Why is my girlfriend dodging me? - UPDATE #2

[XMan]

For the last couple weeks everytime I've called my GF, whether just to talk or go out, or whatever, she's either been too busy, too tired, or going out with girlfriends. No big deal except for the fact that this includes talking, also.

If she wanted to break up . . . wouldn't she just say so? Why am I getting the cold shoulder?

 

[Daniel]

Maybe a stupid question... but have you actually tried being this straightforward with her?

 

[OpalFrost98GT]

U sure she's going out with GIRLFRIENDS???????
Sounds like she may have found someone else but is not quite sure or she's not ready to completely break up with you.

 

[duke]

Pics?

 

[XMan]

Sure . . . if she'd let me actually talk to her more than a minute or two.

Usually it's like. . .

ME: "Hey, what's up?"

Her: "Nothing, kinda busy."

ME: "I wanna talk to you about something, do you have a few minutes?"

Her: "No, not really, I'll call you back."

Only she never calls back. I'd go over there and pound on her door . . . but I always like to call somebody and make sure it's okay first. I don't like to just drop in.

 

[Viper GTS]

Is this the same girl you were moving in with?

I'm confused.

Showing up might not be a bad idea, if you can't get her attention any other way.

Viper GTS

 

[Nitemare]

Turn around is fair play...next time she wants to know what you are doing...say you were thinking about kicking it with some friends...preferably some that she doesn't like

 

[lawaris]

OMG !!!! not u too !!

Too many such threads like this in the last 2-3 days.

Give her the classic boot man !!!!

Believe me she is just stringing u along now !!!


What u HAD was beautiful while it lasted - keep it the same way ie; don't let it go down in bitterness

 

[jjones]

<<
Usually it's like. . .

ME: "Hey, what's up?"

Her: "Nothing, kinda busy."

ME: "I wanna talk to you about something, do you have a few minutes?"

Her: "No, not really, I'll call you back."

Only she never calls back.
>>


i'm reading between the lines in big bold print. it seems kind of obvious you need to find another gf.

 

[Juniper]

Just go and see her. If you have a clear conscience, then you have nothing to feel bad about. If you think there's anything that you have done that might have pissed her off, apologize. I don't believe in turn around fair play. Relationships are about compromises. Sometimes you gotta give in. When you're past those obstacles, thats when your relationship becomes stronger. Of course, if she still dodges you, let her cool down for a while. Maybe she's having PMS?

 

[Geekbabe]

<-------- looks around feeling guilty cause fade to black has been her MO

been there,done that she either has something HUGE going on in her life that she's not ready to share with you or she's having second thoughts about the relationship but doesn't wish to get into it now as it is holiday time-btw, in a woman's book, nothing is crueler than ending a relationship on your partner's birthday or right near major holidays. If you don't really want to be with the guy anymore you'll cool it enough that he'll notice but not enough to have that heavy,famous final scene just as you are pulling the turkey out of the oven or stuffing the stockings or watching the ball come down in Times square.

 

[jeremy806]

Ignore her for a while.

Easier said then done.

The best approach to take with girls is just to treat them like any other friend. If they are busy, fine, hang out with someone else.

Eventually, you'll have a girlfriend that wants to hang out with you, and you will want to hang out with her.

jeremy806

 

[y2kc]

She's done with you, period. She wants you to figure it out and leave her alone. She probably thinks you'll beg and plead or go through some other changes if she tells you flat out and she doesn't care and or like you enough to be bothered with those changes... Take the hint, move on, find a new chick.

 

[BoberFett]

She's done. Move on. Even if she's not done, dump her and leave her feeling miserable being the one who was dumped. If she doesn't feel you deserve an explanation for her behavior, then she isn't worth keeping.

Women don't understand how to be forthright. They hint at everything and expect you to pick up on even the most subtle (or non-existant) clues. I'm slowly starting to realize that wanting a real relationship is an exercise in futility. Fsck em and leave em.

If I ever meet a woman who understands how and why to be straightforward, I'll marry her.

Chris <---forever single

 

[AmazonRasta]

<< Why am I getting the cold shoulder? >>



Because I gave her a taste of what I have to offer - and she's not sure of how to dump you to be with me .

Just kidding man. I hope you get everything sorted out.

 

[bootymac]

this reminds me of what happened not long ago.

During the summer, this girl and I were really good friends, almost a couple. She hated some guy that was ok wiht me, but she kept bitching about him non stop! Then during mid september, she started acting like a bitch to everyone and dressed like a slut. I was like, WTF! After school, she called and said: "soo....anything you notice in school today?" I was like, WTF! (de ja vu ) I just said "hey, kinda busy, call you back" After a week or so, she stopped calling. She got the point

THEN THE NEXT DAY SHE STARTS HANGING OUT WITH THE GUY SHE BITCHED ABOUT!!

I dunno if thats to make me jealous or something, but I sure got a kick out of it! So I said to myself, fvck her, she's a retard! Besides, there's a lot more girls in the wonderful world of highschool

 

[Wik]

I know you do not want to believe this, but everyone here is right. Move on. If you don't it will only hurt more. Call her up and tell her it is over.

 

Another man, expect that to come up very soon.

 

[Gonad the Barbarian]

Sounds like it's time for a preemptive dump. It's coming so intercept it and turn it around on her ass. If she tries to argue out of it maybe she really is still interested. If she doesn't at least you are breaking up on your terms instead of hers. You come out better either way than by waiting around for her.

 

[XMan]

I guess ten or more people with the same opinion can't be wrong.

 

[Mister T]

doesnt sound good man...

so you have not spent time with her over the past couple weeks?
She obviously does not care to make the time for you, so why should you....
move on....

I guess its easier said than done

hang in there man

 

[vi edit]

She's stuck you in the bull pen. You're there hoping that you'll get some play time, only you're behind that fence and can't see what's going on in the game.

She'll pull you out when all other options have been exhausted.

In the wise words of Russ, Run Far, Run fast, just run.

 

[StageLeft]

Yeah I can't see a serious girlfriend who sees you guys together for a long time giving you the cold shoulder for two weeks. It really stinks of a breakup in the near future and she's probably too scared to do anything about it so she's putting it off.

 

[AreaCode707]

Talk to her about it, in person. Don't assume she's dumping you until you talk to her because maybe there's something else going on and then the relationship's shot because a bunch of ATOT folks gave you advice based on some pretty inconclusive evidence.

 

[Noriaki]

<< I guess ten or more people with the same opinion can't be wrong. >>

Sorry man, I gotta throw one more on that column to.

She doesn't want you anymore, but she's just holding your rope a bit for one of two reasons:
1) She's too gutless to break it off, and hopes you will. Women that say what they actually think are few and far between.

or 2) She is looking at her other optioins and trying to keep you in the wings in case they don't work out, so she doesn't end up alone.