Why do girls have to bullsh!t guys?

[Cyberian]

Originally posted by: MindStorm

Here's the explanation for my thinking she doesn't have a bf...typed out explicity for those slower people:

Well, that will sure help you to get intelligent answers.

 

[PistachioByAzul]

You are thinking too much.

 

[AvesPKS]

Originally posted by: MindStorm

Originally posted by: sygyzy
It seems like you thought this out because most of your post sounded like you thinking out loud. You said yourself that you wonder if she didn't have a bf, would she have said yes?

It seems like you are more upset at not knowing whether or not she would have gone out with you if she was sans boyfriend.

Exactly - that's why I didnt' like the "Bf" answer. I would have appreciated the "No" because it tells me, "No, I don't want to go out with you." No ambiguity there...so I can get over her quickly.

And to the person who said he's sure she said "No, I have a bf." I was there...she just said "I have a bf."

Well, that's where your next move is, so? What's he got to do with me?

 

[QueHuong]

Damn, this is a dog eat dog forum. For those of you criticizing me, I just wonder if you would ever even ask out a hot girl, no less even talk to one. Of course you did, right? Because your confidence is an unbreakable stone pillar...and that's why you spend a lot of time on AT.

 

[isaacmacdonald]

hehe. you are teh suX0r. seriously, this is something every guy has to learn at some point. Girls like attention. They will flirt with anyone. It doesn't mean they're interested, just that you're not stigmatized.

 

[boyRacer]

move on... no big deal... you shouldn't put all your eggs in one basket... 🙂 there's a lot more pretty girls out there

 

[Descartes]

Like many geeks, you analyze things WAY too much.

Keep in mind that not everyone provides unambiguous responses to questions; many people simply cannot answer yes/no to a question that may potentially hurt one's feelings. Try asking a woman if she's attracted to you when she isn't, and you'll almost never get an outright "no." Same thing here... she was just trying to spare your feelings most likely.

 

[anxi80]

I'll be seeing her again Monday and I'm just gonna have her tell me "No" because it's the only other acceptable answer for a guy had kept all of his crushes a secret. Anyone else who got rejected or got a BS answer empathize with me?

if you cherish any kind of future relationship with this girl (friendship, relationship, etc.), my suggestion is to not pursue it. she said 'i have a b.f', just accept it and move on. pestering her about it and asking for a 'No' does not make a good impression upon yourself.

 

[mrCide]

what's there to get over? it's not like you got attached to her..

 

[joe678]

after she told u she had a bf, u should have asked her if she had a sister...

 

[isaacmacdonald]

I'll be seeing her again Monday and I'm just gonna have her tell me "No" because it's the only other acceptable answer for a guy had kept all of his crushes a secret. Anyone else who got rejected or got a BS answer empathize with me?

wow, didn't even notice this part. sounds like your social skills have been severely retarded. More so than most. I'm not sure how old you are, or if you've ever had a sexual relationship, but this is a big faux-pas.

You've got to deal with these things on your own.

 

[Placer14]

Originally posted by: MindStorm
Damn, this is a dog eat dog forum. For those of you criticizing me, I just wonder if you would ever even ask out a hot girl, no less even talk to one. Of course you did, right? Because your confidence is an unbreakable stone pillar...and that's why you spend a lot of time on AT.

Bro, there's a lot of different minds and mindsets. Just cause you don't like the replies doesn't mean you should get upset. Half of AT is just looking to give a smartass answer that other people will laugh at and put in their sigs.

And besides....you asked...take it with a grain of salt and move on. 🙂

*Edit: BTW, you're winner of post 1900. 🙂 Congrats. :gift:

 

[anxi80]

Originally posted by: Placer14
Bro, there's a lot of different minds and mindsets. Just cause you don't like the replies doesn't mean you should get upset. Half of AT is just looking to give a smartass answer that other people will laugh at and put in their sigs.

^^^ placer, can i use this as a sig quote? 😛

 

[Hammer]

what you should have said in reponse: "So?"

there's not a ring on her finger... 😉

 

[Descartes]

Originally posted by: Hammer
what you should have said in reponse: "So?"

there's not a ring on her finger... 😉

Actually, he's right. Chances are the confidence, and slight arrogance, would increase your chances more than demanding she say no.

 

[Mr N8]

If you push her to get a yes or no answer, yo'll only end up pissing her off or scaring her away. In that case, you'll get a definite no, and most likely all of her friends wouldn't come near you after that either. Just give up and hope that she breaks up with the bf.

As far as the cruise goes, her grandparents probably took her on it, so why would they buy her bf a ticket, too? Some people value their family enough to unlatch from their bf/gf for a while. The fact that she didn't take him should be a comfort that in the event that she was single and you were able to hook up, she wouldn't be clinging day in and day out.

 

[Placer14]

Originally posted by: anxi80

Originally posted by: Placer14
Bro, there's a lot of different minds and mindsets. Just cause you don't like the replies doesn't mean you should get upset. Half of AT is just looking to give a smartass answer that other people will laugh at and put in their sigs.

^^^ placer, can i use this as a sig quote? 😛

Erm.....sure? 😱

 

[ivol07]

Just because she makes eye contact with you and jokes around she's suddenly flirting with you? Dude, thats not flirting. And you're making it sound like she owes you something. She didn't want to go out with you, she didn't want to sound like a bitch so she gave you the easiest answer. Get over it. She doesn't owe you sh!t. All she did was be nice to a co-worker (you).

 

[Jzero]

I'm so freakin' confused. How is "I have a boyfriend" LESS ambiguous than "No?"
No could mean a bajillion things - "I have a boyfriend." or "You are ugly as poop." or "Not this week, but maybe next week." or "No chance in hell."

No tells you jack.

"I have a boyfriend," whether it is truthful or not gives you the CLEAR and UNAMBIGUOUS point - she is NOT interested in you at all.

There's only one person giving bullsht here....

 

[richardycc]

dude you need help and don't ask her to say no again on monday, you might scare her or think you are a weirdo and thats not a good situation to be with a co-worker. Just move on and get laid, you will then forget about her.

 

Okay - my advice? Drop it. You've already asked her out, and she said no. That sucks - no one likes getting rejected. But you need to move on, stop obsessing over her four-word answer, and continue to treat her like a friend and keep up the flirting, friendliness, and humourous atmosphere in your workplace.

If you keep obsessing over her and her answer, it'll just get MORE awkward for you and it'll drive her further away from any possibility of a future friendship/relationship.

That sucks though - once during high school I asked a girl to lunch with me, and then when we were at lunch I asked her what she was doing that weekend. Her answer? "Oh, I'm going to the football game with my boyfriend."

Now THAT's a sh!tty way to turn someone down - when you're already on a date. Needless to say, the rest of lunch was pretty awkward for me.

 

[GoingUp]

drop it

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: bunker
Overreact much?

 

[jjones]

You were in the friends zone from the beginning. She could have said "Sure, when monkeys fly out my ass" or "I'm sorry but I don't do geeks" instead, and it wouldn't have made any difference.

 

[bolido2000]

How old are you? Are you retarded? People don't usually say "no"...they elaborate and say something unambigous like in this case. you are the only one fooling yourself.