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Why do people have something happen to them that's just one instance and then...

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You have to realize that regarding deaths, how we process it emotionally has to do with several different factors:
1) Was the death expected or unexpected?
2) Was the death traumatic in away
3) Was the person old or young?
4) How close were you to the person
etc

Obviously, someone would be more upset about an unexpected, traumatic death than one of a sick, elderly person.

And don't pretend like you would just know how to "get over" something traumatic. No one has any idea what it is truly like to experience trauma, unless they have been there themselves. You have to ask yourself, if getting over something traumatic was as easy as the passage of time, why would there be an entire field devoted to mental health? Why would vets still struggle with PTSD? It is just recently that WWII vets have started talking about the horrors they experienced in war because there was a "get over it" mentality for so long and mental health was poorly understood.
 
TridenT said:
I hate explaining these things because peons are gonna peon everything.

Let's say you live in a great city but are moving to somewhere else. You have some really close friends/family/whatever-the-fuck. You're not going to be visiting even remotely often. They're not gonna visit you either. Are you going to grieve like they all died? Probably not. I hope not. God, you're such a pussy, you cry about everything. STOP CRYING ALREADY, IT'S JUST A HYPOTHETICAL SITUATION. JESUS. So, that's how I view death in some very abstract analogy. Basically someone close to me dies, "Ok, whatever. Same as if they moved away and we never talked again." I don't cry forever about it. There's no reason to. I didn't suffer loss from their death. I mean, if they were like some financial tie to me or we had a lot of things that were very intertwined that would really fuck me over if they died, then yeah, maybe, I'd be like, "FUCK THIS SHIT. WHY YOU GOTTA DIE AND FUCK ME OVER LIKE THIS. GOD DAMNIT, ALL THESE CREDIT CARD BILLS. BITCH, YOU SAID YOU DIDNT OWN ONE." But, that's different, I guess?
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It's called empathy. Look it up.

Your analogy is focused on YOU and not what's happening to the other person. You're drawing an analogy that death is the same as not seeing somebody. That may be true from your standpoint, but not from the standpoint of the person that you claimed to be close to. You should be sad because something happened to THEM, not because it somehow inconveniences YOU.

People exist only in your mind. Realize that.
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It's pretty apparent from this that you view other people like you view inanimate objects. To you they're just things to be used. When they die it's just like you've broken a toy, in your mind it's fine to just go out and get a new one without a second thought.
 
Put yourself in this scenario.

Your parents/best friend/loved one is horrifically killed via murder/accident were you are also present. You are the only survivor/witness. That feeling of sorrow/guilt of why you didn't have the same fate as them. Not sure how that mental scar can heal. Sure time will pass, but you'll end up thinking the what if and why me. How can you deal with that? Some people will end up nuts and all it took was that one event that tragically changes their life. :\
 
Bignate603 said:
It's called empathy. Look it up.

Your analogy is focused on YOU and not what's happening to the other person. You're drawing an analogy that death is the same as not seeing somebody. That may be true from your standpoint, but not from the standpoint of the person that you claimed to be close to. You should be sad because something happened to THEM, not because it somehow inconveniences YOU.



It's pretty apparent from this that you view other people like you view inanimate objects. To you they're just things to be used. When they die it's just like you've broken a toy, in your mind it's fine to just go out and get a new one without a second thought.
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How would death inconvenience the person who died? They're dead. They can't comprehend loss, suffering, inconvenience, true convenience(7-11), etc.
 
SKORPI0 said:
Put yourself in this scenario.

Your parents/best friend/loved one is horrifically killed via murder/accident were you are also present. You are the only survivor/witness. That feeling of sorrow/guilt of why you didn't have the same fate as them. Not sure how that mental scar can heal. Sure time will pass, but you'll end up thinking the what if and why me. How can you deal with that? Some people will end up nuts and all it took was that one event that tragically changes their life. :\
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Whoa. Why would I feel sorrow/guilt of why didn't I die too? I'd be like, "Shit yeah, that's right. I DIDN'T DIE! WHAT NOW BITCHES?" I'd feel so boss. Now of course, it would kinda suck if the person who had left was cool. I'd be like, "Damn. That cool person that I liked hanging out with... Can't do that anymore. Fuck. NOW I GOTTA FIND SOMEONE NEW? WHAT A PAIN IN THE ASS! I'M SO RONERY."

Really, I think I am not affected the loss of them so much as the fact that I have to find someone just as cool. Or if for instance, they were like only one that I ever got along with... Damn, that's making the task all the more daunting.
 
If I had to guess, I'd say the OP has to have some sort of personality disorder, maybe Histrionic or Borderline; or at least multiple traits.
 
i actually feel somewhat defective as a human because i don't feel empathy towards people who went through traumatic circumstances.

i don't feel love or familial affection towards anyone either.

the only emotions i seem to have are anger (which dissipates quickly), embarrassment, and regret.
 
Fayd said:
i actually feel somewhat defective as a human because i don't feel empathy towards people who went through traumatic circumstances.

i don't feel love or familial affection towards anyone either.

the only emotions i seem to have are hate (which dissipates quickly), embarrassment, and regret.
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Are you seen by any psychiatrist?
 
well for starters its not just 'mental' they can cause physical changes in your brain, its not like you can just will or tell your brain to rewire back to normal
 
Think about the 8 year old boy who watched his father fall to his death at the baseball game and was left alone there in the stands, looking down at his father...

How is he ever going to get past that to live a normal life?

There he was having a great time with Dad at the game...
 
TridenT said:
Nah, I had a strong connection with someone who ended up having Alzheimer's and Parkinson's. They eventually died after struggling with so many health problems for so long. They were probably the most influential person in my life that had a positive impact, but I didn't even wince when I was told they had died. :hmm:
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either you are Autistic.

or you are trolling.
 
LTC8K6 said:
Think about the 8 year old boy who watched his father fall to his death at the baseball game and was left alone there in the stands, looking down at his father...

How is he ever going to get past that to live a normal life?

There he was having a great time with Dad at the game...
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Trident's response would be "Darn, now who's going to buy me a hotdog?"
 
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