Why is it when a guy gets cheated on by his S.O....

[PingSpike]

Whats the point? The random guy she cheated on you with may not even know she was involved, and even if he did...who cares...he's not the one who wronged you so badly, he's just some random ass.

My theory is, its not socially acceptable to punch out your girlfriend so you find the one male you can sort of blame for her actions and try to punch him out instead.

I think I'd just burn all her sh|t and change the locks instead.

Thoughts?

 

[nycxandy]

Agree 100%.

 

[eigen]

Cause We are Primates.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

My first reaction is "Kick her to the curb" unless the guy she cheated on you with was a close friend.

In that case, kick her to the curb, then kick your ex-pal into the curb.

- M4H

 

[Turkish]

Cause I'm a man.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Agreed.

Likewise, if a guy cheats on a girl, the girl's reaction should not be to get mad at "the other girl", but to drop her POS boyfriend. Too often, I've seen cases where the cheated-on-female blamed "the other woman", when in actuality it is her hubby who is the one she should blame.

Of course, if the other person KNEW the person they were seeing/screwing was attached, that would make them a sh!thead as well... but the person cheating in the relationship is ALWAYS to blame, not so much the person they are cheating with.

 

[her209]

Case 1: Guy didn't know.
Case 2: Guy knew, didn't care.

 

[meltdown75]

I agree with you too, but it's nice to have a face to bash in those situations.

I know I know, I talk a mean intraweb fight... hehehe

You're probably bang-on when you say that about it not being socially acceptable to bash in the SO's face. But some dudes can't help being mad at the guy too. This works both ways btw... ie. Jerry Springer show.

 

[Ryan]

Because the guy views his SO as property, and the other guy as the perpetrator trying to take it. Simple as that.

 

[Phoenix86]

Who else you going to send to dental surgeon?

 

[TravisT]

It depends really. I would certainly want to know if the guy my SO cheated with knew that she was dating someone else. Personally, I think dating or going with someone who you know is in another relationship or married is wrong and that is the ultimate disrespect you can give another man.

That is why I would not only be pissed at my SO, I feel the guy involved, if he knows about me, deserves whatever he gets and whatever that might be, isn't good enough for him.

 

[rh71]

Thoughts ? I think you should stop mowing other people's lawns and you won't have to worry about this any longer.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
I agree with you too, but it's nice to have a face to bash in those situations.

I know I know, I talk a mean intraweb fight... hehehe

You're probably bang-on when you say that about it not being socially acceptable to bash in the SO's face. But some dudes can't help being mad at the guy too. This works both ways btw... ie. Jerry Springer show.

Oh yeah, I'm not above that base gorilla territorality that makes you want to kill the other guy for getting on 'your turf' but I've never really been one to let my emotions get the better of my rational thought.

A possible, but probably uncommon scenario: You've been good to the girl, but you didn't really let her push you around as much as she'd like. She goes to a club and talks up some guy about how you're such a sh|t and treat her like crap all the time...maybe embellising a few of the bad points you've had in your relationship, maybe flat out making crap up...but never mentioning all the good and of course its an unfair representation of you at any rate. Then this well meaning (but naive, stay away from taken women...they're trouble to get and ain't worth getting once you got them) fellow then sees himself not as the girlfriend stealing douchebag you see him as, but as the hero saving some girl from her jerk boyfriend. He's probably thinking with his schlong too, as we're all occasionally prone to doing, so he probably talks himself into believing her.

Then you both get into an ugly brawl...over what? A piece of trash lying ho-bag. Let him have her I say, if she did it to you...he'll most likely be seeing the sh|t side of that equation in a little while anyway. And she's clearly not worth fighting over, hell...some women get off on having guys fight over her.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: rh71
Thoughts ? I think you should stop mowing other people's lawns and you won't have to worry about this any longer.

You've been watching to much desperate housewives.

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: PingSpike


My theory is, its not socially acceptable to punch out your girlfriend so you find the one male you can sort of blame for her actions and try to punch him out instead.


Thoughts?

I say it's human instinct to try to destroy what's hurting you. If the random guy knew your gf was attached but moved in on her anyway, he was intentionally hurting you.

If you do something to someone that you know will bring pain to them, expect them to bring the pain to you.

If the other guy didn't know, then I couldn't blame him

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: TravisT
It depends really. I would certainly want to know if the guy my SO cheated with knew that she was dating someone else. Personally, I think dating or going with someone who you know is in another relationship or married is wrong and that is the ultimate disrespect you can give another man.

That is why I would not only be pissed at my SO, I feel the guy involved, if he knows about me, deserves whatever he gets and whatever that might be, isn't good enough for him.

Certainly a valid point. But what exactly is the point of beating the crap out of him...yeah, it'll make you feel better for 10 seconds but whats it going to accomplish? There will always be a plethora of horn dogs trying to do your girlfriend. And you can't punch them all out. If that woman doesn't want to be faithful to you...what the hell is the point in fighting over her for?

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: PingSpike


My theory is, its not socially acceptable to punch out your girlfriend so you find the one male you can sort of blame for her actions and try to punch him out instead.


Thoughts?

I say it's human instinct to try to destroy what's hurting you. If the random guy knew your gf was attached but moved in on her anyway, he was intentionally hurting you.

If you do something to someone that you know will bring pain to them, expect them to bring the pain to you.

If the other guy didn't know, then I couldn't blame him

By that logic you should murder your girlfriend in this instance. Or at least beat her up.

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: PingSpike


My theory is, its not socially acceptable to punch out your girlfriend so you find the one male you can sort of blame for her actions and try to punch him out instead.


Thoughts?

I say it's human instinct to try to destroy what's hurting you. If the random guy knew your gf was attached but moved in on her anyway, he was intentionally hurting you.

If you do something to someone that you know will bring pain to them, expect them to bring the pain to you.

If the other guy didn't know, then I couldn't blame him

By that logic you should murder your girlfriend in this instance. Or at least beat her up.

But human instinct is not governed by logic - it's dictated by emotion and illogic.

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

By that logic you should murder your girlfriend in this instance. Or at least beat her up.

Yeah, they'll find the duffle bag eventually.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: rbloedow

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: PingSpike


My theory is, its not socially acceptable to punch out your girlfriend so you find the one male you can sort of blame for her actions and try to punch him out instead.


Thoughts?

I say it's human instinct to try to destroy what's hurting you. If the random guy knew your gf was attached but moved in on her anyway, he was intentionally hurting you.

If you do something to someone that you know will bring pain to them, expect them to bring the pain to you.

If the other guy didn't know, then I couldn't blame him

By that logic you should murder your girlfriend in this instance. Or at least beat her up.

But human instinct is not governed by logic - it's dictated by emotion and illogic.

Precisely. But humans have the capacity for more than basic instinct. While I realize in this situation it is of course difficult to subvert instinct...it is still in one's best interest to do so.

 

[TheLonelyPhoenix]

I was in a situation similar to this. My first girlfriend cheated on me with some random guy I hardly knew. I knew that she was entirely to blame, and the fact she cheated on me shows what kind of character she really had; the guy was arbitrary, if she was willing to cheat on me, if would have happened sooner or later.

That said, I still get pissed thinking about it, and if I ever meet that guy again, I imagine its going to take a lot of effort not to break his nose wide-open on the spot. And this was over 3 years ago. Not entirely sure why I feel like that... I guess I just blame him for being the immediate cause behind it, even if it really had more to do with her.

 

[Colt45]

shoot 'em both grady.

*shot* *gun cock* *shot*

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: rbloedow
Because the guy views his SO as property, and the other guy as the perpetrator trying to take it. Simple as that.

agreed. its an intrusion of territory.

i wouldnt be concerned with the guy unless it was an affair or a "friend". then, it would be an intrusion of territory and a breach of trust.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Whats the point? The random guy she cheated on you with may not even know she was involved, and even if he did...who cares...he's not the one who wronged you so badly, he's just some random ass.

My theory is, its not socially acceptable to punch out your girlfriend so you find the one male you can sort of blame for her actions and try to punch him out instead.

I think I'd just burn all her sh|t and change the locks instead.

Thoughts?

dude, you speak of punching out chicks a lot. i think you have a desire to do this.

 

[TravisT]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: TravisT
It depends really. I would certainly want to know if the guy my SO cheated with knew that she was dating someone else. Personally, I think dating or going with someone who you know is in another relationship or married is wrong and that is the ultimate disrespect you can give another man.

That is why I would not only be pissed at my SO, I feel the guy involved, if he knows about me, deserves whatever he gets and whatever that might be, isn't good enough for him.

Certainly a valid point. But what exactly is the point of beating the crap out of him...yeah, it'll make you feel better for 10 seconds but whats it going to accomplish? There will always be a plethora of horn dogs trying to do your girlfriend. And you can't punch them all out. If that woman doesn't want to be faithful to you...what the hell is the point in fighting over her for?

I see your point. I don't necessarily feel as though I would be fighting "for" her. I look at it more as though you should always take up for yourself and the moral values that you stand for as well as others. I think this fits in that category. You know if you just walk away from a guy like that he is going to go do it to someone else.

My uncle was friends with a guy who got a kick out of doing these kinds of things. He would go into another mans house and sleep with his wife and thought it was great and that he would never get caught or that anyone would do anything about it. It came around that they found out he was missing for about a while, about a week later they found him with his gentilia cut off and burned alive. Apparently he was caught by some guy who wouldn't stand for such a thing.

And you know what? I feel like the world is better off without men like that. I don't think a bloody nose or a black eye is going to get a guy to stop those kinds of actions. But, death or a near death experience might. I personally am not going to fight anyone and go to jail over something I don't feel strongly about or strongly enough about that I'm not willing to kill someone over. That is just the way I am. If I'm going to fight, I might as well fight hard enough that one of us is going to the hospital or dead. And yes, I feel that strongly about this if I ever caught someone sleeping with my wife in my own bed that I would like to think that i'd have the balls to defend what I believe in.