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why do high school kids go through such pains to party?

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Originally posted by: guapo337
Originally posted by: jumpr
Originally posted by: guapo337
I dont understand it. I'm talking to one of my friends and she's planning on sneaking out tonight and whatnot basically just to get alcohol. Sneaking under your parents nose, and whatnot. Why not just get drunk without sneaking out while they're asleep to someone elses house? Confuses me. Along with that, I was having a conversation with some people about curfew. I was basically like "Yeah I come in at my curfew." Everyone was like "Awww what a good little boy" mocking me and whatnot. Why get in trouble? Why not just keep things peaceful and go out every night, slowly increasing your curfew?

Confuses me.
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I was JUST like you in high school (at least, I'm like the person you described 🙂). I would always come in 2 minutes before my curfew, and I never drank (save for two special occasions my senior year). Don't listen to people when they make fun of you for stupid stuff like that. I still hung around with some cool people during high school (i.e. no Counterstrike experts), but I just sorta held back when they did stupid stuff and got in trouble for it.

In the same vein, a lot of my friends in high school predicted that I'd go crazy partying and drinking and not having parents around when I got to college, but I didn't. I think that because of the way my parents raised me - respecting authority, being intelligent and not impulsive, and law abiding - I've turned out a LOT better than many of my friends.

And I still don't drink...that often. 🙂
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I drink. It's just I do it so that it doesnt involve sneaking out past my curfew (no, i dont drink alone). I see nothing wrong with drinking in college.
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I do it, but I know it's wrong. There's going to be something "wrong" with drinking until you're 21, whether or not you agree with the law.
 
Originally posted by: guapo337
Originally posted by: chrisms
Some people enjoy having fun with their friends rather than posting on ATOT.
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I have an incredible number of friends, and in fact, I drank last night. But it didnt involve sneaking out, or whatever. We had a damn good time, as well. I hang out with my friends all the time, and enjoy that time.
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Well what is curfew? Some people's curfew at 1am while others are like 10pm, so the earlier curfews would need to sneak out ... that your case for example, if you're curfew was set insanely early and you couldn't hang out with your friends would you sneak out? some people just dont want to miss out ...
 
Lighting up...they are just having fun. Sneaking out and doing wild stuff in high school and college is FUN. THey are great times and great memories and it is just part of the experience of growing up. I was pretty good in high school and found a lot of fun things to do without drinking and partying too much. When I hit college I partied pretty hard on the alchohol but that's it. We did some wild things and we had a damn good time doing it. Now I'm 26 and get drunk occasionally but people grow up and your friends will grow up too....I hope.
 
When I was younger, I used to come home 30 mins before I had to. That lasted about 6 months. I gained their trust and now I leave and come home whenever, no questions asked...
 
Originally posted by: Staley8
Lighting up...they are just having fun. Sneaking out and doing wild stuff in high school and college is FUN. THey are great times and great memories and it is just part of the experience of growing up. I was pretty good in high school and found a lot of fun things to do without drinking and partying too much. When I hit college I partied pretty hard on the alchohol but that's it. We did some wild things and we had a damn good time doing it. Now I'm 26 and get drunk occasionally but people grow up and your friends will grow up too....I hope.
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I know they're having fun. I have fun, too. I do so without pissing off my parents, and it is arguable that I therefore have MORE fun than those who get in fights when they come home.

 
I don't know, I didn't, so I have no idea what you're talking about. I also mever really had a curfew when I was in high school. My parents just told me to be home at a decent hour, b ut there were many time when I woudl come home around 2am and there wouldn't be a problem.
 
well, i look at it this way. i grew up always being a good kid, never getting in trouble, never had to sneak out or anything like that. i wasnt some great student goody boy, but i didnt do anything i didnt feel was right. i did steal alot but never got caught, but that ended at 12. my parents just let me do what i wanted to do, and i luckily didnt get in trouble in the process of having pre-mature freedom. sad thing is, you have so much freedom that you want your parents to ground you, and discipline you. i was one of the kids that did things at a pace that was right at the time. ended up losing the father son relationship that we had when i was a kid, completely gone now as a 21 year old. ironic eh? ive lost so much contact with my parents, that i dont even know my mothers age or real first/last name. but yeah, i never got in trouble or snuck out, theres no reason to. if your going to go party, just tell your parents or give them a hint that your going to one. dont lie and get caught, then get in a crapload of trouble, thats stupid.
 
Perhaps if some people were able to follow the rules layed out by their parents, they would build more trust with them and thus have more freedoms later on as opposed to having yelling matches everytime they go out.

<-----obeyed the parents when I was younger, they now allow me to drink while I'm home (I'm underage) and make my own choices. They respect me now because I respected them then.
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Thats exactly how things were with my dad, but i moved out willingly at 18.



 
what's a curfew. My parents never game me one and i turned out okay,atleast in some people views. Think parents should back off and let teenager be teenagers
 
Originally posted by: Ylen13
what's a curfew. My parents never game me one and i turned out okay,atleast in some people views. Think parents should back off and let teenager be teenagers
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No you didn't, and no they shouldn't. At least in your situation. Maybe if your parents got on your ass a little bit more, you'd have a job at the ripe old age of 23.
 
Originally posted by: jumpr
Originally posted by: Ylen13
what's a curfew. My parents never game me one and i turned out okay,atleast in some people views. Think parents should back off and let teenager be teenagers
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No you didn't, and no they shouldn't. At least in your situation. Maybe if your parents got on your ass a little bit more, you'd have a job at the ripe old age of 23.
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And maybe he could be speaking proper English or have actually learned in those Criminal Justice classes he took.
 
Originally posted by: redly1
Originally posted by: guapo337
Originally posted by: Electric Amish
Me too.

Most teenagers are dumb.
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Honestly, what's the point of defying your parents and being badass?
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OMFG, are you REALLY that square??
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Yeh! Geez Tim! You have to learn how to "flex" towards other shapes. Your friends are clearly all rectangles and your still a square! Geez, didn't you learn anything from Holt last year? 😀

~Aunix
 
Life is too short. Kids rarely understand why they have curfews. Enjoying life is much more a priority than learning an education when you are young and innocent. Then you spend the rest of your life simply WISHING you could enjoy life like you did when you were younger.

Having fun is only second to helping others. If you can have fun while helping others, you've achieved both.
 
Originally posted by: guapo337
I dont understand it. I'm talking to one of my friends and she's planning on sneaking out tonight and whatnot basically just to get alcohol. Sneaking under your parents nose, and whatnot. Why not just get drunk without sneaking out while they're asleep to someone elses house? Confuses me. Along with that, I was having a conversation with some people about curfew. I was basically like "Yeah I come in at my curfew." Everyone was like "Awww what a good little boy" mocking me and whatnot. Why get in trouble? Why not just keep things peaceful and go out every night, slowly increasing your curfew?

Confuses me.
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Why not just have an open dialogue with your parents about what you do. Chances are you'd be alot better off getting drunk while supervised and educated than sneaking around. Why not explain to your parents your need for freedom and that the rules and regulations are only going to breed negativity such as lying, sneaking and decietfulness.
 
My parents were not at all strict. I basically did everything I wanted without consequence. Of course, I didn't get into trouble really, so that might be part of it 🙂 I went to some parties, but found myself overwhelmed by the miasma of a bunch of drunken neanderthals. That never appealed to me...

It seems the stricter the parent the more they rebel.
 
Even though I was the oldest (the one that usually has the rules most strictly imposed upon them while the younger siblings get more lax rules) I've got to give my parents a big thumbs up for being pretty cool when I was in high school. They never really imposed a set curfew for me once I was old enough to drive and be out and about. They simply wanted to know where I was going to be and who I was going to be with (this was in the early 90s, just before everybody and their brother had cell phones on them at all times). I KNEW what was a reasonable time to be back and since I'm from a family of nightowls and insomniacs "late" for my family is about 2-3 hours later than most families. Maybe it was because I was a pretty good kid and never got into too much trouble that they trusted me. But I never really felt the desire to test their limits because I knew they were being gracious in trusting me and I didn't want to upset a good thing. So I upheld my end of the bargain and as a result was always able to stay out a lot later than some of my other friends who went the rebellious route.
 
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