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Why do people have children???

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Have you ever considered this?

here you spend the first 18 to 30 years of your life finding the PERFECT mate. you woo her, you romance her, you commit your life to her and you give up all other hers just to spend the rest of your life w/ this perfect her.

then you have KIDS??

how does this make sense?
 
Well, if you ask my kids why I had them, they would tell you that is was for the sole purpose of using them as slave labor. 😀
 


<< Well, if you ask my kids why I had them, they would tell you that is was for the sole purpose of using them as slave labor. 😀 >>

Thats a damn good point. Where else can you find manual labor for $5/week?
 
nomeanmugs

actually hate to disappoint you, but i have 3 LOVELY children. the oldest turned 5 in january and the youngest will turn 2 in october.

still the basic question remains. logically it DOESN'T make sense to have kids.
 


<< Thats a damn good point. Where else can you find manual labor for $5/week? >>


You missed the point. It was slave labor. There is no money involved. Only the furnishing of the basic neccesities required to keep performing said labor.
 
to keep the species alive, pure and simple. It goes way past what you think makes sense because it is "hardcoded," to put it in geek terms.
 
Is this question for real?

Anyway, it's part of nature to want to have offspring. That's why we have sex drives. A human's abilitiy to rationalize and/or distort may alter this natural desire.

Besides, if your parents didn't want children, well... you know.
 
<< to keep the species alive, pure and simple. It goes way past what you think makes sense because it is "hardcoded," to put it in geek terms >>

I remember reading a stat out of some guy magazine a few years ago saying that 85% of all male subconcious thought revolves around sex. And no it's not because we are horny fools; reproduction and continuation of the species is hardcoded into males. It's the same reason that women have crazy sex drives past their twenties; it's hardcoded into their genes at that point.
 
Because "every sperm is sacred"! (too bad we'll be selling you kids for medical research.)

Other cynical reasons:
(a) it's a biological imperative to have your genes survive
(b) it's a cultural imperative, originally to produce someone to care for you in your declining years.
(c) it's a religious imperative, to produce new contributors to the church coffers.
(d) it's a chance to make them achieve things you wanted to but couldn't (and twist their psyche in the process, but so what? :disgust: )

Other romantic reasons:
(a) you have so darn much love to share that one other person just isn't enough for it all.
 


<< Is this question for real? >>



i seriously wonder if all those who question my parenthood and other things, if ur married or have kids. I definitely question whether you can be honest with yourself or not.

i was married 7 years ago. it took me 30 years to find the perfect mate. we had a great 15 months together or so before our first son was born.

bringing our son into the world was an amazing experience but it also changed us. it brought a lot of chaos into a life. sometimes i have thoughts that if we hadn't had kids we could have had a different type of life. mb one that is more enjoyable etc etc.

i have no regrets, but can you actually tell me you never have those thoughts?
 


<< Other romantic reasons:
(a) you have so darn much love to share that one other person just isn't enough for it all.
>>



LOL. this was funny.
 
sometimes i have thoughts that if we hadn't had kids we could have had a different type of life. mb one that is more enjoyable etc etc.

This is exactly why I don't have kids. It's hard not to because society tells you that this is what you're supposed to do. I'm the only person in my entire family that doesn't have children and I'm dreading this Christmas because my brother has a baby on the way that will be here by then. I'll receive the 3rd degree again about not having any. However, I've found that I'm much more content and satisfied to be able to do the things that I want to do and enjoy the time with my spouse. With 6 billion people on the planet, will anyone really miss one less? If I could be a part-time parent it would be nice, but unfortunately, it doesn't work that way.
 


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<< Is this question for real? >>



i seriously wonder if all those who question my parenthood and other things, if ur married or have kids. I definitely question whether you can be honest with yourself or not.

i was married 7 years ago. it took me 30 years to find the perfect mate. we had a great 15 months together or so before our first son was born.

bringing our son into the world was an amazing experience but it also changed us. it brought a lot of chaos into a life. sometimes i have thoughts that if we hadn't had kids we could have had a different type of life. mb one that is more enjoyable etc etc.

i have no regrets, but can you actually tell me you never have those thoughts? >>



Well, you can question anything and say that if I did that, then I might be there. There are pluses and minuses to parenthood as there are with everything else in life. Sure, having kids is a BIG thing, but it has BIG rewards and BIG consequences.
 


<< This is exactly why I don't have kids. It's hard not to because society tells you that this is what you're supposed to do. I'm the only person in my entire family that doesn't have children and I'm dreading this Christmas because my brother has a baby on the way that will be here by then. I'll receive the 3rd degree again about not having any. However, I've found that I'm much more content and satisfied to be able to do the things that I want to do and enjoy the time with my spouse. With 6 billion people on the planet, will anyone really miss one less? If I could be a part-time parent it would be nice, but unfortunately, it doesn't work that way.
>>



finally someone that understands my basic question.
 


<< those rewards are subjective however. some could say the same thing about marriage. big consequences big rewards. >>



I know... that's why I said that EVERYTHING has its pluses and minuses. But, you've always got to make the best of what you have. You've already got kids and that can't be changed. Like you said, no regrets... which is a very optimistic attitude.

Many people are happy being parents. Many are happy they never had to deal with their own progeny. Humans have the power to choose their own lifestyle (well, usually). So, is it still logical for us to want to multiply? For the survival of the species, yes. In terms of individual happiness, that is up to the indivdual to decide. Just make sure you decide before it's too late.
 


<< Have you ever considered this?

here you spend the first 18 to 30 years of your life finding the PERFECT mate. you woo her, you romance her, you commit your life to her and you give up all other hers just to spend the rest of your life w/ this perfect her.

then you have KIDS??

how does this make sense? >>



why dont you go ask your mom and dad why they had you. im sure that will answer your question.
 
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