Why SOME of You Guys Are Having Trouble Meeting Women

[GasX]

Originally posted by: Dezign
Courtesey of the world that is CL:

You don't want any woman larger than a Size 4.

I am trying to get my fiance to GAIN weight...

You don't want any breasts smaller than a 36C.

My fiance is not even close...

You want only white or Asian women (who fit the above physical requirements).

Halle, Beyonce, Jada, etc...

You want her to have a career, but not be so focused on it that it takes attention away from YOU (otherwise she is a frigid, career-driven bitch).

My fiance works a lot harder than me...

You want her to be sexually adventurous and kinky, but not to have had an adventurous or kinky past (that makes her easy, a slut, a piece of meat).

I can't argue with that...

If she wants kids, she's trying to trap you; if she doesn't, she's a frigid manhating,kidhating, family-hostile feminist bitch.

blah blah blah whatever...

You want an educated woman but who isn't strident/opinionated/bitchy.

The only women worth having are opionated and bitchy...

You want a girl who looks like a model (stylish and put together) but not one who is overly concerned with fashion or materialism.

I can't stand women who are "put together"

You don't want a 'dinner whore' but if a woman pays for dinner your manhood is insulted.

No it isn't...

You whine about why women don't smile at you on the street, and when we explain to you that many men basically consider it an invite to harass or threaten us you discount what we've said - do you listen, or do you just want to hear yourselves talk?

I have found walking a puppy gets every woman to smile at you on the street...

You say you want a super smart or super sexual woman but you are totally threatened by them.

Only when she is both and ties a knot I can't figure out...

You think women are there to validate your existence/good looks/success/blah blah blah.

Nope...

You throw your good looks/money/success/flash car around as bait and then wonder why you attract gold-diggers.

I make a comfortable 6 figure income and spend 90% of my time in old jeans and tshirts

You spew hatred towards women and then wonder why women can't stand you - do you think we're stupid?

I have nothing but love for you, honey...

You insist til you are blue in the face that there are no good women left around when there's actually an army of them - they're just not the brainless, spineless, 98-lb geisha dolls you really want.

There is one and I have her already

If you want a woman that is beautiful, in shape, smart, successful, gracious, etc., you just have high standards for yourself.

Yup

If a woman wants a man that is all of the above, she is unrealistic, expects perfection, and should lower her standards and 'get real'.

No, she is already marrying me

You really don't want a woman who's an equal. You want a combo-platter whore/housekeeper/mommy. No one wants to be your Mommy, buddy. Or your whore or housekeeper for that matter.

Mommy? No....

You want the sex but you don't want to be obligated to call her afterwards. WTF?

Hey, I cuddled you for 2 minutes...

If a woman 'gives it up' too easily and fvcks you without a bunch of dating and dinners, etc., she's a whore/slut.

No, I just lose interest...

If a woman won't fvck you until you've had a bunch of dating/dinners, etc, she's a gold-digging dinner whore.

No, she is just not worth the time...

You always talk about what women should be doing for you instead of what you could be doing for them to show them how much you enjoy their attention/time/energy - this goes both ways.

ummmmm, no I don't

You blame women for your dating woes instead of either asking yourself if the issue might be you or all the other men who treat women like sh!t and force us to be wary and self-protective

Huh? What bull *** came up with this one?

 

[Underground727]

Umm, much of your info is wrong.

I want a girl to be hot & relatively stupid.

That is all.

 

[yukichigai]

Most men, yeah. Personally I don't think of myself like that. For example, the "slut" aspect. Honestly I don't care what kind of past a woman has. (provided it doesn't involve serial murders or STDs) Why? Equality among the genders. I don't care if women sleep around because if given the chance I'd sleep around. I'd be one hell of a slut, lemme tell ya, so why should I hold women to a different standard.

As for women being a size 4 or smaller, where's the fun in that? I tower over most size 4 women, so if I were to get *ahem* with a woman that size I'd be afraid I'd slip, fall and break her ribs. (I'm a bit of a klutz sometimes) Not that I wouldn't go for a woman that small, just it's not a requirement. If she's built like an Orca whale I will have a problem though; I'm not that open minded.

Breast size is mostly irrelivant, though I think it'd be good if she had bigger breasts than I do. (Manboobs baby!) As long as they're niptacular and roughly even I'm good.


I could go on but I won't. Suffice to say I do think you're pretty dead on with a lot of that Dezign but don't think there aren't guys out there that are better than this.

 

[mrCide]

yeah.. see the problem is girls are just as bad as guys. ok? don't fvcking forget it either.. for every fault guys have girls have one that are just as big an impact. the last 3 relationships i had consisted of

1; i left her.. i just wasn't happy (her personality.. couldn't take it), and we broke up on decent terms..

2; gorgeous, had a crush on her in high school. after a month of dating and taking her out all the time, she refused to even kiss me. i'm not going to wait more than that and waste my money, then be told that 'i thought i made it clear i just wanted to be friends (yes this is BS, you don't have a friend pick you up and take you out everywhere/pay, and hold hands and walk on the beach then cuddle after). what's funny is when i asked her if she wanted to just be friends (i didn't really care at that point, she was very boring).. i was told 'i dunno you seem like a very angry person' .. i treated her with nothing but respect.

3; very cute, very nice body (to me.. light skin/thick legs/ass/boobs/firm stomach.. but she wasn't thin) -- had flaws i thoguht would bother me but didn't. big thing that made all the previous so muchbetter was that she's SO FUN and exciting to be around.. finally found someone i'm 100% happy with. then she dumped me for her ex-bf the after telling me how much she loved me the previous night. (though almost a year later we're like best friends.. the 3 of us).

so yes, you'll never have someone 'perfect', anyone who you think is perfect (before knowing them) isn't. when you can accept flaws you'll be happier (if you can that is)..

so to summarize.. girls can be the best and worst things in your life.. and guys can be that way too.. for every guy that complaisn about a girl there's a girl doing the same about a guy..

what's my point? i need to find a nice gf.. what? no i really didn't have a point.. carry on

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

You really believe we ATOT men have that high demands? Most of us don't even have 'breathing' on their list of what they seek in a woman.

 

[Brutuskend]

i.e. In ATOT, if a girl introduces the forum to her boyfriend by pictures and info, there's generally support (even though I can't recall an incident where this has happened). If a guy introduces his girlfriend to the forum by pictures and info, one of two things happen. One, she's attractive and gets tons of "GOOD JOB! MORE PICS?" replies. Two, she's not that attractive and gets zero or even negative feedback.

*shrugs* That appears to be the trend from what I've personally witnessed, but I'm sure there are always exceptions to the rule...

I'll give you that.

Men are pigs, (Including me) for the most part. But it's the result of our upbringing and interactions with other males.
Men and women are taught to think and behave differently from a young age.
And our brains ARE wired differently.
That doesn't make our behavior RIGHT. But it's hard to throw off generations of imprinting.
As bad as we can be sometimes, I think if you look back in history, we ARE improving, slow as it may seem at times. And given enough time and a gentle nudge from time to time from a caring woman some of us can be "housetrained".

 

[crumpet19]

I'm really gald you put the word SOME in your title. Otherwise I was going to have to go 'Way of the Gun' on your ass.

 

[rocadelpunk]

hey, i love women, i just don't like women drivers : ). we're not all perfect though, so i understand : P

 

[sygyzy]

When was the last time you went into a corner store to buy a Coke and the guy behind the counter told you to give him a smile?

Must be missing something here but what exactly was the problem here?

 

[filmmaker]

Originally posted by: AstIsis

Originally posted by: Xionide
Civilry is dead, And women killed it - Dave Chappelle

-Xionide

Hard core Feminists killed it..not me. I love having doors opened for me.

That's not chivalry, just common courtesy.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Dezign
Heh. I know (hope?) most of the comments from guys on ATOT aren't spoken in all seriousness or sincerity, but they must come from somewhere/have some element of truth to them.

Probably because most ATOTers have yet to see a real life naked woman, let alone have her consent.

Personally, I think the guys I've met from ATOT are of a higher caliber than men I've met elsewhere... not sure what that indicates, but I won't overanalyze it.

ATOT is higher calibre? :Q
That indicates doom and despair for the human race if such is truly the case.

- M4H

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: filmmaker

Originally posted by: AstIsis

Originally posted by: Xionide
Civilry is dead, And women killed it - Dave Chappelle

-Xionide

Hard core Feminists killed it..not me. I love having doors opened for me.

That's not chivalry, just common courtesy.

That is the basis for chivalry

 

[Rapidskies]

Please...just as many lame women as there are lame guys out there. And you are using this forum as a barometer? The average guy on this forum is probably age 18.

 

[dquan97]

Originally posted by: Rilescat
ya, so?

Those are healthy expectations, right?

 

[TheNinja]

*cough*..flamebait..*cough*

 

[yukichigai]

Originally posted by: Whade
Please...just as many lame women as there are lame guys out there. And you are using this forum as a barometer? The average guy on this forum is probably age 18.

It's 20, and shut up!

 

[filmmaker]

^

Double post

 

[filmmaker]

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[Stark]

mating in the 21st century sure ain't easy.

I think every woman I ever dated fell into at least a few of those categories...

the one that fits the key ones (depending on personal preference) is the one you marry. Worked for me.

 

[Xionide]

Originally posted by: amnesiac

Originally posted by: werk

Originally posted by: Xionide
Civilry is dead, And women killed it - Dave Chappelle

-Xionide

Civilry is dead because it was never a word to begin with.

PWNED.

Xionide, it's CHIVALRY you goof.

Stop being such a damn.....

-Xionide

 

[schizoid]

Whatever...

Personally, I'm getting tired of hearing stuff like this. Let me state a few things:

1. As an adult, I am entitled to having a preference. Why did you buy that car? cuz it's the one you LIKE. Those shoes? Cuz they look good on you. That graphics accelerator? Cuz it's the best one you could find. See? Are you an adult? Do you pay your own taxes? WOO HOO! YOU'RE AN AMERICAN, SO YOU GET A PREFERENCE! We even can pick our own cable companies and shiz these days! Great country, eh?

1. I will NOT appologize for my preference with regards to women. Are you overweight? Too freakin' bad. You don't hear the Toyota Camry bitching and complaining because you went with the 350Z, do you? So, you're fat. That means you're either going to be bitter ("well, good luck finding someone who fits that impossible description"), angry ("I don't give a fsck about your opinion anyway") or, on occasion (RARE!) mature ("so I guess you don't like fat chicks. Well, I don't like fat guys. Seems fair enough") Women spend so much time bitching about how unfair it is that guys don't like fat (ugly/pimply/whatever) chicks...they should realize that every second of every day, you (yes YOU) do something that is based soley on what the heck you WANT to do (i.e. PREFERENCE!) So spend less time bitching, and more time either working out, or trying to find a guy without those preferences (A-HA! THOSE guys, the ones without that preference, don't fit YOUR preferences, do they? Oops. Sorry hon, thanks for playing)

1. I have a hard time finding quality girls. I am, at least for this board, the exception. I meet tons of girls. I "get with" quite a few. I even have the occasional meaningful relationship, but when it comes down to it, the older I get (I never knew there'd be such a difference between 18 and 25!!!) the harder it is to find someone to be my "equal" (how many good-looking 6'4" athletic chicks do you know that are getting their PhD in a science? Well, I don't know so many of those....) I just think it's stupid when girls bitch about guys being picky. I mean, the reality is, one of three things will happen: 1). The guy will picky himself to old age and be single and miserable. Why should that concern you? Who cares? 2). The guy's pickiness will slowly, and likely unconsciously, evaporate, and eventually he'll "settle" (and likely be happy, but relative to what he wanted before, he's settling) for something. Again, why should you care? The guy's happy. He found someone. Be happy for him! or 3). He'll actually meet someone that meets his standards. Not to be redundant, but AGAIN, WHY SHOULD YOU CARE? He got lucky, and is happy with whatever it was he wanted. MOVE ON!

Ick. Sorry about writing so much, but as "the top of the male food chain" (and flame away if you want, doesn't change a thing) I see NO problem with looking for the same in a female.


PS: Guys...trust me on this one: hot chicks? Easy to score. Hot, cool chicks? A lot harder to find.

 

[thawolfman]

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: schizoid
Whatever...

Personally, I'm getting tired of hearing stuff like this. Let me state a few things:

1. As an adult, I am entitled to having a preference. Why did you buy that car? cuz it's the one you LIKE. Those shoes? Cuz they look good on you. That graphics accelerator? Cuz it's the best one you could find. See? Are you an adult? Do you pay your own taxes? WOO HOO! YOU'RE AN AMERICAN, SO YOU GET A PREFERENCE! We even can pick our own cable companies and shiz these days! Great country, eh?

1. I will NOT appologize for my preference with regards to women. Are you overweight? Too freakin' bad. You don't hear the Toyota Camry bitching and complaining because you went with the 350Z, do you? So, you're fat. That means you're either going to be bitter ("well, good luck finding someone who fits that impossible description"), angry ("I don't give a fsck about your opinion anyway") or, on occasion (RARE!) mature ("so I guess you don't like fat chicks. Well, I don't like fat guys. Seems fair enough") Women spend so much time bitching about how unfair it is that guys don't like fat (ugly/pimply/whatever) chicks...they should realize that every second of every day, you (yes YOU) do something that is based soley on what the heck you WANT to do (i.e. PREFERENCE!) So spend less time bitching, and more time either working out, or trying to find a guy without those preferences (A-HA! THOSE guys, the ones without that preference, don't fit YOUR preferences, do they? Oops. Sorry hon, thanks for playing)

1. I have a hard time finding quality girls. I am, at least for this board, the exception. I meet tons of girls. I "get with" quite a few. I even have the occasional meaningful relationship, but when it comes down to it, the older I get (I never knew there'd be such a difference between 18 and 25!!!) the harder it is to find someone to be my "equal" (how many good-looking 6'4" athletic chicks do you know that are getting their PhD in a science? Well, I don't know so many of those....) I just think it's stupid when girls bitch about guys being picky. I mean, the reality is, one of three things will happen: 1). The guy will picky himself to old age and be single and miserable. Why should that concern you? Who cares? 2). The guy's pickiness will slowly, and likely unconsciously, evaporate, and eventually he'll "settle" (and likely be happy, but relative to what he wanted before, he's settling) for something. Again, why should you care? The guy's happy. He found someone. Be happy for him! or 3). He'll actually meet someone that meets his standards. Not to be redundant, but AGAIN, WHY SHOULD YOU CARE? He got lucky, and is happy with whatever it was he wanted. MOVE ON!

Ick. Sorry about writing so much, but as "the top of the male food chain" (and flame away if you want, doesn't change a thing) I see NO problem with looking for the same in a female.


PS: Guys...trust me on this one: hot chicks? Easy to score. Hot, cool chicks? A lot harder to find.

Point taken.

But I have never, and will never, compare a man (or a woman, or another person) to a car.

*shrugs* But that's just me.

 

[yukichigai]

Originally posted by: Dezign
Point taken.

But I have never, and will never, compare a man (or a woman, or another person) to a car.

*shrugs* But that's just me.

I dunno, I've met many a woman who could be compared to a car. You know, 'bout 5 feet tall, 4 feet wide, weigh 500 pounds....

 

[SarcasticDwarf]

I think the smart guys here are the ones that don't respons




DOH