Why Is Punctuality So Ambiguous For Women?

[BudAshes]

This is so the opposite for me it is hilarious, I prefer to be fashionably late and my wife gets anxiety about being late. It takes me 3 minutes to get ready and I'm somehow still always making us late.

 

[destrekor]

Right but there is "on time" to work - where no one is expecting you, and you don't have meetings...

And then there is "on time" to work - where you have an 8:00 sharp meeting that you have a big part in.


I have no problem waking up at 8:30 and waking up my laptop while I grab a coffee during days where I don't have shit to do.

The difference for me - is when ANYONE is depending on me. If someone is depending on me, then I make sure I'm well ahead of schedule and am prepp'd.

:: pulls collar ::

Ahem...uh...yeah! I'm totally...that 'n stuff...

Yeah, see, that's how I see it in my head. Doesn't mean I'll make it at 8am, meeting or not. Source: this guy, often minutes late to the weekly meeting.
My company likes me, save for this, err, trait of mine.

Most people think the Army should have somehow cracked me but nah, I just had way too many close calls with seconds to spare. Punctuated by occasional lapses with the necessary repercussions. [Arriving very early usually draws gasps from the peanut gallery] Granted, my track tended to have a lighter path but still.
Just tantamount to the fact that I've skated by on razer thin ice all my life. And yes I've fallen through repeatedly. After a decade or two of this I figured time is right to address this head-on. It's... illuminating, in a word.

 

[destrekor]

Personally, I don't sweat being 15 minutes "late" to most informal events, although work and "big" events definitely demand being early even if it means waiting in the car. Never had an issue with my wife slowing us down though...

lol picture being 30-60 minutes late to something informal but still relatively in need of punctuality nonetheless.
<---- this guy
I don't like it either

 

[Fritzo]

Yeah, see, that's how I see it in my head. Doesn't mean I'll make it at 8am, meeting or not. Source: this guy, often minutes late to the weekly meeting.
My company likes me, save for this, err, trait of mine.

Most people think the Army should have somehow cracked me but nah, I just had way too many close calls with seconds to spare. Punctuated by occasional lapses with the necessary repercussions. [Arriving very early usually draws gasps from the peanut gallery] Granted, my track tended to have a lighter path but still.
Just tantamount to the fact that I've skated by on razer thin ice all my life. And yes I've fallen through repeatedly. After a decade or two of this I figured time is right to address this head-on. It's... illuminating, in a word.

I'm not sure what it is- I can plan way ahead to be on time, but the universe makes me late. If I leave 30 minutes early, there will always be a road closure/accident/flat tire/etc that will compensate.

Fortunately I work for a place where the boss is the same way The fact we now have meetings over MS Teams and I can be anywhere when they happen has changed my life though...

 

[Midwayman]

I don't know about all women, but my wife seems to always plan based on everything being a best case scenario. So if getting dressed could take 5-30min, she'll always pick 5min to allow for it. That goes in much smaller increments too which tend to add up. Plus she unironically 'hates to wait' so I think she deliberately plans on being last to make others wait instead.