fact it's a two way street
or
b) End your marriage
2) Continue to feel oppressed and trodden on for the rest of your life.

You need to work it out...

 

[Jugernot]

Sorry to hear it.

I refuse to be in a relationship with someone like that. My ex was the same way and I finally left and NEVER looked back.

Jugs

 

[StageLeft]

Oh BTW next time she's annoying you tell her she's acting like your mother. Women love that

 

[MacGaven]

PMS?

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Hmm seems that she DOES own the world then doesn't she? Because she says that and you just sit there. That just further cements the power dichotomy between both of you. As I see it you have two choices:

1) Leave next time she says that. This will either
a) Make her wake up to the fact it's a two way street
or
b) End your marriage
2) Continue to feel oppressed and trodden on for the rest of your life.

You need to work it out...

I agree. What are you going to do next time you have an argument about something important? You can't let her walk all over you, or you're going to be very unhappy for the rest of your life. Marriage should not be like that.

 

[OrByte]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Hmm seems that she DOES own the world then doesn't she? Because she says that and you just sit there. That just further cements the power dichotomy between both of you. As I see it you have two choices:

1) Leave next time she says that. This will either
a) Make her wake up to the fact it's a two way street
or
b) End your marriage
2) Continue to feel oppressed and trodden on for the rest of your life.

You need to work it out...

yup it kinda depends on what you did 'before' sounds like maybe an extramarital affair or something like that? I could be off base but you obviously left her once before and she never really accepted you back. She never really trusted you after that so to her, you always had one foot out the door anyway.

I could be wrong. At any rate unless the two of you are willing to talk through it and work it out why put each other thru so much misery?

 

[SaigonK]

I say something but then i feel like a jerk because I dont think we should be saying such things...we have two kids so it makes it worse.
I am tired of all the bs, no talking, no intimacy (i mean no closeness) and minimal "adult time".

She wants a house in a bad way, and I honestly think I am just a paycheck to get her one...hell sometimes I wonder if I buy her a house will she then decide to say :it isnt working out...you need to go..I need to move on" of course once she has her new house then she will be set.

 

[SaigonK]

no extramairtal affair here, i was just buys going out with my friends all the time and not paying attention to her.
I never left, she left me and then we got back togethor and worked it out...or ..so..i...thought.....

 

[StageLeft]

I could be off base but you obviously left her once before and she never really accepted you back. She never really trusted you after that so to her, you always had one foot out the door anyway.

It doesn't sound that way, doesn't it?

6 years later she has to understand that she can't continue to feel that way for the marriage to be happy and successful long term. When one partner feels continual resentment to the other it's never good. It has to go away.

 

[Spac3d]

You need to beat some sense into her. Literally.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: SaigonK
I say something but then i feel like a jerk because I dont think we should be saying such things...we have two kids so it makes it worse.
I am tired of all the bs, no talking, no intimacy (i mean no closeness) and minimal "adult time".

She wants a house in a bad way, and I honestly think I am just a paycheck to get her one...hell sometimes I wonder if I buy her a house will she then decide to say :it isnt working out...you need to go..I need to move on" of course once she has her new house then she will be set.

(sigh). I hate to say it, but you guys seriously sound like you should see a marriage counselor and try to work things out for the sake of your kids. None of us here can tell you what you should or shouldn't do, but a counselor may be able to help.

 

[StageLeft]

Have you tried marriage counselling? I'm only young but I'm quite positive that you can't go through the rest of your life like this. I doubt you're that happy and I doubt she is either. You should give it a try to really make it work and if it doesn't cut your losses, because you're just on cruise control now in the slow lane. It's not good for you and it's probably not good for the youngins either.

 

[toant103]

Originally posted by: SaigonK
Just needed to rant a bit...

Damn wife is being a pain in the ass, she acts like she owns the world!

We had a spot of trouble back about 6 years ago, and ever since we got things worked out she feels like she runs the damn show because I admitted i was wrong all those years ago.
Tonight we get into an arguement and she pulls the classic "well there's the door...you can leave if you want to" in quite serious tone.

what was your mistake?

 

[toant103]

Originally posted by: SaigonK
Just needed to rant a bit...

Damn wife is being a pain in the ass, she acts like she owns the world!

We had a spot of trouble back about 6 years ago, and ever since we got things worked out she feels like she runs the damn show because I admitted i was wrong all those years ago.
Tonight we get into an arguement and she pulls the classic "well there's the door...you can leave if you want to" in quite serious tone.

what was your mistake?

 

Originally posted by: toant103

Originally posted by: SaigonK
Just needed to rant a bit...

Damn wife is being a pain in the ass, she acts like she owns the world!

We had a spot of trouble back about 6 years ago, and ever since we got things worked out she feels like she runs the damn show because I admitted i was wrong all those years ago.
Tonight we get into an arguement and she pulls the classic "well there's the door...you can leave if you want to" in quite serious tone.

what was your mistake?

Read up a couple posts.

 

[Nyical]

You need to take a step back and rethink this marriage and be honest with yourself, can it be saved? do you want it to be saved?

 

[AUMM]

Originally posted by: Spac3d
You need to beat some sense into her. Literally.

 

[rgwalt]

Funny part:

She is letting you off the hook! Take her advice and split!

Serious part:

It sounds like you are in a tough position. Having kids makes it that much harder. However, if you buy a house, will she automatically get it and the kids? If she asks for the divorce, won't the courts be more favorable to you? I don't know how those things work... In all truth, if you think she is going to leave you after you buy a house and take the house, don't buy one. More importantly, level with her on the subject. Tell her all the things you feel... tell her that your marriage seems to be more of an agreement than a real relationship.

Good luck in what ever happens.

Ryan

 

[narzy]

play the ol switcharoo, grab her stuff, place it on the front lawn and say, your right honey, you can leave!