Why get Married?

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: dethman

Originally posted by: Shadowknight
No - See 40 Year Old Virgin.

To be honest, I don't care one way or the other. I'm 27, and happy being with myself, and being with my cats. I'm not interested in sex period. Not a religous thing, it just doesn't interest me.

Where was that article about asexual people. some BBC or CNN article I think (can't remember)...but there's sizable portiona of them population simply NOT interested in sex.

If that's the case for you, then I would also wssume there some sort of attachment issues to go along. If you can't "attach" yourself to a person, per say, then I just don't know how you could understanf the motivations behind marraige. Love has eveything to do with it......but have you ever, truely, loved anyone? To the sens that the thought of being without that person makes you feel.....not whole.

 

[Ferocious]

Yeah I was with my wife for more than eight years before we married.

No real difference at all...except for medical insurance coverage.

 

[IGBT]

..like any investment you have to ask your self if you can afford the down side.

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: mrrman
being catholic...my friends have spent $50K on weddings...not saying religion has anything to do it but you can spend as much as you can afford or go way overboard...when I was married I spent $10K on everything including the honeymoon..

Remind me not to become catholic.

 

[dawnbug]

Originally posted by: Ferocious
Yeah I was with my wife for more than eight years before we married.

No real difference at all...except for medical insurance coverage.

And the tax break!

 

[OS]

because your mom can't take care of you forever

 

[Ciber]

We get married because women force us to!

DUH!

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: dethman

Originally posted by: Shadowknight
No - See 40 Year Old Virgin.

To be honest, I don't care one way or the other. I'm 27, and happy being with myself, and being with my cats. I'm not interested in sex period. Not a religous thing, it just doesn't interest me.

No need to be confused. Obviously he has pussy crawling all over him.

But seriously... Just as a side question for OP. Have you ever masturbated? Ever had an orgasm? If Yes... Why no desire to have one with someone else?

 

[everman]

Originally posted by: bjc112

I've never even gone out on a date

/end thread

Just become a monk.

 

[Vic]

Excellent question. My GF and I have been living together for 7 years now without marrying. There's no common law marriage in my state and, quite frankly, I can see no reason why young couples waste their precious starting capital on such things. We see no real differences by not being married, legally or socially.

 

[glugglug]

Women's reason:

Originally posted by: Nitemare
So she can legally take half yo sh!t and make you pay her a monthly stipend when she leaves you

Men's reason:
The women will leave if they don't agree to the above.

Mutual reasons:
Insurance discounts, tax break especially if income is lopsided. More than likely qualify for better mortgate rate as well.

 

[Vic]

Originally posted by: glugglug
Women's reason:

Originally posted by: Nitemare
So she can legally take half yo sh!t and make you pay her a monthly stipend when she leaves you

Men's reason:
The women will leave if they don't agree to the above.

Mutual reasons:
Insurance discounts, tax break especially if income is lopsided. More than likely qualify for better mortgate rate as well.

No. Text

Discrimination in mortgage lending is prohibited by the federal Fair Housing Act and HUD's Office of Fair Housing and Equal Opportunity actively enforces those provisions of the law. The Fair Housing Act makes it unlawful to engage in the following practices based on race, color, national origin, religion, sex, familial status or handicap (disability):

* Refuse to make a mortgage loan
* Refuse to provide information regarding loans
* Impose different terms or conditions on a loan, such as different interest rates, points, or fees
* Discriminate in appraising property
* Refuse to purchase a loan or set different terms or conditions for purchasing a loan

 

[glugglug]

If there is only a single income, it won't make a difference. However, the combined income as a couple will qualify for better than either individual.

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Two incomes will allow you a bigger mortgage than a single income... but the rate is the rate.

Besides... OP's question isn't about tax breaks and better insurance. If you're 27 and you've never even been on a date, there is something else going on. I have my suspicions but I'm not sure I should just blurt them out. To put it discretely... I think somehting happened 20 years ago..............................................................

 

[DVad3r]

There are many reasons people get married. To those that do it for social reasons like combined income etc...that's pretty sad. But mainly it's because humans are pack animals and need to be bonded to someone. Also people want to have children so their blood lives on. You can have all the money in the world etc...but once you hit 40/50 and your still without a wife and family, you might feel empty and get depressed. Oh sure you will try to deny it, most people do that I know, but they know down deep inside.

 

[Vic]

Married or unmarried, a couple qualifies the same. They might be two income or single income, they might be gay or straight, but they qualify based on actual loan qualifications, not their marital status. Violating Fair Lending/Equal Housing is a BIG no-no.

 

[Shadowknight]

To respond to a few comments;
Yankeesfan: No, this is not a joke
Rogue: I don't really play RPGs. I played twice in college, one group I dropped out of, the other I hated but only stayed in to hang out with a friend. I tried another one locally, but some of the people took it WAY too seriously. So, it's really not my thing.
Whoozyerdaddy: Actually I DO have pussy all over me in the morning; my cat (Katrina) comes to make me up at 6:30 every morning and forces me to do heavy petting She really loves attention in the moning for some reason. I have orgasmed (wet dreams), really didn't do much for me. Also, NOTHING happened to me 20yrs ago. I was ostracized as a chile and treated badly through high school, which made me anxious and needy for some reason, but I (eventually) got over it thanks to some medication last year.

 

[Yossarian]

let me consult with skywalker66 and get back to you. out.

 

[Shadowknight]

?

Anyway, this isn't about my personal life, just the whole point of being married, not being in a relationship

 

[Gillbot]

Originally posted by: bjc112

I've never even gone out on a date

/end thread

 

[anno]

it's about love and committment. about sticking together, working things out, it's a slap in the face of our disposable society.

for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness, and in health. it doesn't really matter how you're married.. in lavish excess, before a justice of the peace, naked before the rising sun.. whatever best suits your means, reflects your philosophys, it's about committment. adapting, achieving, adjusting, annoying, amusing, accomodating, appreciating, accepting, antagonizing, appeasing, adoring. together. it's a lot more about affection and committment than it is about passion.

don't get married for passion.. it waxes and wanes. but don't get married without it.

it's about love and committment. people can't be together all the time without getting annoyed or angry at each other once in a while because.. people are different and sometimes other emotions overwhelm that foundation of love and without the formal committment it might be easy to walk away. heck.. plenty of people find it easy to walk away anyway. but I do think the promise adds strength to the relationship.. for people who take their promises seriously, and have taken the time to be sure they're willing to do so, before they make them.

I don't know if I answered your question, and I know my answers aren't for everyone but they work for me. we're gonna celebrate our 26th anniversary next month.


anno

 

[SilentZero]

Maybe you caught teh gay at one of those RP groups???

If not, I call shens.

 

[orion23]

I believe that weddings are just for the bride to get a lot of attention.
Women are usually attention "girls" and this is their glory day.
I also feel that most men would like to make their women happy, very happy. So she will get anything she wants on that day, no matter how expensive or out there it may be.

I personally couldn't care less about the "ceremony, ritual, marriage" but if it is very important to her, I'll just do it!

 

[iamtrout]

The people who have no wish to be with someone have something not many people have; the ability to feel whole by themselves. Now that is independence.

 

[moshquerade]

<--- not a fan of marriage