Manual connects the driver to the road better, literally. Manual gives direct mechanical linkage from the engine without slip or loss. Automatics use loose fluid coupling via a torque converter to connect the engine and drive line together and divert some of the power for operating high pressure hydraulic pumps inside the transmission, etc. On a low power engine, say 150HP and less, an automatic is typically taxing on an engine already running up hill with 4 people and a trunk of food while running an AC compressor, power steering pump, water pump, loaded alternator with lights on and radio blasting, etc.
Manuals typically offer better mileage, more efficiency, less complexity, less weight, less maintenance. The trade off of course is they are no fun to drive in rush hour.
There are a few reasons autos are used for racing, more specifically drag racing.
One, it's not because they can handle more power, but rather the loose fluid coupling of a torque converter absorbs and smoothes spikes in drive train shock better. With a manual everything is connected and locked together mechanically with nothing slipping and the only shock absorption is provided by slipping the one clutch yourself or letting the tires light up. However when you are in a car with 700+ HP to the wheels and you dump the clutch with sticky tires you stress the hell out of the entire drive train from the crankshaft to the axles as the momentum of the engine suddenly has to move a 4000lb car from a dead stop. Eventually even the strongest drive line components are going to break if either the tires or the clutch don't slip. An automatic, via a fluid coupled torque converter and numerous clutch packs, absorbs these types of power spikes better. The auto smoothes drive line shock and assures that the power is applied from the engine to the wheels smoothly and continuously over fractions of a second (i.e.: the delays associated with automatics) during surges in engine power. This simply allows the rest of the car, and the transmission itself, to accept more power without fear of breaking anything, but it leads to the misconception that the auto itself is inherently more capable of handling that power. Given an auto and a manual built with the same shaft and gear materials, same axles, etc., you are least likely to break something with an auto than the manual even though they are both made for the same power level, so when someone snaps their input shaft on their manual, the appearance is that the auto can handle more power.
Messing up a shift and grinding gears in a civic is just embarrassing, but when you do that with some real horsepower, you start cracking gears, breaking teeth off, etc.
The other reason is that automatics are more consistent, and in the most common form of street drag bracket racing, the slower car wins if it?s more consistent, it doesn?t matter how fast the other car is. This type of racing places the emphasis of the race on the skill of the driver (ie: you're racing only yourself) and not ones capacity to throw endless money at more and more horsepower, etc. Automatics eliminate shift errors and make it easier to launch the car more consistently from a stop without spinning the tires or holding revs with the clutch pressed. Just hold the brake down and floor it, and let the torque converter handle the rest.
Either manual or auto can be built to handle 1000+ HP, but typically a factory manual like the Cobra/Z06/Viper T-56 with no special attention can handle more than any factory auto right out of the box. Autos require special attention (i.e.: a purposely "built" race transmission) to attain the power capacity of any old manual clunk box, simply because manuals are little more than some big clunky gears and 3 meaty shafts. Autos have thousands of delicate tiny moving parts, hydraulic systems, clutch packs, etc.
I drive a 2003 Cobra with a 6spd manual with 700 HP to the wheels. In normal driving I can shift about as fast as an auto with a shift kit (ie: passenger would feel an immediate thump in the seat and change in engine speed without any lag or perceived shift time) It has a very stiff clutch pedal and is very tiring to drive in bumper to bumper stop and go traffic for more than 30 seconds? but I wouldn?t have it any other way in *that* particular car. In my case a manual or auto is going to light the tires and knock the wind out of you, but there is a certain fun factor to driving a manual with ass loads of bottom end torque.
The woman has a ?06 Avalon with an automatic, and while it?s more relaxing to run errands or just go out for dinner or something in busy traffic, there are times where I want/need to floor it and the computerized automatic lugs in a high gear for too long or doesn?t down shift enough sometimes and you have to rock the throttle a little bit for it to get a clue. Or if you just floor it after cruising for a while, it will downshift, allow the tach to gain maybe 1000 RPM then the transmission immediately and prematurely shifts back into the gear you just came from and goes back to cruise mode before you've experienced much acceleration. Or sometimes stepping on it will achieve little more than free revving the engine for a few seconds before it upshifts again, basically achieving nothing. Ease out and try again or coast for a second or two before trying again? Hmm. Even in 'manual' mode where you can bump the stick yourself to upshift or downshift, the computer will overide and shift anyway if you lug the car in high gears or rev to long in low gears. Obviously you don?t have that problem with a manual, you just toe the clutch with your left foot, grab the shifter and yank it hard toward your right knee, release your left toe, and let it rip. Doesn?t mean I want a manual in the Avalon, that would suck. But what I describe are situations typical of any automatic so you get the idea of why people cite ?lack of control? regarding automatics, because it does get annoying at times.
You can drive manual without thinking about it with enough experience. Theoretically that should *always* be a given with an automatic, even for a new driver. But when you find yourself in one of the above situations with an automatic, you get derailed for a second and find yourself thinking about something you normally dont give a second thought to. It isn't doing what you expect, and in an automatic, you are unable to do anything about it.
Oh yeah, you can also push start a manual =D Torque converters only transfer power in one direction.