I notice a lot of guys struggling with this and I wanted to offer a few tips.
First:
I am a very goodlooking guy who has done some modeling/promotional stuff off and on. I work hard at it, take good care of myself and am very well-groomed and bodybuild. Anyone who has seen my myspace page knows this. (save the hater stuff, I don't care.) Because of this, I have experienced being hit on by gay men from time to time. I think it gives me some insight into part of what women go through. If you've ever been hit on aggressively by a man in a social situation (it seems to happen to me in grocery stores for some reason), it is EXTREMELY uncomfortable and obnoxious, particularly when you are trying to maintain some semblance of politeness. You are giving every sign that you are not fu(king interested and they continue, often escalating their come-ons in reverse parallel to how cold I try to be about it. It risks violence on my part, but I don't want that, so I know have learned to just be like ("oh YEAH, my gf and I blah blah")
Imagine being a female in this situation. I can defend myself against a guy like this, they often cannot. (why you see hot women travel with a couple girlfriends or boyfriend. Life can be scary for a hot girl, and for girls in general.)
Second:
Imagine if every single day of your life after the age of about 13-15, you were approached by an average of (low or moderately cute girl) 3, to (very attractive social girl) 15 SALESPEOPLE, each and every day.
These salespeople are nice to you. They say "Hi, I'm Bob, what's your name?"
But they are being NICE to you because they WANT something from you. They aren't being nice to you just to be a generally nice person. That is why people understand that it is ok to sometimes be rude to salespeople, or to blow them off.
Imagine if this happened to you at random times throughout the day, 15x a day, over and over and over and over and over and over. I bet you'd become pretty bitchy too.
Guys going up to girls and saying "Hi, I'm Bob, what's your name?" no matter how nice they are being, are doing it becuase THEY WANT SOMETHING FROM HER, just as a salesperson does. (they want to ****** her, love her, etcetera.)
Three:
So, what to do? Well, first of all, if the chick has a high social value, if she is a hot girl, then you really ought to either attempt to raise your own value, or if you believe you do have the traits to measure up, then TALK to her, but don't immediately convey that you're purely interested in her for her looks. BE GENUINELY CURIOUS ABOUT HER as a person too when you talk to her. Don't be like "zomg ur so pretty!!111" Ask her what her passions or hobbies or ambitions are, etcetera. Just control your desire to f*ck her as much as you can while you talk to her. That will be a good start, but hey, she doesn't OWE you anything either, just like you don't owe a girl you're not attracted to a relationship.
First:
I am a very goodlooking guy who has done some modeling/promotional stuff off and on. I work hard at it, take good care of myself and am very well-groomed and bodybuild. Anyone who has seen my myspace page knows this. (save the hater stuff, I don't care.) Because of this, I have experienced being hit on by gay men from time to time. I think it gives me some insight into part of what women go through. If you've ever been hit on aggressively by a man in a social situation (it seems to happen to me in grocery stores for some reason), it is EXTREMELY uncomfortable and obnoxious, particularly when you are trying to maintain some semblance of politeness. You are giving every sign that you are not fu(king interested and they continue, often escalating their come-ons in reverse parallel to how cold I try to be about it. It risks violence on my part, but I don't want that, so I know have learned to just be like ("oh YEAH, my gf and I blah blah")
Imagine being a female in this situation. I can defend myself against a guy like this, they often cannot. (why you see hot women travel with a couple girlfriends or boyfriend. Life can be scary for a hot girl, and for girls in general.)
Second:
Imagine if every single day of your life after the age of about 13-15, you were approached by an average of (low or moderately cute girl) 3, to (very attractive social girl) 15 SALESPEOPLE, each and every day.
These salespeople are nice to you. They say "Hi, I'm Bob, what's your name?"
But they are being NICE to you because they WANT something from you. They aren't being nice to you just to be a generally nice person. That is why people understand that it is ok to sometimes be rude to salespeople, or to blow them off.
Imagine if this happened to you at random times throughout the day, 15x a day, over and over and over and over and over and over. I bet you'd become pretty bitchy too.
Guys going up to girls and saying "Hi, I'm Bob, what's your name?" no matter how nice they are being, are doing it becuase THEY WANT SOMETHING FROM HER, just as a salesperson does. (they want to ****** her, love her, etcetera.)
Three:
So, what to do? Well, first of all, if the chick has a high social value, if she is a hot girl, then you really ought to either attempt to raise your own value, or if you believe you do have the traits to measure up, then TALK to her, but don't immediately convey that you're purely interested in her for her looks. BE GENUINELY CURIOUS ABOUT HER as a person too when you talk to her. Don't be like "zomg ur so pretty!!111" Ask her what her passions or hobbies or ambitions are, etcetera. Just control your desire to f*ck her as much as you can while you talk to her. That will be a good start, but hey, she doesn't OWE you anything either, just like you don't owe a girl you're not attracted to a relationship.
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