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Why do parents act like they know what we care about?
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Suspicious-Teach8788
Lifer
OP is a little kid and he needs to grow up. Damn immature little kids.
Seriously. Stop ranting about parents. Just move out. You're a freaking adult. If you don't like it they have 0 responsibility for you from now on, and you're on your own. Don't like that? Want parental support? Then live with their rules until you can say fvck it to them.
Seriously. Stop ranting about parents. Just move out. You're a freaking adult. If you don't like it they have 0 responsibility for you from now on, and you're on your own. Don't like that? Want parental support? Then live with their rules until you can say fvck it to them.
cmdrmoocow
Golden Member
Been there, done that. They're right in the end.
Might's well just learn that now.
edit: Holy cow, she's 15.
Might's well just learn that now.
edit: Holy cow, she's 15.
montanafan
Diamond Member
OP, you have everything ass backwards. You keep saying that you want to be happy in your life and not look back and say, "What if?" You're just setting yourself up for that with the way you're thinking and acting right now. If you really want happiness, and I mean long-term happiness, with this girl you're about to blow it big time.
The number one reason most couples, living together or married, break up is arguments brought on by financial problems. Right now everything is fine and dandy in that department because someone else is taking care of that for the two of you and you don't have that nasty little thing to worry about in your relationship. If the two of you moved in together and had to make it on your own, things would fall apart very quickly.
You say that she and you can't concentrate on anything else like school etc. right now because all you can think about is being together, but if you were together all that would change and you'd both do much better. Just exactly how well are you both supposed to concentrate on school and studying when you have to worry about paying for the rent, the phone, the water bill, electricity, transportation, food, clothes, internet access, cable, entertainment, etc, etc. You think you have problems now! How long is she going to stick around when all she sees is how well off she was before and how better off she'd be with someone else?
Then again, I get the impression that you expect her father or both your parents to pay for the two of you living together. That would solve all your problems, right? Wrong! If you think you have problems with the parents interfering in your lives now, what exactly do you think it would be like if they had a say in every aspect of the way the two of you lived your lives? And make no mistake about it, when a parent, or anyone else for that matter, is shelling out the dough for something they feel very strongly that they have a say in matters. If you want her father to have absolute control over your life, just go for that idea.
If you really do love this girl and want a shot at happiness with her you'll encourage her to buckle down and study and you'll do the same so that the two of you can be independent and free to live and do as you want with no interference from anyone else in a very short time. Otherwise, you'll be looking back some day and saying, "What if?"
The number one reason most couples, living together or married, break up is arguments brought on by financial problems. Right now everything is fine and dandy in that department because someone else is taking care of that for the two of you and you don't have that nasty little thing to worry about in your relationship. If the two of you moved in together and had to make it on your own, things would fall apart very quickly.
You say that she and you can't concentrate on anything else like school etc. right now because all you can think about is being together, but if you were together all that would change and you'd both do much better. Just exactly how well are you both supposed to concentrate on school and studying when you have to worry about paying for the rent, the phone, the water bill, electricity, transportation, food, clothes, internet access, cable, entertainment, etc, etc. You think you have problems now! How long is she going to stick around when all she sees is how well off she was before and how better off she'd be with someone else?
Then again, I get the impression that you expect her father or both your parents to pay for the two of you living together. That would solve all your problems, right? Wrong! If you think you have problems with the parents interfering in your lives now, what exactly do you think it would be like if they had a say in every aspect of the way the two of you lived your lives? And make no mistake about it, when a parent, or anyone else for that matter, is shelling out the dough for something they feel very strongly that they have a say in matters. If you want her father to have absolute control over your life, just go for that idea.
If you really do love this girl and want a shot at happiness with her you'll encourage her to buckle down and study and you'll do the same so that the two of you can be independent and free to live and do as you want with no interference from anyone else in a very short time. Otherwise, you'll be looking back some day and saying, "What if?"
mrSHEiK124
Lifer
OP reminds me of a friend, save for boning a 15 year old. Always thinks he's right, everyone else is just as you state, a retard or an idiot. Man, grow the f*ck up and act like your 18, you're a disservice to other teens. Your parents are telling you to focus on "school and that crap" because even at 18, you still don't grasp the concept called RESPONSIBILITY. If your little fling is the number one priority on your mind, you're in for an awful shock when you find out it isn't going to be the accomplishment that pays for your house, pays your bills, or pays for college. Pull your head out of your ass and focus on what's important, not hormones.
CalvinHobbs
Senior member
i'll add to that, right now you find being with her good, well you don't have to take care of her when she's ill, when she's having her moods you're not facing it, you're only seeing the good things, meeting a girl and living with her, specially a kid..who's gonna cook,wash the dishes, do the linen, clean the house, or do you expect your parents to pay someone to do these for you??
OP;
One of the most important lessons that you will ever learn in life is 'Delayed Gratification'. Working on something now, to have the reward later. Saving for retirement. Going to college. Putting forth the effort to make a plan for the future. Until you learn this lesson, your life will always seem harder and your goals more distant than they need to be.
Instant gratification is the road to ruin, in more ways than you could possibly imagine at your age.
<-- Proud parent of a 19 year old daughter, and the survivor of one of these 'She was my soulmate and left her parents when she was 17 to marry me and it turned out very ugly because we got divorced and then she killed herself and fvcked up our daughter'.
I should've listened to my parents at the time and finished college first. Doubtful we would have ever gotten married, much less even been dating 2 years later,
One of the most important lessons that you will ever learn in life is 'Delayed Gratification'. Working on something now, to have the reward later. Saving for retirement. Going to college. Putting forth the effort to make a plan for the future. Until you learn this lesson, your life will always seem harder and your goals more distant than they need to be.
Instant gratification is the road to ruin, in more ways than you could possibly imagine at your age.
<-- Proud parent of a 19 year old daughter, and the survivor of one of these 'She was my soulmate and left her parents when she was 17 to marry me and it turned out very ugly because we got divorced and then she killed herself and fvcked up our daughter'.
I should've listened to my parents at the time and finished college first. Doubtful we would have ever gotten married, much less even been dating 2 years later,
Ricemarine
Lifer
and make sure you aren't over 18 when you do 😉.
CalvinHobbs
Senior member
fixed :laugh:
Dont be such a little bitch. Cry to someone else. Are you looking for us to side with you? Hell no. When you're 35 and your doing hard physical labor for a living, and your back hurts, and you wish you would have taken school more seriously, you would agree with me that getting a career is priority number one. For all you know, your girlfriend is going to dump you after she realizes what a loser with no job you are after high school. Then what do you have? NOTHING. Take it from me, you need to shut the hell up and think about the future. NOT NOW, because what you do now makes your future. Sure, you can be happy now, but what about the next 50 years of your life? Why am i wasting my time with you?
ding5550123
Senior member
this is what parents expect u to say
"'cause your so smart and i'm so dumb"
It's like they want you to worship them
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Parent POV
It's only be... bla bla bla
I have felt like killing my self.
And my parents are like that.
You should see my friends parents
(They don't leave the toaster plugged in!!!!!!!)
"'cause your so smart and i'm so dumb"
It's like they want you to worship them
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Parent POV
It's only be... bla bla bla
I have felt like killing my self.
And my parents are like that.
You should see my friends parents
(They don't leave the toaster plugged in!!!!!!!)
mi1stormilst
Golden Member
Sigh, get a grip, someday you will learn to understand and appreciate what your parents are trying to do for you, at the same time you will realize YOU were the idiot. If not, it's likely you will grow up to be a dead end loser living in a portable home with your toothless lover )-: Seriously just calm down and take it from those of us with a little more life experiance...they love you...they care...they are doing their best.
her parents will NEVER take you seriously if you never intend to marry her. first you want to spirit her away when she's underaged and hasn't even finished high school. next you want to move near her. you have no plans on how to take care of her, or even yourself, but "LOVE" will find it's way. if you have no plans, "LOVE" will come and go and move back in with her parents.
my bf and i have both graduated from college. a big national named one. he is currently in law school. but he still doesn't feel he is sufficient enough for my parents, and will not be until he is a practicing attorney. you literally have nothing to offer and her parents, and your parents, who want the best for you, will find this situation hard to believe.
why is it impossible for you to wait a few years, when you have more opportunities open and everyone can be more accepting? any parent would hate to have their children taken away by someone with no thoughts on the future. all the years of helping their own child out, and they're going to toss it away on "some guy that loves me and swears he'll take care of me." never. if you love her, in a few years if you can stand this (you said yourself more long distance relationships are lasting) you'll love her more still.
grow up. you're still too young to think about these things. everyone has already pointed this out - what happens if she's pregnant? "oh we'll go from there." can you afford to live on your own? do you want her to become another high school drop out statistic? "oh as long as we have each other we'll be fine." do you realize how ridiculous that statement is?
if you ever have kids, you will never say, when she is 15 "well if she's happy she can go live with him." never. you may think it now because of your situation, but in the end, you want what is best for your children. damnit i feel guilty now for all my parents have provided for me and i feel i've done nothing to show them the result of all their hard work and sacrifices. and it has been sacrifices, parents working different shifts so someone is always home, driving us around to all our activities, etc. no job in the world is more difficult than being responsible for the lives of what you have created.
you may not be happy, but she'd be miserable if she stayed with you. you want to hold on to her while she's disastisfied with you? she'll leave either way.
you crave the ability to be close to her at all times. being with someone is more than just being able to hold them whenever you want. that's just being in close proximity. to love someone is to see a future together. to share everything with them. and no matter how much you want to just make both sets of parents angry and to prove you are so right you can do this at 18, in the future you may come to regret this.
in the end, i still think you're too young to understand your actions and realize that school is more important than romance. finish high school. go to college. once you are semi adults when you're done with college, do whatever the heck you want. no one can stop you then.
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