Why do so many people think money = women??

[snoopy7548]

There are no chicks with dicks( with the exception of hermaphrodites) . Only guys with tits.
Maybe the OP wants a hermaphrodite... Swing both ways at the same time.

Well, hypothetically speaking of course... for all intents and purpose a real woman but she has a penis, or a real man but he has a vagina.

 

[Fardringle]

I want something specific- a 22 to 29 year old girl, cute, fit but curvy, obviously single, decent job, no kids, intelligent, classy

I personally know more than a half dozen women who perfectly fit your "requirements". Every single one of them is dating or married to men who don't fit your description of yourself in any way at all. They aren't wealthy (but generally have stable work), they don't have expensive cars, don't have expensive houses, don't obsess over visits to the gym, and - most importantly in my opinion and apparently theirs as well - aren't arrogant, conceited, or expect amazing women to fall at their feet just because of their financial status.

One of those women would be considered a 10/10 on almost anyone's scale. She's brilliant, funny, and absolutely gorgeous. But if you asked HER what her /10 rating would be, she says she's maybe a 5 or 6 at most. She knows she's beautiful, but she's not a self-centered arrogant jerk about it. And that simple fact makes her even more attractive. She's also married to a shy, self-conscious, socially awkward nerd who isn't particularly attractive or wealthy, but he makes her laugh, listens to her, tries to meet her needs, and treats her like she is more than just a prize or a piece of (extremely nice looking) meat.

Every one of them became couples because they enjoyed each others' company. They talk to each other, spend time doing things together that they enjoy, make each other laugh, and don't demand PERFECTION...

It's entirely possible that there are other factors that you haven't told us about, but describing yourself as well above average and "I don't have any real deficiencies in looks, personality, character or money though" is a pretty good clue.

Do you have any female friends in that "great social circle" who are good enough friends that they will be willing talk to you honestly? It doesn't matter if they match your requirements for dating material. In fact, ti's probably better if they don't. Ask them the same type of questions you have been asking here. Find out why they wouldn't want to date you and you'll have a better idea why 'perfect' women aren't interested in you.

 

[William Gaatjes]

Well, hypothetically speaking of course... for all intents and purpose a real woman but she has a penis, or a real man but he has a vagina.

I have seen a picture once of a typical hairy man shaped like a man , a hairy human under 30+ years of testosteron, a bit overweight and who seems to have a typical male brain but has also a vagina.
I can write you : A man with a vagina is as nasty as it is going to get. I never seen such a thing repulsive.
As a sidenote:
Transgenders i never had a problem with because they want to be of the gender they feel they are mentally/spiritually.
A man wanting to be a woman will try very hard to be a woman. And vice versa.
Of course, a gorgeous looking woman with a large shlong is a huge turn off for me.

 

[dave_the_nerd]

People with natural real-life game, even a Santa-bearded geezer like me, get over IRL simply because we're not socially retarded.

It's a generational thing. People my dad's age met their spouses mostly at church or at work. People my age and younger meet them mostly online, since we aren't going to church and trying to date at work is... a bad idea.

Times change, old man.

 

[madoka]

I have seen a picture once of a typical hairy man shaped like a man , a hairy human under 30+ years of testosteron, a bit overweight and who seems to have a typical male brain but has also a vagina.
I can write you : A man with a vagina is as nasty as it is going to get. I never seen such a thing repulsive.

Are you trying to say that you got nudie pics from another ATOTer?

Can I get a hint who?

 

[William Gaatjes]

Are you trying to say that you got nudie pics from another ATOTer?

Can I get a hint who?

I deleted all visual memories from it.
Only a literal recollection has been retained.
I went so far to in a desperate move, to cut the 230V cord from my lamp and put the brown wire on my left temple and the blue wire on my right temple. and plug the cord back into the socket.
That was bliss to forget that image.

Disclaimer : Do not try this at home.

 

[IronWing]

True to my word, I showed your picture to my wife. Her first response was to bust out laughing. She says you have a nice build. Lose the poseur watch. She can't see the top of your head but figures if you're talking plugs, it can't be good. No undershirt is "yucky" and "icky".

 

[William Gaatjes]

Anybody posted this already ?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/thread...treme-negativity-defeatism-with-women.246435/
Hi Clarityzedd / Big dave 17... whatever...

 

[Zeze]

I personally know more than a half dozen women who perfectly fit your "requirements". Every single one of them is dating or married to men who don't fit your description of yourself in any way at all. They aren't wealthy (but generally have stable work), they don't have expensive cars, don't have expensive houses, don't obsess over visits to the gym, and - most importantly in my opinion and apparently theirs as well - aren't arrogant, conceited, or expect amazing women to fall at their feet just because of their financial status.

One of those women would be considered a 10/10 on almost anyone's scale. She's brilliant, funny, and absolutely gorgeous. But if you asked HER what her /10 rating would be, she says she's maybe a 5 or 6 at most. She knows she's beautiful, but she's not a self-centered arrogant jerk about it. And that simple fact makes her even more attractive. She's also married to a shy, self-conscious, socially awkward nerd who isn't particularly attractive or wealthy, but he makes her laugh, listens to her, tries to meet her needs, and treats her like she is more than just a prize or a piece of (extremely nice looking) meat.

Every one of them became couples because they enjoyed each others' company. They talk to each other, spend time doing things together that they enjoy, make each other laugh, and don't demand PERFECTION...

It's entirely possible that there are other factors that you haven't told us about, but describing yourself as well above average and "I don't have any real deficiencies in looks, personality, character or money though" is a pretty good clue.

Do you have any female friends in that "great social circle" who are good enough friends that they will be willing talk to you honestly? It doesn't matter if they match your requirements for dating material. In fact, ti's probably better if they don't. Ask them the same type of questions you have been asking here. Find out why they wouldn't want to date you and you'll have a better idea why 'perfect' women aren't interested in you.

I think he got you.

 

[Perknose]

It's a generational thing. People my dad's age met their spouses mostly at church or at work. People my age and younger meet them mostly online, since we aren't going to church and trying to date at work is... a bad idea.

Times change, old man.

I've got game on online dating sites also . . . sonny boy.

 

[Ns1]

Are you trying to say that you got nudie pics from another ATOTer?

Can I get a hint who?

There's a dick pic torrent in the lifer lounge. Keep posting.

 

[killster1]

supermodels? I just want the female version of me

me
-7 to 8/10 face
- big muscles
- dress super sharp
- smart/well spoken/educated
- super loyal and would do anything for my loved ones
- huge into family values
- very successful both in terms of how much I make and how well I manage finances
- no kids but want kids

I just want the female version of that. I'm not a fat guy asking for a hottie. In terms of finances, I just want a woman with a decent professional job...she doesn't have to make anywhere near what I make

lulz you joking i guesss. i see your other thread maybe just trolling everywhere.

You want a girl with big muscles and makes 185k and ALSO invests it how you approve? for one you most likely talk about money during first dates try to be as showy as possible (if this is not a troll thing) i am fairly ugly 35 and get lots of 20 something year old girls flirting with me. of course im not short and conceded.. more like 250 pounds 6'3 fun energetic and not afraid to be super emberresed. red! Of course my whole needs are little diff.. Weight for her 100 pounds, job dont care, no job means can vacation more! kids? can be ok just as long as she is FIT. loyal YES! educated enough to have conversation checK! heh

 

[PlanetJosh]

I thought asking her "Do you want to see my yacht?" works most of the time. If you have one and you can probably get one. But then if the pretty woman you're saying that to has a son and/or daughter(s) then that won't really end up well because you mentioned you didn't want to deal with that in the OP.

Then start your own dating procedure online like a YouTube video asking for dates with someone without sons/daughters, who has cuteness and the rest. The list isn't that long in the OP. I haven't read all the posts so maybe you already took an idea like this under consideration.

 

[whm1974]

Just find an 18 y/o woman who was raised by nuns. Or a mail order bride.

 

[NutBucket]

 

[Mai72]

Are you into the PUA scene?

1) Anyway, I'm kinda into RSD and Tyler put out a video on attachment a few years ago that I instantly watched. In the video, Tyler talks about not being attached to the outcome. To just go with the flow. If she wants to talk fine. If she doesn't, that's fine as well. Detach from the outcome. Being a practicing Buddhist I can get behind this thought process. BTW, it's much more difficult to do when you get started because you're fighting years of wiring. We all are. Social conditioning, mass hypnosis, and how we were raised plays a HUGE role in our thought process.

2) Try meditation. It will help with the negative thoughts that are looping in your mind. Try 2m a day, and work your way up to 20m. It takes time. But, you'll feel better. And, you'll have more control on what you feel and the things that grate on you.

3) Women are just not that turned on when it comes to money like they were in the past. Many women today will actually resent and HATE you for even mentioning that you have money. They'll resent you if it looks like you are trying too hard. Yes, its great that you do well financially and that comes into play later in the relationship. But not at the beginning. They just want to have a good time, so transference of positive energy is so important. If you don't smile and are just negative you'll give off a bad creepy vibe that no amount of money will cure.

IMO, looking good is just the beginning and although important it's not the only thing. Try working on yourself first.

 

[hans007]

It's about the image/attitude you project when potential "dates" see you for the first time.
There must be something about you that does not vibe with them... the 20s quality women.

This thread belongs in this specific forum for such a topic...
https://forums.anandtech.com/forums/love-and-relationships.32/

The guy did say he was a car salesman...

I mean if you are a stereotypical car salesman even with that money ok maybe a lot of people get turned off by it. To be a good care salesman i'm guessing requires a certain type of alpha super powered attitude and it can be a turn off.

I am a software engineer btw, and make similar money. I also am totally single (i'm older though) and live in LA where a girl who is like an 8 + probably has 1000000 guys after her as it is. I also work way too much and barely have time to go outside currently so thats my excuse i guess. maybe lower your standards ..... probably will happen anyway when you get inyour mid 30s

also 180k isn't really that ridiculous, i mean i guess you live in a low cost area, but tons of people make that so its not really crazy money. So if you think the money is gonna attract women, well it probably would, you just dont make like a million a year, so you still don't stand out if that is what you are trying to stand out because of

 

[FerrelGeek]

Jobs? maybe, but for 10's it'd be each.

Lol. Thanks for the info. I'm glad I don't do drugs. I have no desire to become the guy manning the glory hole to pay for that kind of habit.

 

[blackangst1]

ok so...Im going to withhold making fun of you OP, but I will just say this: your lack of self confidence is whats hurting you. Anyone who goes to the lengths you have gone to, not just on this forum, to tell everyone how perfect you are SCREAMS you are terribly insecure. The only money you can throw at THAT problem is counseling.

 

[SKORPI0]

OP could be a copy cat. Google "carsalesman troll". Various account/username on lots of sites and banned, posting the same "problem with women" for +10 years.

Here's a thread about him from 2014.
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=160043551

 

[pcgeek11]

OP could be a copy cat. Google "carsalesman troll". Various account/username on lots of sites and banned, posting the same "problem with women" for +10 years.

Here's a thread about him from 2014.
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=160043551

Damn!

What a Loser.

 

[brandonbull]

I think you have to be in the 7-figure plus salary club before that starts trumping personality, looks, or age. $185k is a nice yearly salary but it's not enough to buy your way out of needing some game.

 

[Pennywize123]

are you hot/fit/mid 20s/no kids/intelligent/professional job/genuinely great person and live near Chicago?


I live in a suburb 40 minutes from Chicago

I’m Armenian (f) and I happen to have none of that baggage. So far dating makes me want to crawl into a cave and not come out. I don’t think ur standards are high I think you expect what you yourself has to offer for the most part.

 

[brianmanahan]

lol i remember this thread. i wonder if zedd has achieved some clarity after all these years.

 

[igor_kavinski]

Probably compromised with someone, had kids and now enjoying raising them.