Why doesn't my gf's dad like me? :S

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: Jfrag Teh Foul
Two reasons...

1. You are boinking his daughter. (STFU until you have a daughter your girlfriend's age... then claim that you will look at it differently... you have no grounds to stand on other than self-righteous youth on your side right now)

2. Fathers of girls tend to use this tactic to make you do just what you are doing right now... making you think about how to approach him. He wants you to respect not only his daughter, but him too.

It sucks for now, but as time progresses you will find out a lot from him. Hell, you will probably end up actually being friends with the guy.

Yay a normal response with good advice. I really hope we do get along in the end run, I asked her how long it would take for her dad to accept me and she said about a year, looking at the way things are she's probably right.

As for these suggestions of waiting for her to go to college, waiting a semester, etc...what is the reasoning behind this? From what your saying, it's bad to be dating someone that's "undamaged" or not "experienced", in some of your opinions she should go to college, have multiple boyfriends, play head games, figure out her status level, then go and date someone that applies to her, because she has "found" herself. Your generalizing the age of 17 as an age where people don't know what they are doing. Im 21 and I don't know what I am doing. Sure I go to college, but do I really know what I want in life? No. I find a lot of the responses in this thread follow a trend based on social norms and developmental paths.

gigapet

You have now been identified as an idiot by 2 people. I also showed my gf your thread responses, she laughed hysterically and said you really must be hurting. If you want to respond, please do so, Ill give her the link, better yet, Ill tell her to register here and post, so you guys can discuss our relationship. Maybe you can give her some of those awesome tips and skills you learned from trail and error when you were still datable.

 

[Yoshi911]

Originally posted by: DVad3r

Originally posted by: bradruth
He doesn't like you because you're putting the wood to his little girl.

Ya but, eventually someone will put the wood to his little girl. He must get over this.

Not so, most guys do.. but that's what seperates the "jerkoffs" from the keepers. I'm only 22 and been married for 3 years as of April 26th, so I still remember how it was with my wife and her dad (uncomfortable) but I have a little girl allready, olmost 10months now. and unless the gentleman plans on his first sexual incounter with her as her husband than I've got 40acres and a shotgun to let him know how its going to be. And thats a PERIOD behind it. Just because thats the way the world thinks does not make it, OK.

If he was a real man he would have talked to you by now but if you truly want his respect than go to him and ask him out to lunch or something and start talking with him and just let him know what your all about.

This is my very experienced and CORRECT assessment

PM me for furthar conversation, I have pleanty of experience in this area lol.

 

[Brutuskend]

Originally posted by: bradruth
He doesn't like you because you're putting the wood to his little girl.

BINGO...Duhhh

 

[Gagan]

Vader comes along as awfully pompous.
I wouldn't be surprised if he thinks he's one of those "preppy" kids who buys those clothes from Henry singer and thinks he's top dogg @ school

Your pompous attitude pours over to thefather, I know because I never did it on purpose like you did and my best friend had to come and iron it out.

Who the hell are you to say what her dad does and say you're better because your "labor is at the gym" I hope he kicks your ass you arrogant kid.l

 

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: Gagan
Vader comes along as awfully pompous.
I wouldn't be surprised if he thinks he's one of those "preppy" kids who buys those clothes from Henry singer and thinks he's top dogg @ school

Your pompous attitude pours over to thefather, I know because I never did it on purpose like you did and my best friend had to come and iron it out.

Who the hell are you to say what her dad does and say you're better because your "labor is at the gym" I hope he kicks your ass you arrogant kid.l

LOL your a funny guy. You making assumptions based on a post in a hardware internet forum. Assumptions should be kept to a minimum especially since you don't know me personally nor do you know anything about my situation. And gtfo with this preppy bullsh1t, I'm a savage beast. I said I was better because I went to the gym? This shows me you have no clue how to read and process information. Be gone assumptionator! And let's say I did have a cocky attitude, which I don't, how would it pour over to the father if he hasn't exhcnaged more then 2 words with me? Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

 

[shoRunner]

page 7, WTF where are the pics...we can't give proper advice without pics!!!

on a side note, i'm great with parents, so you can introduce me to your gf and her parents and i'll take care of everything...maybe you could schedule a trip so i can have some good alone time with her...them

 

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: shoRunner
page 7, WTF where are the pics...we can't give proper advice without pics!!!

on a side note, i'm great with parents, so you can introduce me to your gf and her parents and i'll take care of everything...maybe you could schedule a trip so i can have some good alone time with her...them

Id love to post pics (and I have a lot of good ones too) but seeing how this forum is with bashing a 4 year age gap difference in a thread that's about something else, I will have to pass. You guys are a bunch of savage cyber beasts!

 

[Lalakai]

maybe 20% of this thread is actually useful, and the remaining portions are discussions from people who have no idea of what they're talking about.

Unfortunately we won't be able to watch and laugh, when these kids are in the reverse role of being a parent and having to watch "something" that wants to date his daughter. That parent will have forgotten this thread, and all the noise he made, and will be viewing the situation from a completely different light. He'll be seeing a boy with a completely different attitude on dress, courtesy, manners and politeness. If that parent still has functioning brains cells and memory paths that are still correct, he might remember this thread; then the real learning will be shown.

So if you want to know how to get along with the father, listen to other fathers who are giving you advice. And put this thread in your memory because sooner then you think, the situation will be reversed. Yes i'm a father, with 5 kids, and more then 40 foster kids who have passed through our house. And i am still learning some of the lessons that my dad taught me years ago, because some of those lessons could only be understood after i had gotten enough experience myself.

 

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: Lalakai
maybe 20% of this thread is actually useful, and the remaining portions are discussions from people who have no idea of what they're talking about.

Unfortunately we won't be able to watch and laugh, when these kids are in the reverse role of being a parent and having to watch "something" that wants to date his daughter. That parent will have forgotten this thread, and all the noise he made, and will be viewing the situation from a completely different light. He'll be seeing a boy with a completely different attitude on dress, courtesy, manners and politeness. If that parent still has functioning brains cells and memory paths that are still correct, he might remember this thread; then the real learning will be shown.

So if you want to know how to get along with the father, listen to other fathers who are giving you advice. And put this thread in your memory because sooner then you think, the situation will be reversed. Yes i'm a father, with 5 kids, and more then 40 foster kids who have passed through our house. And i am still learning some of the lessons that my dad taught me years ago, because some of those lessons could only be understood after i had gotten enough experience myself.

QFT, ty.

 

[thecoolnessrune]

This thread has been an eye opener. The OP has already said hes not having sex with her. The constant bashing that he is having sex with her shows the moral stupidity of the vast majority of this forum's members. I can't believe that there are hardly any men here that are with a woman for relationship and love ahead of lust and sex. And the 4 year gap doesn't seem to be a terribly large problem.

I homeschool and live in the countryside. I don't have any friends or nothing like that. I talk to people around my age (I'm 16) on IMs and the sheer STUPIDITY! Their morals are disgusting and their idiocracies are in the millions. If the 17 year old daughter is thinking in the same line of thought as the rest of the morons her age, she doesn't stand a chance. I think shes actually lucky to find a man that doesn't just want to "bone" her. This is plain rediciulous. OP, be a gentleman to the father and to your girl. It's the best anyone can expect.

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: DVad3r
Id love to post pics (and I have a lot of good ones too) but seeing how this forum is with bashing a 4 year age gap difference in a thread that's about something else, I will have to pass. You guys are a bunch of savage cyber beasts!

The issue is not a "4 year age difference", the issue is 17 and 21. No one would give you a second glance if it was 27 and 31.

 

[Yoshi911]

Well said.

 

[Jules]

Taking advice on the internet forums . LOL.

 

[JDrake]

LOL at the AT philosophers
double date w/ parents = worst freegin idea ever

 

[her209]

Boink his wife...

 

[ijester]

Just play it cool, eventually the father will figure out:

A. Do you have character?
B. Do you have integrity?
C. Do you have a real work ethic?
D. Are you going to give his daughter a good life, or leave her crying in her room?

If the answers to all of the above are correct, he may start to respect you, but no guarantees as to will he ever like you. If you answer any of them wrong, then you are just an arrogant, lazy prick trying to inflate your ego with the adolescent adoration and infatuation of a 17 year old high school girl.

<--Father of a 19 year old daughter.

 

[frankgomez75]

Originally posted by: DVad3r

Originally posted by: Jfrag Teh Foul
Two reasons...

1. You are boinking his daughter. (STFU until you have a daughter your girlfriend's age... then claim that you will look at it differently... you have no grounds to stand on other than self-righteous youth on your side right now)

2. Fathers of girls tend to use this tactic to make you do just what you are doing right now... making you think about how to approach him. He wants you to respect not only his daughter, but him too.

It sucks for now, but as time progresses you will find out a lot from him. Hell, you will probably end up actually being friends with the guy.

Yay a normal response with good advice. I really hope we do get along in the end run, I asked her how long it would take for her dad to accept me and she said about a year, looking at the way things are she's probably right.

As for these suggestions of waiting for her to go to college, waiting a semester, etc...what is the reasoning behind this? From what your saying, it's bad to be dating someone that's "undamaged" or not "experienced", in some of your opinions she should go to college, have multiple boyfriends, play head games, figure out her status level, then go and date someone that applies to her, because she has "found" herself. Your generalizing the age of 17 as an age where people don't know what they are doing. Im 21 and I don't know what I am doing. Sure I go to college, but do I really know what I want in life? No. I find a lot of the responses in this thread follow a trend based on social norms and developmental paths.

gigapet

You have now been identified as an idiot by 2 people. I also showed my gf your thread responses, she laughed hysterically and said you really must be hurting. If you want to respond, please do so, Ill give her the link, better yet, Ill tell her to register here and post, so you guys can discuss our relationship. Maybe you can give her some of those awesome tips and skills you learned from trail and error when you were still datable.

In the end, the only thing you can do is be polite and courteous. Try your damnest to not make her cry...

ooooohhh, Daddies don't like seeing their little girls cry... Daddy mad, daddy hurt.

And if you are genuinely into her, than work on your relationship and take it slow. Eventually after she is prolly 20, than he'll prolly be over it. Seeing that you were serious about her and not using her will make him view you different. One last thing that will prolly win him over is getting married, but that is aways down the road... so in the meantime be patient, don't push or try too hard. Invite them over for BBQ's at your home and such to meet your family. Play it cool. And please for the love of god, since she lives at home, respect their rules. I don't care if she is 19 and living and home. If her parents want her home by 12 or 1, than do it... otherwise you'll just make it harder on yourself and each others relationship. And last but not least, never make her choose between her parents and you when planning stuff. Parents hate that crap, they will feel that you being older, you are manipulating her and they won't like that.

IF you are still together 3 -5 yrs from now, all the ppl in this thread will STFU and be like "Hey glad you guys worked it out" and blah blah blah.

But in all honesty, I doubt you'll make it that long... I doubt you guys will get married and live happily ever after for the next 40 years.. hence the reason pops thinks you'll boink her and leave after awhile.. statistically you guys don't stand a chance.... those be the facts

 

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: frankgomez75

Originally posted by: DVad3r

Originally posted by: Jfrag Teh Foul
Two reasons...

1. You are boinking his daughter. (STFU until you have a daughter your girlfriend's age... then claim that you will look at it differently... you have no grounds to stand on other than self-righteous youth on your side right now)

2. Fathers of girls tend to use this tactic to make you do just what you are doing right now... making you think about how to approach him. He wants you to respect not only his daughter, but him too.

It sucks for now, but as time progresses you will find out a lot from him. Hell, you will probably end up actually being friends with the guy.

Yay a normal response with good advice. I really hope we do get along in the end run, I asked her how long it would take for her dad to accept me and she said about a year, looking at the way things are she's probably right.

As for these suggestions of waiting for her to go to college, waiting a semester, etc...what is the reasoning behind this? From what your saying, it's bad to be dating someone that's "undamaged" or not "experienced", in some of your opinions she should go to college, have multiple boyfriends, play head games, figure out her status level, then go and date someone that applies to her, because she has "found" herself. Your generalizing the age of 17 as an age where people don't know what they are doing. Im 21 and I don't know what I am doing. Sure I go to college, but do I really know what I want in life? No. I find a lot of the responses in this thread follow a trend based on social norms and developmental paths.

gigapet

You have now been identified as an idiot by 2 people. I also showed my gf your thread responses, she laughed hysterically and said you really must be hurting. If you want to respond, please do so, Ill give her the link, better yet, Ill tell her to register here and post, so you guys can discuss our relationship. Maybe you can give her some of those awesome tips and skills you learned from trail and error when you were still datable.

In the end, the only thing you can do is be polite and courteous. Try your damnest to not make her cry...

ooooohhh, Daddies don't like seeing their little girls cry... Daddy mad, daddy hurt.

And if you are genuinely into her, than work on your relationship and take it slow. Eventually after she is prolly 20, than he'll prolly be over it. Seeing that you were serious about her and not using her will make him view you different. One last thing that will prolly win him over is getting married, but that is aways down the road... so in the meantime be patient, don't push or try too hard. Invite them over for BBQ's at your home and such to meet your family. Play it cool. And please for the love of god, since she lives at home, respect their rules. I don't care if she is 19 and living and home. If her parents want her home by 12 or 1, than do it... otherwise you'll just make it harder on yourself and each others relationship. And last but not least, never make her choose between her parents and you when planning stuff. Parents hate that crap, they will feel that you being older, you are manipulating her and they won't like that.

IF you are still together 3 -5 yrs from now, all the ppl in this thread will STFU and be like "Hey glad you guys worked it out" and blah blah blah.

But in all honesty, I doubt you'll make it that long... I doubt you guys will get married and live happily ever after for the next 40 years.. hence the reason pops thinks you'll boink her and leave after awhile.. statistically you guys don't stand a chance.... those be the facts

Statistics are for peons

 

[Harrison90]

k well im sorta in the same situation ive been dating this for a 1 month tommorow and there is a 2 year difference shes 15 but just turned it and ive been 16 for 7 months now. anyway her dad hates me i call at any time and within minutes of calling he picks the phone up and says time to get off.. no reason nothing just does it everytime. but at the same time the first ngiht i met him we were in the basement for 7 hours basicly alone with the odd run down of her younger sister and mother asking us if we were hungry at 11 he came to the top of the stairs and asks her to come up stairs. she comes down and said he wanted to kno wen i had to go home it was 11 (i was supposed to leave at 9 30) as im leaving her entire family (aunts uncles friends cousins) are outside drinking listening to music he comes over piss drunk and says i bought ambers mommy boobies they are ****** awesome. he handed me a beer minutes later since that night we havent talked once and im getting the "stink eye"

 

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: Harrison90
k well im sorta in the same situation ive been dating this for a 1 month tommorow and there is a 2 year difference shes 15 but just turned it and ive been 16 for 7 months now. anyway her dad hates me i call at any time and within minutes of calling he picks the phone up and says time to get off.. no reason nothing just does it everytime. but at the same time the first ngiht i met him we were in the basement for 7 hours basicly alone with the odd run down of her younger sister and mother asking us if we were hungry at 11 he came to the top of the stairs and asks her to come up stairs. she comes down and said he wanted to kno wen i had to go home it was 11 (i was supposed to leave at 9 30) as im leaving her entire family (aunts uncles friends cousins) are outside drinking listening to music he comes over piss drunk and says i bought ambers mommy boobies they are ****** awesome. he handed me a beer minutes later since that night we havent talked once and im getting the "stink eye"

"Stink Eye" I still don't understand what parts of the world people use that expression, here it's "Cut Eye". GL with the dad. In my situation no progress yet, but her mom did invite me to join them for mothers day in some portugese banquet hall for dinner. Don't know if I am going, gf does not want to go there, but I think it would be beneficial, still I gotta dress up and stuf, bah. Someone also suggested me bringing the mother flowers for mothers day and that would help score points with the dad, what do you guys think?

 

[Braznor]

Originally posted by: DVad3r

Originally posted by: Harrison90
k well im sorta in the same situation ive been dating this for a 1 month tommorow and there is a 2 year difference shes 15 but just turned it and ive been 16 for 7 months now. anyway her dad hates me i call at any time and within minutes of calling he picks the phone up and says time to get off.. no reason nothing just does it everytime. but at the same time the first ngiht i met him we were in the basement for 7 hours basicly alone with the odd run down of her younger sister and mother asking us if we were hungry at 11 he came to the top of the stairs and asks her to come up stairs. she comes down and said he wanted to kno wen i had to go home it was 11 (i was supposed to leave at 9 30) as im leaving her entire family (aunts uncles friends cousins) are outside drinking listening to music he comes over piss drunk and says i bought ambers mommy boobies they are ****** awesome. he handed me a beer minutes later since that night we havent talked once and im getting the "stink eye"

"Stink Eye" I still don't understand what parts of the world people use that expression, here it's "Cut Eye". GL with the dad. In my situation no progress yet, but her mom did invite me to join them for mothers day in some portugese banquet hall for dinner. Don't know if I am going, gf does not want to go there, but I think it would be beneficial, still I gotta dress up and stuf, bah. Someone also suggested me bringing the mother flowers for mothers day and that would help score points with the dad, what do you guys think?

If you buy the mom flowers, then poppa gonna think you are eyeing her as well....

Just kidding....

Seriously OP, give the relationship time, so long your girl is not worried about her father's reaction to the relationship, do not give much thought to it either. This is what I did when my GF's father used to hate me.

4 years is not a big difference, just a bit ackward when you are young at age. Just take care you do not bonk his daughter right now and do not piss off the father and you will be good to go.

I still have a great relationship with my girl and both her dad and mom still hate me for it. Do I care?? No!!!!