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Why do people have something happen to them that's just one instance and then...

TridenT

TridenT

Lifer
So, why do people have one thing happen to them and then they're like... mentally fucked for the rest of their life/6+months? (Death of loved one, getting raped, they murder someone, one traumatic experience, etc.)

I can understand if it's something bad for like... years. But if it's just like one or maybe two experiences, WTF?

It's like they break then can't ever repair themselves.
 
If you have a traumatic event it can effect the way you view similar events in your life, you equate it to a lot of other things, it causes you to question everything, those things are what fuck you up.
 
Farang said:
Your premise is that time heals all wounds. I think it provides perspective but that's about it.
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My premise is that you get over it and you stop thinking about it so much. As you stop thinking about it (because it's less relevant to having it just happened or having happened within the past month or whatever) that you forget about it... It's just neuroscience.

But these people, they just ... don't stop thinking about it I guess?

Infinite loop vis a vis computer science?
 
TridenT said:
My premise is that you get over it and you stop thinking about it so much. As you stop thinking about it (because it's less relevant to having it just happened or having happened within the past month or whatever) that you forget about it... It's just neuroscience.

But these people, they just ... don't stop thinking about it I guess?

Infinite loop vis a vis computer science?
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Somethings don't become less relevant.
 
TridenT said:
My premise is that you get over it and you stop thinking about it so much. As you stop thinking about it (because it's less relevant to having it just happened or having happened within the past month or whatever) that you forget about it... It's just neuroscience.

But these people, they just ... don't stop thinking about it I guess?

Infinite loop vis a vis computer science?
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Like Hal said, the traumatic events can become associated with, and then generalize to, all sorts of places, people, situations, etc. Beyond that, people often over-estimate the likelihood of an event occurring due to its emotional salience rather than its actual probability of happening.
 
TridenT, your entire persona on here is about taking trivial meaningless bullshit and using it define the shittiness that is your intolerable life.

yet, you come here and say that is the kind of thing that people shouldn't bitch about?

You're losing your character, TridenT. you aren't the troll you used to be.
 
TridenT said:
My premise is that you get over it and you stop thinking about it so much. As you stop thinking about it (because it's less relevant to having it just happened or having happened within the past month or whatever) that you forget about it... It's just neuroscience.

But these people, they just ... don't stop thinking about it I guess?

Infinite loop vis a vis computer science?
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what you think is neuroscience, and what neuroscience actually is, are two completely unrelated fields.
 
HAL9000 said:
Somethings don't become less relevant.
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For once I agree with neckbeard.

Trident, if you don't understand how the loss of someone close to a person can affect them for years and years afterwords its' a sign that you don't have any strong connections with anyone.
 
Bignate603 said:
For once I agree with neckbeard.

Trident, if you don't understand how the loss of someone close to a person can affect them for years and years afterwords its' a sign that you don't have any strong connections with anyone.
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Nah, I had a strong connection with someone who ended up having Alzheimer's and Parkinson's. They eventually died after struggling with so many health problems for so long. They were probably the most influential person in my life that had a positive impact, but I didn't even wince when I was told they had died. :hmm:
 
TridenT said:
Nah, I had a strong connection with someone who ended up having Alzheimer's and Parkinson's. They eventually died after struggling with so many health problems for so long. They were probably the most influential person in my life that had a positive impact, but I didn't even wince when I was told they had died. :hmm:
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There's two possibilities here:
1. You actually weren't that close to them, so losing them wasn't a big deal
2. You have severe issues empathizing and/or connecting with other people
 
TridenT said:
My premise is that you get over it and you stop thinking about it so much. As you stop thinking about it (because it's less relevant to having it just happened or having happened within the past month or whatever) that you forget about it... It's just neuroscience.

But these people, they just ... don't stop thinking about it I guess?

Infinite loop vis a vis computer science?
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I am guessing you have never experienced one of the traumatic events that you speak of? True?

Anyway, the mind will do all sorts of things to protect itself from further trauma, which will manifest in all sorts of ways.
 
Every event we experience irrevocably changes us for the rest of our lives. The question is the degree of the event.


Bignate603 said:
There's two possibilities here:
1. You actually weren't that close to them, so losing them wasn't a big deal
2. You have severe issues empathizing and/or connecting with other people
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3. He could have been (or still is) in denial.

The grieving process is different for everyone.
 
davmat787 said:
I am guessing you have never experienced one of the traumatic events that you speak of? True?

Anyway, the mind will do all sorts of things to protect itself from further trauma, which will manifest in all sorts of ways.
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Rape, murder, and other such unspeakables? No because I am not a rapist nor am I a murderer. Nor would anyone want to rape me. And, I just happen to be an immortal apparently because no one has been able to kill me.
 
Cogman said:
Every event we experience irrevocably changes us for the rest of our lives. The question is the degree of the event.




3. He could have been (or still is) in denial.

The grieving process is different for everyone.
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I lol'd. Denial is definitely not it. (OR IS THAT THE DENIAL TALKING?)
 
Bignate603 said:
No, there's really not. Either you weren't close to them or you have trouble creating emotional connections with other people. There's no other options.
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I hate explaining these things because peons are gonna peon everything.

Let's say you live in a great city but are moving to somewhere else. You have some really close friends/family/whatever-the-fuck. You're not going to be visiting even remotely often. They're not gonna visit you either. Are you going to grieve like they all died? Probably not. I hope not. God, you're such a pussy, you cry about everything. STOP CRYING ALREADY, IT'S JUST A HYPOTHETICAL SITUATION. JESUS. So, that's how I view death in some very abstract analogy. Basically someone close to me dies, "Ok, whatever. Same as if they moved away and we never talked again." I don't cry forever about it. There's no reason to. I didn't suffer loss from their death. I mean, if they were like some financial tie to me or we had a lot of things that were very intertwined that would really fuck me over if they died, then yeah, maybe, I'd be like, "FUCK THIS SHIT. WHY YOU GOTTA DIE AND FUCK ME OVER LIKE THIS. GOD DAMNIT, ALL THESE CREDIT CARD BILLS. BITCH, YOU SAID YOU DIDNT OWN ONE." But, that's different, I guess?

People exist only in your mind. Realize that.
 
Trident, what happened to you to be the pathetic failure and a human excuse machine? Did your priest touch you when you were little? Why can't you get over it and act like a normal human being?
 
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