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Why do only obese women like me?!?!

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Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Feel free to haev fun with this, I dunno if anyone can actually give me a serious answer....

I'm look good (or at the very least, decent). I dress good, I'm in awesome shape, I make good conversation...yet the same demographic keeps going after me; obese girls. and not just a LITTLE bit chubby. I mean obese. I'm 5 10 or 5 11 and 180 lbs, and EVERY girl that shows much interest in me weighs at LEAST as much as me...wtf. I mean, if i pursue a decent looking skinny girl, i can get the #, but they never pan out for some reason...Maybe because disiniterest attracts women, and I dont' act very interested in obese girls, so after I meet them they want to pursue me?!?!


and please nobody chime in with 'don't be shallow'. It's like my friend says 'no matter what anybody says, looks do matter. Nobody goes out and says 'hey there's someone i find repulsive, I'll go talk to them!'.
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I know exactly the feeling.

I would say more, but I dont want to trash on women, but AT could hate me for that, and then the mods might ban me.

Originally posted by: DanTMWTMP
Originally posted by: meltdown75
I partially agree with TheGoodGuy re: confidence issues.

My theory is that you exhibit much more confidence when communicating with women who you are not attracted to.

They sense it, and are attracted to you. If you can try to carry some of this to your relations with women you find more attractive, I think your success rate will improve.
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hmm, now that i think about that, that does seem true, lol. damn why didn't i see it?

anyways, LOL @ Thread at some of the replies :thumbsup:

very amusing thread :laugh:

and those who will post about being shallow and start another flamewar about shallowness and stuff, go to hell lol.
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good points!

Originally posted by: gigapet

4) No they are not that difficult to understand, its just the majority cannot take rejection so they dont go out and try and fail enough to come to an understanding. When you are seen with other women a woman thinks you must be desirable and she places a higher social value on you as you must possess the desirable traits that she is attracted to and boom you are attractive! not rocket science nor a life mystery.
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this logic doesnt take into account that the woman who is currently attached to the man could just be a fool, and the man may not be worth a pile of beans 😉
 
Originally posted by: KrillBee
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Feel free to haev fun with this, I dunno if anyone can actually give me a serious answer....

I'm look good (or at the very least, decent). I dress good, I'm in awesome shape, I make good conversation...yet the same demographic keeps going after me; obese girls. and not just a LITTLE bit chubby. I mean obese. I'm 5 10 or 5 11 and 180 lbs, and EVERY girl that shows much interest in me weighs at LEAST as much as me...wtf. I mean, if i pursue a decent looking skinny girl, i can get the #, but they never pan out for some reason...Maybe because disiniterest attracts women, and I dont' act very interested in obese girls, so after I meet them they want to pursue me?!?!


and please nobody chime in with 'don't be shallow'. It's like my friend says 'no matter what anybody says, looks do matter. Nobody goes out and says 'hey there's someone i find repulsive, I'll go talk to them!'.
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I know exactly the feeling.

I would say more, but I dont want to trash on women, but AT could hate me for that, and then the mods might ban me.
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I think it's fairly simple really... Guys see a hot looking woman and become intimidated. Women see a hot guy and think, "I can have that".
 
I think it's fairly simple really... Guys see a hot looking woman and become intimidated. Women see a hot guy and think, "I can have that".
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Are you trying to say that women approach men more than men approach women?? Please dont get me started.
 
Originally posted by: KrillBee
I think it's fairly simple really... Guys see a hot looking woman and become intimidated. Women see a hot guy and think, "I can have that".
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Are you trying to say that women approach men more than men approach women?? Please dont get me started.
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I think he means that guys have more trouble getting women than women do getting guys, so guys are naturally more intimidated than women are.
 
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
It's not about who approaches who.
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Sure it is, fat women are approaching this guy. your logic makes sense that the fat girls think they have a chance (or why else would they be approaching him?)
But obviously the fat women are failing in their attempts, because what they have to offer is not good enough for this guy.

When an average guy sees a hot girl, they dont bother approaching because they dont think they have a chance.

But thinking that you have a chance is not something you can change without changing your own attributes.
Dating works like a market. Those who have the most to offer, get the most in return.

Faking confidence is a way to fool people into making think that you have more to offer than you actually do.


Originally posted by: Mrvile

I think he means that guys have more trouble getting women than women do getting guys, so guys are naturally more intimidated than women are.
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for every man out there having trouble getting a woman, there is a woman out there having trouble getting a man.
 
500 fat ones, or 50 really fat ones?

It's a lot of things. Of course confidence, but as well you may be friendlier to the friendlier personalities of some women. The hot ones that are friendly tend to get guys that fixate on them so they're a bit more stand-offish, makes them seem stuck up. Also, good looking people tend not to have as many real problems in life so they tend to (of course, this is a general statement) fixate on shallower issues. For example, there was this one girl in class that had an obvious attraction for me. She'd follow me around a lot, that sort of thing. Very good looking girl too, blond hair blue eyes cheerleader sort (and straight-A student). She was pre-med, came in one day really upset. I asked her if she was OK, if something was wrong, she said she'd just read that the average doctor only makes something like 100k coming out of med school. My immediate response was that there are a lot of them working in clinics and doing things like peace corp which brings down the average, this actually made her feel better. That was the llast time I talked to her.
 
Originally posted by: gigapet
4) No they are not that difficult to understand, its just the majority cannot take rejection so they dont go out and try and fail enough to come to an understanding. When you are seen with other women a woman thinks you must be desirable and she places a higher social value on you as you must possess the desirable traits that she is attracted to and boom you are attractive! not rocket science nor a life mystery.
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Indeed.

More so when you are with an attractive girl that the girl thinks is attractive also = something MUST be good about YOU, if this OTHER ATTACTIVE girl is WITH YOU. So crazy.

Koing
 
Originally posted by: Koing
Originally posted by: gigapet
4) No they are not that difficult to understand, its just the majority cannot take rejection so they dont go out and try and fail enough to come to an understanding. When you are seen with other women a woman thinks you must be desirable and she places a higher social value on you as you must possess the desirable traits that she is attracted to and boom you are attractive! not rocket science nor a life mystery.
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Indeed.

More so when you are with an attractive girl that the girl thinks is attractive also = something MUST be good about YOU, if this OTHER ATTACTIVE girl is WITH YOU. So crazy.

Koing
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lol,
what if the hot girl that is with you has problems?

Thats not something an outsider can see easily.
 
Originally posted by: KrillBee
Originally posted by: Koing
Originally posted by: gigapet
4) No they are not that difficult to understand, its just the majority cannot take rejection so they dont go out and try and fail enough to come to an understanding. When you are seen with other women a woman thinks you must be desirable and she places a higher social value on you as you must possess the desirable traits that she is attracted to and boom you are attractive! not rocket science nor a life mystery.
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Indeed.

More so when you are with an attractive girl that the girl thinks is attractive also = something MUST be good about YOU, if this OTHER ATTACTIVE girl is WITH YOU. So crazy.

Koing
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lol,
what if the hot girl that is with you has problems?

Thats not something an outsider can see easily.
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Well, other girls generally don't care if the attractive girl with you has problems 😛 they still want you!

They don't know so they don't care!

Koing

 
Originally posted by: Koing


Thats not something an outsider can see easily.
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Well, other girls generally don't care if the attractive girl with you has problems 😛 they still want you!

They don't know so they don't care!

Koing

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So yeah, basically women arent logical is what you're saying. 🙂
 
Maybe you're like me. My problem is I really have a hard time picking up on the indications of interest that a woman shows in me. I've had friends say stuff like "Dude, why didn't you get her number, she was all over you?" when I really didn't see anything. I wish dating were more simple, with lines like "Hello Mary, I'm Bob, can I get your number and we can perhaps engage in future activities together?" Actually, maybe I'll try that. Reading all sorts of body language and stuff is dumb in my opinion.
 
Why is it I have the opposite problem? I kinda like the healthy ones, and hot skinny chicks always approach me. I know being extra nice usually is a turn off, and I try it, but they still don't leave me alone. From my earliest experience with the really good looking girls... they always turn out to be money grubbing unfaithful scandalous little bitches.

Truth FTW
 
Originally posted by: Agnostos Insania
I wish dating were more simple, with lines like "Hello Mary, I'm Bob, can I get your number and we can perhaps engage in future activities together?" Actually, maybe I'll try that. Reading all sorts of body language and stuff is dumb in my opinion.
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Originally posted by: Agnostos Insania
Maybe you're like me. My problem is I really have a hard time picking up on the indications of interest that a woman shows in me. I've had friends say stuff like "Dude, why didn't you get her number, she was all over you?" when I really didn't see anything. I wish dating were more simple, with lines like "Hello Mary, I'm Bob, can I get your number and we can perhaps engage in future activities together?" Actually, maybe I'll try that. Reading all sorts of body language and stuff is dumb in my opinion.
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YES! I get that constantly....everyone always tells me girls throw themselves at me, but I don't see it. See I'm cautious, so if I see a glance from a girl, I won't do ****** about it, a smile, I won't do ****** about that either, it basically takes a girl walking up to me for me to even contemplate taking a chance
 
Originally posted by: ribbon13
Why is it I have the opposite problem? I kinda like the healthy ones, and hot skinny chicks always approach me. I know being extra nice usually is a turn off, and I try it, but they still don't leave me alone. From my earliest experience with the really good looking girls... they always turn out to be money grubbing unfaithful scandalous little bitches.

Truth FTW
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haha that's so true though....I'm starting to doubt if there even is such a thing as a good looking girl who isn't a whorible whore.
 
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