Why do you think over 50% of the US is divorced?

[Rudee]

Originally posted by: fonzinator

Every time I go to a wedding, I listen very closely to the wedding vows that a man and woman say to one another. I'm talking the traditional vows here: till death do us part, in sickness and in health, ect. <snip>

Unfortunately, the vow "till death do us part" has been replaced by "as long as I'm happy"

 

[Kev]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: imtim83
Yep. How in the heck can i cause the divorce rate? Thats impossible. I am not even part of it so don't even look at me saying i am part of it. I never even been part of it.

shut up you did it!



j/k

i feel like we're in grade school teasing the retarded kid

 

[ProUser]

Originally posted by: Rudee
Our society has evolved into a society of disposability and convenience. i.e. we demand our pizza in 20 minutes or less, our eye-glasses perscription in a hour, and 1 hour photo finishing. Our disposable society has allowed us to treat our relationships like we treat a disposable lighter: we use it till it serves a meaningful purpose, then we quickly dispose of it and get another.

bingo. hit the nail on the head on one of the biggest issues.

why put a lot of effort into something that is struggling, when you can replace it so easily. - that's at least the way society is heading..

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: Kev

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: imtim83
Yep. How in the heck can i cause the divorce rate? Thats impossible. I am not even part of it so don't even look at me saying i am part of it. I never even been part of it.

shut up you did it!



j/k

i feel like we're in grade school teasing the retarded kid

No, that's when you post in a wduaqnug thread.

 

[toekramp]

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: toekramp

Originally posted by: Encryptic
As my father-in-law said, "You know she's a keeper if she reaches over and unlocks your door for you." 😉

it's a robert de niro quote he stole...

Eh? Reference? I haven't heard this one myself.

sorry, De Niro wasn't the one who said it (he's the one who was being told) it's from the movie 'Bronx Tale'

bronx tale quote:

Sonny: Alright, listen to me. You pull up right where she lives, right? Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors. Then, get outta the car, you walk over to her. You bring her over to the car. Dig out the key, put it in the lock and open the door for her. Then you let her get in. Then you close the door. Then you walk around the back of the car and look through the rear window. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her.
Calogero: Just like that?
Sonny: Listen to me, kid. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in, that means she's a selfish broad and all you're seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and you dump her fast.

 

[ProUser]

Originally posted by: Rudee

Originally posted by: Fausto1

Originally posted by: Rudee
Our society has involved into a society of disposability and convenience. i.e. we demand our pizza in 20 minutes or less, our eye-glasses perscription in a hour, and 1 hour photo finishing. Our disposable society has allowed us to treat our relationships like we treat a disposable lighter: we use it till it serves a meaningful purpose, then we quickly dispose of it and get another.

I don't think it's quite that simple. I agree with the notion that many people get married without really considering the reality of what they're getting into. Marriage is supposed to be it; the final bond with the person you'll share the rest of your life with. That being the case, you'd better make damn sure that you can live with that person before legally binding yourself to them. This is why I'm a big fan of living together prior to marriage. Sharing a household will shine a bright light on all the little things that don't come up when you're dating but have separate homes. You are forced to deal with things like money management, neatness issues (a big one, believe it or not), etc. Better to find out ahead of time that you're not going to be able to resolve these issues (as is sometimes the case).

Obviously, there are cases where two people grow apart despite having had a loving relationship at one time. Fine, get a divorce and move on.

Contrary to popular belief, people who live together before marriage do not have lower divorce rates. Thus this "try before you buy" way of things is equally doomed to failure if you believe the statistics.

I think the point was; many people WON'T get married after living with the other person first, whereas if they had never lived with one another before hand - they would have gotten married.

I as well, am a HUGE advocate of living with someone before you marry them. I don't care what you say, you do not REALLY know someone until you live with them.

 

[Ladies Man]

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: toekramp

Originally posted by: Encryptic
As my father-in-law said, "You know she's a keeper if she reaches over and unlocks your door for you." 😉

it's a robert de niro quote he stole...

Eh? Reference? I haven't heard this one myself.

Actually..... It's from the movie "A Bronx Tale"
Sonny, tells it to Calogero before he goes out on a date....
He gives him advice to unlock her door first and if she unlocks yours she's a keeper.

damn you for beating me to it

 

[Rudee]

Marriage is like getting a late night phonecall....... you get a ring, then you WAKE UP!!

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: toekramp

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: toekramp

Originally posted by: Encryptic
As my father-in-law said, "You know she's a keeper if she reaches over and unlocks your door for you." 😉

it's a robert de niro quote he stole...

Eh? Reference? I haven't heard this one myself.

sorry, De Niro wasn't the one who said it (he's the one who was being told) it's from the movie 'Bronx Tale'

bronx tale quote:

Sonny: Alright, listen to me. You pull up right where she lives, right? Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors. Then, get outta the car, you walk over to her. You bring her over to the car. Dig out the key, put it in the lock and open the door for her. Then you let her get in. Then you close the door. Then you walk around the back of the car and look through the rear window. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her.
Calogero: Just like that?
Sonny: Listen to me, kid. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in, that means she's a selfish broad and all you're seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and you dump her fast.

Ahhhhh.... I haven't seen ABT in a long time, so I don't remember that part at all. Good movie though. 😀

 

[WyteWatt]

Originally posted by: Soybomb
Its because people are participating in the devil's activities like drinking, dancing, and laughing. imtim83 for president!

Soybomb i would never want to be president.

 

[chr6]

irreconcilable sexual disharmony

 

[WyteWatt]

lol

 

[WyteWatt]

Now i know why i hate weddings.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: ProUser

Originally posted by: Rudee

Originally posted by: Fausto1

Originally posted by: Rudee
Our society has involved into a society of disposability and convenience. i.e. we demand our pizza in 20 minutes or less, our eye-glasses perscription in a hour, and 1 hour photo finishing. Our disposable society has allowed us to treat our relationships like we treat a disposable lighter: we use it till it serves a meaningful purpose, then we quickly dispose of it and get another.

I don't think it's quite that simple. I agree with the notion that many people get married without really considering the reality of what they're getting into. Marriage is supposed to be it; the final bond with the person you'll share the rest of your life with. That being the case, you'd better make damn sure that you can live with that person before legally binding yourself to them. This is why I'm a big fan of living together prior to marriage. Sharing a household will shine a bright light on all the little things that don't come up when you're dating but have separate homes. You are forced to deal with things like money management, neatness issues (a big one, believe it or not), etc. Better to find out ahead of time that you're not going to be able to resolve these issues (as is sometimes the case).

Obviously, there are cases where two people grow apart despite having had a loving relationship at one time. Fine, get a divorce and move on.

Contrary to popular belief, people who live together before marriage do not have lower divorce rates. Thus this "try before you buy" way of things is equally doomed to failure if you believe the statistics.

I think the point was; many people WON'T get married after living with the other person first, whereas if they had never lived with one another before hand - they would have gotten married.

I as well, am a HUGE advocate of living with someone before you marry them. I don't care what you say, you do not REALLY know someone until you live with them.

Exactly. If you haven't lived with someone, you truly do not know them. You don't see what they look like in the morning, how they keep their place, etc.

 

[Fausto]

Originally posted by: imtim83
Now i know why i hate weddings.

Because they mistake you for the flower girl every time?

 

[Kev]

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Kev

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: imtim83
Yep. How in the heck can i cause the divorce rate? Thats impossible. I am not even part of it so don't even look at me saying i am part of it. I never even been part of it.

shut up you did it!



j/k

i feel like we're in grade school teasing the retarded kid

No, that's when you post in a wduaqnug thread.

same difference

 

[alkemyst]

divorce is high because of the 'right here, right now' and 'me me me' mentality. Media has driven this home as well as the increasing number of 'kids' without parents home most of the day with them for guidance. Kids grow up having kid-like mentalities, things like having everything immediately, cheating, etc become commonplace.

Also parents are taking a more-hands off approach and letting their children do whatever. When another adult interjects, they respond with things like 'do you know who I am?', 'who are you to disipline my child? [usually said as the child is gnawing on the offended persons leg 🙂]', etc.

We had in our paper today: "Approximately 40 children/parents were ordered to leave the front of a jewelry store in front of the movie theatre due to them pounding the glass to trigger the alarm repeatedly" "Some parents 'fancied' themselves lawyers and told police it was their right to be there and public property" "All either left or ended up escorted away".

This is Wellington, FL which is a rather upscale/trendy area....it's amazing

 

[bigben]

Originally posted by: wyvrn
My wife and I have been like this. What you realize afterwards is, most of the arguments are based on trivial things and not worth burning the relationship over. There are exceptions, of course. As a result, my wife and I tend to argue more constructively and have less of those really bad ones. I think it gets better with time, but unfortunately, many people don't have the patience to stick with it. When you realize that even though you had tough times, you would gladly do it all over again, you understand what marriage is all about.

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis

Originally posted by: bigben
Lack of commitment...plain and simple.

People forget the "worse" side of "for better or worse" and figure if they don't love someone for even a day then they should get a divorce.

Marriage is about sticking through thick and thin.

Are you living in the dark ages?

No, are you?

Marriage is not always going to be fun and games. My wife and I have gone through a LOT of crap but we've remained together all this time. There's been times when I've been pissed at my wife or she's been pissed at me to the point where we barely talk for a day or so, but we always make up in the end. If you can't stick with someone through the hard times as well as the bad times, then DON'T get married.

Thanks for the support! I am not married myself, but I do expect marriage to both be the greatest joy and a great deal of work. That's how life is - you can't enjoy the sugar without some salt sometimes.