Why can't people today take responsibility for their actions?

[konichiwa]

<< Lack of responsiblity -- encouraged by trial lawyers and liberals everywhere! >>

Right. All those trial lawyers and liberals infecting our children with the ideas to deny responsibility. You need to put down your rifle, step out of your compound and take a long look at the REAL world.

 

[Elita1]

It is alarming how society is really going for the &quot;blame someone else, reap the dough&quot; thing.
Perhaps it is because we are so geared towards convenience and comfort: find the quickest, easiest way to do things; the quickest, easiest way to gain, the fastest way out of a problem, the easiest way to make money, cook a meal, raise kids, buy a car, lose weight, get a house. You get in trouble? there are a million different ways to avoid or get out of it. All in the name of convenience and comfort.
I also think it starts at home. A lot of parents(not all, mind you) live a life of quickly bailing out of things, and do the same for their kids. This may seem beneficial on the surface, but in the end kids grow up thinking someone else will take care of their problems, or even better: blame their problems on someone else, get oodles of sympathy and therapeutic ego-rubbing and become patron saints of troubled teens.

Sorry for the rant, but I do see it all too often, and I know what Pastfinder is talking about.

 

[WordSmith2000]

Many parents of the last couple of generations are too busy chasing a dollar to really focus on what is important: raising their kids to become responsible adults. They think that if they have a lot of money, everything else will fall into place. Well, everything else does fall into place: Drug and alcohol abuse, teen pregnancy, poor grades, promiscuity, and everything else that befalls a teen without parenting.

These teens grow up to be the kind of adults who find it impossible to be responsible for their own actions.

If children are taught that they are responsible for their own actions, they will never have a victim mentality. If children are taught that civil adults settle disputes face to face, without lawyers, then they will not try to blame others for sh!t (life) happening. And when they grow up, they will be the kind of adults who pass such skills and knowledge on to their children.

The last time I had a parent/teacher conference about my daughter?s grades (from straight A?s to A?s, b?s and C?s), I was told that ?It was not her fault, all kids go thru this at a certain age.? I looked the woman in the eye and said ?That is the LAST time you will say something like that about my daughter. I will NOT accept a defeatist attitude about this?if she had good grades before, she will have good grades again.? The teacher was very very surprised?but she did as I asked. Then we worked on how to find out what the issues were with her schoolwork, and how to correct them. After having a long talk with my daughter about the results of the meeting, and helping her change the way she studies, her grades came back up.

It would have been easier to just blame the time of the year, puberty, boys, or whatever, but we chose the more difficult path?responsibility and acting towards changing the situation. There are many times when our teenager might dislike us sticking our noses into ?her? business, but she will not be allowed to drift like we have seen so often in her peers.

 

[Dually]

<< Many parents of the last couple of generations are too busy chasing a dollar to really focus on what is important: raising their kids to become responsible adults. They think that if they have a lot of money, everything else will fall into place. Well, everything else does fall into place: Drug and alcohol abuse, teen pregnancy, poor grades, promiscuity, and everything else that befalls a teen without parenting.

These teens grow up to be the kind of adults who find it impossible to be responsible for their own actions.

If children are taught that they are responsible for their own actions, they will never have a victim mentality. If children are taught that civil adults settle disputes face to face, without lawyers, then they will not try to blame others for sh!t (life) happening. And when they grow up, they will be the kind of adults who pass such skills and knowledge on to their children.

The last time I had a parent/teacher conference about my daughter?s grades (from straight A?s to A?s, b?s and C?s), I was told that ?It was not her fault, all kids go thru this at a certain age.? I looked the woman in the eye and said ?That is the LAST time you will say something like that about my daughter. I will NOT accept a defeatist attitude about this?if she had good grades before, she will have good grades again.? The teacher was very very surprised?but she did as I asked. Then we worked on how to find out what the issues were with her schoolwork, and how to correct them. After having a long talk with my daughter about the results of the meeting, and helping her change the way she studies, her grades came back up.

It would have been easier to just blame the time of the year, puberty, boys, or whatever, but we chose the more difficult path?responsibility and acting towards changing the situation. There are many times when our teenager might dislike us sticking our noses into ?her? business, but she will not be allowed to drift like we have seen so often in her peers. >>



That is awesome and you deserve a cookie. (I am not kidding) That is the kind of parent involvement that all parents need to do. I bet the teacher was taken aback that a parent actually cared.

 

[zmatrix]

There is the sad truth about lawyers who are willing to go after anything to get money. With lawyers like that who needs to be responsible.

Like that lady that got boatloads of money from McDonalds for that hot coffee incident. Talk about people not even having any common sense any more. Who the hell doesn't know coffee is served frickin hot at Mickey D's (or any place that is)! Or the lady that sued because she got burned on her lip with a hot pickle from a hamburger she ate and her husband who sued as well for his wife's so called injury that prevented her from servicing him.

And parents nowadays are pointing the finger to everything else. First they leave their kids to be raised by the media and then blames them for it when something goes worng without taking any responsibility.
Idiots!

 

[shiner]

<< It's our liberal teachers, press, parents etc... >>



Ding!! Ding!! Ding!! We have a winner!!! For years the liberals in this country have been preaching at us that we don't have to be responsible for ourselves and that it should be the government's job to take care of us.

 

[AndrewR]

<< Right. All those trial lawyers and liberals infecting our children with the ideas to deny responsibility. >>


For once, you have demonstrated some intelligence. Congratulations!

If you cannot see that the civil justice system in this country shuns personal responsibility on the part of plaintiffs, then you are truly a sad individual. Maybe you should try READING SOME ACTUAL COURT CASES instead of spouting off about something with which you are obviously hopelessly uninformed. Is ignorance bliss?

 

[ride525]

One word.....

Lawyers

 

[batgeek]

easy answer for the question asked:

there are alot of idiots out there.

 

[777joee]

The reason is simple. We need to stop making excuses for our actions. I know that is sounds simplistic but it starts at home. First Mom and Dad need to take action and make their children responsible at an early age. Two Give the teachers back the ability to control their classes. they will not have as many problems if the Moms and Dads are doing their part to start.





Any one see the thread?





It STARTS at home. DON'T have them (children)if YOU will leave them to somebody else to raise in child care. OK flame away but That is what I did. I'm 46 and have a 20 and a 18 year old (both girls) we sacrrificed the second income and the things to have a parent at home. If we start NOW in a couple of gennerations maybe things will get better.




I will stop my ranting....................

 

[Elledan]

I never really noticed this here, in Europe. Maybe it's typically American?

 

[Dually]

<< I never really noticed this here, in Europe. Maybe it's typically American? >>



O I did, when I was in Germany in 7th grade with my folks we had a lawyer issue. In a parkinglot a woman came running out screaming that one of our car doors scraped her car and it didn't. The police came and she was talking to them and then they came to talk to us and she was stunned to find out my dad can speak German. The police looked at our car and determined that there was no evidince of a scrape and she was pissed. She was running a scam to get money, the police had a file on her. Germanies system at the time is like CA's.

Remember most of our customs came from Europe and thats one of them.

 

[Elita1]

Good point, 777joee.

 

[777joee]

Elledan,

Yes it is American. We have lost the family structure. He have the I want attitude and stomp our feet if we don't get our way. It's like move next to the airport then complain about the noise!!!!!!

 

[lo5750ul]

Elledan, your signature seems to indicate your own actions. The apathy seeping into parenting is very apparent in Europe. Where I lived (a few places) there was always an abundance of single teenage moms (14-18) who looked like complete tarts and tramps. They would ensure their make-up, nails and clothes etc were perfect and would stand over their children puffing away on a cigarette while their children where dressed in scruffy clothes, breathing in the smoke.
FFS, what has happened to the 'mothering' instinct? What has happened to the morals of society? We as a society are becoming less respectfull to all things both physical and mental.

 

[Pastfinder]

hmm, Lawyers, the modern day Black Plague