Why can't I do it?

[Shawn]

Alright, this isn't easy to talk about (even online) and I'm not sure if this discussion is ok for here but here is the situation.... I've liked this one girl for a long time. We finally got hooked up (this was about a year ago) and well she is somewhat of a slutty girl but she's really nice and has a great personality, etc. She was my first kiss and really the only girl I've ever been with. Well she wanted to do me. So I'm just like OMG why???.... lol I thought that but I was like ok. So well we got into it but I couldn't "get it up". I was like wtf that's never happened before. So a week later we try it again. Same f'ing thing! I was like wtf is wrong with me!?!? Anyway I had just started taking antidepressants so I realized that had to be it because it was one of the side effects. So I got off them (even though I probably still needed them) but by that time she broke up w/ me and left me for someone else. She said it had nothing to do with that but knowing her it did. Anyway we got together and broke up 2 more times. We never really tried doing ?it? again... mainly because neither of us could drive and we could never get alone for long enough. The main reason we broke up was because we went to different schools and the long distance thing was hard. We've been broken up for a month now but now that I finally drive and I decided to drop by and just be like look at me I got my license. Anyway her parents weren't home..... and I don't even remember how it started but got to where we were gonna do it. All I could think about though is what if it happens again. Well guess what, it did! :| She was just like "why do you have to be so damn difficult?" Anyway I had to leave for work but I dropped by the next day for some reason. She then told me that she only thought of me as a friend.... blablabla. Anyway this fvcking sucks. I blew the last chance of ever getting any from her and probably for a long time too. Even if I did get another chance I know the same thing would happen because I'm so worried about it happening. The thing is I don't have these problems though... I get f'in ?get it up? all the time. This one hot girl who?s a friend of mine was feeling up my leg (as a joke) a few weeks ago and I started to get hard. Why is it that I can't with my ex? She's soo damn hot too. I?m sorry if this isn?t appropriate for these forums. I?m just really getting depressed about the whole thing.

 

[guyver01]

Originally posted by: iloveme2
Why can't I do it?

do what? learn punctuation?

 

[Cuda1447]

Cliff Notes?


*edit* nm read first 2 sentences.... YAGT!

 

[boyRacer]

you've gotta be kidding me...

 

[N8Magic]

Extreme nervousness your first time is normal, and that is likely what is preventing your soldier from saluting.

Try not to think about it and just go with the flow.

 

[Shawn]

Originally posted by: N8Magic
Extreme nervousness your first time is normal, and that is likely what is preventing your soldier from saluting.

Try not to think about it and just go with the flow.

I can't not think about it. I think too damn much. Maybe I need to get drunk first...

 

[Shaftatplanetquake]

You are pathetic. Do what Bob Dole did, get viagra.

 

[N8Magic]

Originally posted by: iloveme2

Originally posted by: N8Magic
Extreme nervousness your first time is normal, and that is likely what is preventing your soldier from saluting.

Try not to think about it and just go with the flow.

I can't not think about it. I think too damn much. Maybe I need to get drunk first...

Whiskey dick is even worse than nervousness.

Have a couple (2) drinks or so to lose some of your inhibitions, but don't overdo it.

 

[guyver01]

Originally posted by: Cuda1447
nm read first 2 sentences.... YAGT!

well.. in that case..

we'll need :camera: if ya want help

 

[zippy]

Edit your subject and put "YAGT" in the title to warn the people that don't enjoy these.

Anyway, yeah dude, you're just nervous as hell. Loosen up, from what you said, she's pretty promiscuous, so you have nothing to worry about - she isn't nervous and she'll guide you if you're unsure.

BTW, holy crap dude - paragraphs are your friend. :Q

 

[Kadarin]

In addition to trying to relax, if you're fapping a lot, try to cut down on the frequency as that'll tend to reduce your sensitivity.

 

[aswedc]

yeah its definately the depression medication, a friend of mine had the same problem. see your doctor, he switched to another one which didn't have bad side effects and worked better anyways

 

[Hammer]

have a few drinks. you're thinking about it too much.

 

[wfbberzerker]

Originally posted by: Hammer
have a few drinks. you're thinking about it too much.

and learn to make paragraphs.

 

[MacBaine]

I think you need to grow up a bit first.

 

[BeauJangles]

Seriously, just relax. not being able to get it up the first time (or first few times) is actually very common. Believe it or not, if you are freaked out, it just won't happen. Also, don't think about it so much. If you are with a girl that makes you worry about that, she's honestly not the right kind of girl. She has to understand that it's 100% normal for that to happen and, if it happens again, it's not because you don't like her or don't want to have sex, it's just because your normal and nervous.

Relax and just try to enjoy being with her.