Why Are You Single?

[thawolfman]

Shy, have a hard time talking to girls. When I get closer to a girl who's interested in me, I try to do to much and usually F:Qck it up by trying to be mr. nice guy....I'll admit the single life is nice, but after awhile it's like Not having much self confidence(bad pic ) doesn't help either...oh well

Sure sucks that nice guys always finish last...

 

[datalink7]

Single.

I used to think this was because I am shy. Well, I don't think that it it anymore. Though I am shy, I think it is more because I am boring.
I'm not good looking. I'm not funny. I don't have some extraordinary talent (like playing an instrument). I'm not great at any sports. It is like I
have nothing going for me. I don't have any outstanding bad qualities either. I'm not ugly (just not good looking). I'm not overweight, etc.

It is like I'm the epitomy of normalness. Like that person you compare against that doesn't really exist. The average person with 100 IQ, 1000 SAT,
etc. (that isn't what I got on my SAT or IQ. I got 1240 on SAT and didn't take any IQ tests ever. But I just used that to make a point).

That is my take on it anyway.

 

[Geekbabe]

<< Single.

I used to think this was because I am shy. Well, I don't think that it it anymore. Though I am shy, I think it is more because I am boring.
I'm not good looking. I'm not funny. I don't have some extraordinary talent (like playing an instrument). I'm not great at any sports. It is like I
have nothing going for me. I don't have any outstanding bad qualities either. I'm not ugly (just not good looking). I'm not overweight.

It is like I'm the epitomy of normalness. Like that person you compare against that doesn't really exist. The average person with 100 IQ, 1000 SAT,
etc. (that isn't what I got on my SAT or IQ. I got 1240 on SAT and didn't take any IQ tests ever. But I just used that to make a point).

That is my take on it anyway. >>



oh,please don't feel that way ! We all have something special about ourselves, there is a beauty in the ability to be solid and consistant
in mood and in the way you conduct your life, don't sell yourself short !!

 

[Angrymarshmello]

datalink7 - I feel the same way a lot of the time. I see a beautiful woman and go "why the hell would someone like that even give me the time of the day, much less her number". I'm plain, boring, not really all that intelligent, so forth.

And regarding talking to women as friends - it's not like going up to a group of guys and making new friends - with women it's totally different. I don't have a problem going up to women - it's starting a conversation and keeping one going that always gets me.

 

[JEDI]

<< several reasons, some bs, some not:

1.I'm shy. I have friends that I hang out with, but I'm not the type of person that goes out and picks up someone, in a bar, anywhere else for that matter, meeting someone brand new that wasn't introduced to me isn't something I enjoy doing.
4. Physically, most women don't find me attractive. >>

 

[AmazonRasta]

Fear of rejection.

 

[Frosty3799]

cause im a senior in high school, and most likely wont see any of these people again after graduating and going to college

 

[Dragnov]

<< Interesting question. My bf and I just split up, extremely amicably, because we don't feel that dating each other is where God wants us right now (if I didn't feel that, I'd be making a much bigger fuss than I am) and because the relationship we were having wasn't to either of our satisfaction at the moment. Being single again, I'm not looking for another guy, not at all interested. I don't feel like I need a guy to make my life all good, and I enjoy being friends with guys without all the dating-stuff messing up the fun of hanging out with them. Fortunately, maybe because I make my views pretty widely known, no guys seem to consider me as anything potentially female, just as someone to hang with. So, why'm I single? God's timing, lack of desire for a guy right now, and (I'll be honest) whether because they know I'm not interested or because I'm not interesting enough, no guys like me *like that*. >>



But if you do that, chances are thats all you'll bee. "I only want to be friends". "You're like a brother for me."

 

[ScottyB]

<< Why Are You Single? >>

have been for 19 years, guess its habit, or the fact that I can't talk to girls *They're scary*

 

[datalink7]

<< datalink7 - I feel the same way a lot of the time. I see a beautiful woman and go "why the hell would someone like that even give me the time of the day, much less her number". I'm plain, boring, not really all that intelligent, so forth.

And regarding talking to women as friends - it's not like going up to a group of guys and making new friends - with women it's totally different. I don't have a problem going up to women - it's starting a conversation and keeping one going that always gets me. >>



Wow... we feel alike. I think I am intelligent in some things (philosophy I am good at, and computers), but no one seems interested in those.

Oh well. I can still hope that some day I'll find someone

 

[hzl eyed grl]

<< Hmm, not sure I wanna go there...

Glad you realized you were better off without him! Now I can have you all to my self, hehe

~Chelsea >>


LOL Yeah, I knew I was better off without him when I was with him. lol I just tried to convince myself that it might get better and he wouldn't be such a creep. It never happened. So....I said adios. I'm all yours babe! Heehee

 

[Daniel]

I've got the perpetual problem of "wrong person/right time, wrong time/right person" going on. The girls I've known that I would kill to be in a relationship with usually have some jackass bf, not really being one to try to break them up I fall into the friend zone?. The girls I have been with have never worked out all that well, was with one for 4.5 years but in hindsight it was hell.

Now though, its much more the right time, yet my life anymore doesn't really have me meeting anyone new for awhile. I work in a small place with no chances there, when I'm not working I'm training in martial arts which doesn't really bring any opportunities to meet girls there either. Once you get out of school, aren't into the bar scene, etc, it really seems to cut out a lot of chances to meet new people, all the rest of my family is married and settled so there aren't even single friends around.

As some other people have said, I don't need another person to be really complete, but when its good its damn good and I miss that.

 

[Polgara]

I'm painfully shy and can't talk to women to save my life.

I understand why. I wish I could get all hot about a really nice guy. But you guys never take charge, you guys don't usually work out, you guys aren't the kind to grab me around the waist and give me a kiss I'll daydream about instead of working. Right now, I think that I can tell a real @ass of a guy because I am attracted to him.

I think it's because there aren't any nice MEN around. The apha-males all seem to be jerks. Where are the men like my Daddy? Tough as nails, self-assured, and honest as the day is long.

I'll bet you would be a great boyfriend. What you need to do is to transform youself into something akin to the classic Southern gentleman - Warrior, Scholar, Poet.

Sarah <== wishes she was a Lesbian sometimes

 

[JEDI]

<< because i am tired of life




Jen >>



um..should we start worrying? Suicide hotline anyone?

 

[amdskip]

cause I'm shy and just too busy between school and work

 

[ultimatebob]

Three reasons, all closely related:

#1 I spend way the hell too much time at work.

#2 The people are at my workplace are mostly a bunch of politically correct types, that consider it unprofressional to talk about their personal problems or social lives in the office.

#3 When I finally get home, I don't feel like going out.

I'm also not the kind of person who hangs out at bars, or goes to a gym.

 

[Linux23]

so what this post is summarizing is that a significant portion of Anandtech members, are, single?

being single is not bad, but being with someone you love is better, IMHO.

 

[AndyTriboletti]

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<< I'm painfully shy and can't talk to women to save my life. >>

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[yoda291]

To be honest, as nice as it is to have someone "there" ... I can honestly say I have neither energy or time to give to another human being who isn't writing my paycheck or grading my performance **academically you silly people**. I can honestly say that I feel this is unfair to the other person and I will always end up feeling guilty about it and I imagine she'd prolly want to see the person she's involved with more than once a millenium.

Then again, this could all just be an excuse to cover up a lack of penile fortitude...j/k .... no seriously...I am just kidding.

 

[goodoptics]

<< I am single, just havent wanted a relationship since my last one, nice to spend some quality time with yourself sometimes >>


Amen.

 

[Sir Fredrick]

Because I broke up with my ex. And since I moved here to be with her, I don't know many other people. There's one girl I'd be interested in, but I'm not making any moves because I'm moving back to FL in a few months, and I absolutely positively refuse to do the long distance relationship thing yet again.

 

[datalink7]

<< I'm painfully shy and can't talk to women to save my life.

I understand why. I wish I could get all hot about a really nice guy. But you guys never take charge, you guys don't usually work out, you guys aren't the kind to grab me around the waist and give me a kiss I'll daydream about instead of working. Right now, I think that I can tell a real @ass of a guy because I am attracted to him.

I think it's because there aren't any nice MEN around. The apha-males all seem to be jerks. Where are the men like my Daddy? Tough as nails, self-assured, and honest as the day is long.

I'll bet you would be a great boyfriend. What you need to do is to transform youself into something akin to the classic Southern gentleman - Warrior, Scholar, Poet.

Sarah <== wishes she was a Lesbian sometimes >>



It's our wits that make us men
--Quoted from Braveheart

But seiously, I wish I could be strong. But it just isn't in me. So basically, I'm perpetually condemed to be the one holding open the door while others pass through. I can see life going on past, but am not able to partake in it.

But maybe I serve a purpose in life As Mark Twain once said "Be thankful for fools. Without them, the rest of us wouldn't succeed." Maybe I'm that fool, allowing success in others. So give me a nod of thanks, you happy people, as you pass by me through that door. For even this fool cherishes a little recognition.

 

[Orsorum]

<< It's our wits that make us men
--Quoted from Braveheart

But seiously, I wish I could be strong. But it just isn't in me. So basically, I'm perpetually condemed to be the one holding open the door while others pass through. I can see life going on past, but am not able to partake in it.

But maybe I serve a purpose in life As Mark Twain once said "Be thankful for fools. Without them, the rest of us wouldn't succeed." Maybe I'm that fool, allowing success in others. So give me a nod of thanks, you happy people, as you pass by me through that door. For even this fool cherishes a little recognition. >>



You'd be surprised what you have in you... sometimes, it just takes extenuating circumstances to bring those types of changes.

Never relegate yourself to the realm of fools, or to never accomplishing anything for yourself. Again, circumstances and grace are what often spur on change in otherwise stagnant people.

 

[MikeO]

Well, let's see here...

(1) I'm a weird mofo and I don't think there are many girls out there who could bear me
(2) I'm the exact opposite of everything that makes a man physically attractive
(3) I couldn't stand someone being around me *all the time*
(4) I never go anywhere where I could meet new people
(5) I don't like to talk with strange people
(6) My extreme dislike of todays MTV culture lowers my chances of finding a girl by 98%
(7) Much of my life is dedicated for my band (playing guitar and writing music), it's not just a hobby...

Umm yeah.

 

[gohan]

Lots of reasons

1. still live at home
2. After i broke up with my ex, i became bitter towards women. (lack of trust)
3. shy
4. Never go out anywhere
5. ATOT
6. I'm too nice
7. I drive a Hyundai (nuff said)