Why are adults embarrassed to cry?

[Mixolydian]

It seems that many adults, especially men, are embarrassed to cry. I've heard people say that this is because crying is a sign of weakness. But why is that the case? Crying is a natural response to physical/emotional pain or trauma. Why is a natural response a weakness? :hmm:

Can any ATOT psychologists shed some light on this?

 

[HeXen]

I think it's just something some prefer to do alone.

 

[SandEagle]

 

[brianmanahan]

because it is what babies do

when i was 8 i witnessed a baby crying nonstop for about a week. i told myself that i should never cry again, because crying is for babies.

20 years later and i have stayed true to my word.

 

[manimal]

because it is what babies do

when i was 8 i witnessed a baby crying nonstop for about a week. i told myself that i should never cry again, because crying is for babies.

20 years later and i have stayed true to my word.

It's ok Brian

It wasn't your fault.

Let it go


/starts hugging Brian

 

[JManInPhoenix]

It depends. I cried like hell when I knew my dad was going to die. Crying over a loved one's death or bad medical diagnosis is perfectly acceptable. Crying over trivial bullshit is not.

 

[ThinClient]

I'm not embarrassed to cry; I simply don't cry very often and when I do it's behind closed doors and alone. I grieve privately. People who can't control themselves in public are fine by me, as long as they're not wailing about and being obnoxious about something trivial, extreme situations obviously excluded.

 

[nickbits]

Real men don't cry because they are not supposed to be emotional. I almost cried (ie got pretty choked up) when I thought I was dying. My dad starts to cry a bit when he starts talking about his cancer prognosis. Other than that he has never cried that I know of, although my mom said he cried when I was born but I have no way to verify obviously.

 

[brianmanahan]

/starts hugging Brian

let go of me man!

 

[sixone]

They're embarrassed because crying is a public expression of things they'd rather keep private.

It's not complicated.

 

[ThinClient]

Embarrassment isn't part of it. Don't make ignorant blanket statements based on your own personal hatred of men.

 

[sixone]

Embarrassment isn't part of it. Don't make ignorant blanket statements based on your own personal hatred of men.

You should be embarrassed about your ignorant blanket statement based on your own personal hatred of me.

 

[ThinClient]

You should be embarrassed about your ignorant blanket statement based on your own personal hatred of me.

I don't hate you in the slightest and have posted absolutely nothing to even suggest that I do. Your own posting history proves that you hate men to an irrational degree. A blanket statement, by definition, must include more than one person, so you're not even using the term correctly. This post is so fail it hurts.

(I might go cry about it in private)

 

[Mixolydian]

(I might go cry about it in private)

just don't be embarrassed about it, please.

 

[sixone]

I don't hate you in the slightest and have posted absolutely nothing to even suggest that I do. Your own posting history proves that you hate men to an irrational degree. A blanket statement, by definition, must include more than one person, so you're not even using the term correctly. This post is so fail it hurts.

(I might go cry about it in private)

Your blanket statement about my posting history is completely false. Since it can't possibly be based in objectivity, the only reasonable motivator is your feelings.

Have a good cry, you'll feel better.

 

[mmntech]

because it is what babies do

when i was 8 i witnessed a baby crying nonstop for about a week. i told myself that i should never cry again, because crying is for babies.

20 years later and i have stayed true to my word.

Show me on this doll where Brianmanahan touched you. :whiste:

 

[ThinClient]

Your blanket statement about my posting history is completely false. Since it can't possibly be based in objectivity, the only reasonable motivator is your feelings.

Have a good cry, you'll feel better.

Your posts in L&R and any time you make comments about men in other forums prove it, plain and simply. You've also proven a myriad of times that you're the kind that can't let something go and absolutely MUST have the last word.

Go ahead, prove me right.

 

[SandEagle]

Show me on this doll where Brianmanahan touched you. :whiste:

http://explosm.net/comics/2600/

 

[Ventanni]

Real men don't cry because they are not supposed to be emotional. I almost cried (ie got pretty choked up) when I thought I was dying. My dad starts to cry a bit when he starts talking about his cancer prognosis. Other than that he has never cried that I know of, although my mom said he cried when I was born but I have no way to verify obviously.

There's nothing wrong with shedding a tear or two as a man when the time is appropriate; we're not to be emotionless creatures. Crying is a perfectly natural and healthy response to emotional pain, loss, or even extreme bouts of joy, and the emotional out pore can sometimes be triggered by physical bouts of pain as well. If you choose to suppress this emotion, then it will most likely resurface elsewhere in ways that's highly destructive to both yourself and others.

That'd doesn't mean force yourself to cry. That's not what I'm saying. But what I am saying is that we have to be careful not to suppress our emotions that pave the way through the grieving process. If you're just not a crier, then that's fine. But if you're suppressing the urge because of some macho view of what a man should be, then that's just unhealthy. Grieving has to be worked through, not worked around or avoided.

Everyone grieves in a different way. Sometimes that involves crying, and sometimes that doesn't, but whether you cry or not has nothing to do with your manhood. Real men recognize their emotions and deal with them appropriately; they don't suppress them.

 

[sixone]

Your posts in L&R and any time you make comments about men in other forums prove it, plain and simply. You've also proven a myriad of times that you're the kind that can't let something go and absolutely MUST have the last word.

Go ahead, prove me right.

My posts have already proven you wrong.

I'll be happy to let you have the last word, when you tell the TRUTH.

 

[sixone]

There's nothing wrong with shedding a tear or two as a man when the time is appropriate; we're not to be emotionless creatures. Crying is a perfectly natural and healthy response to emotional pain, loss, or even extreme bouts of joy, and the emotional out pore can sometimes be triggered by physical bouts of pain as well. If you choose to suppress this emotion, then it will most likely resurface elsewhere in ways that's highly destructive to both yourself and others.

That'd doesn't mean force yourself to cry. That's not what I'm saying. But what I am saying is that we have to be careful not to suppress our emotions that pave the way through the grieving process. If you're just not a crier, then that's fine. But if you're suppressing the urge because of some macho view of what a man should be, then that's just unhealthy. Grieving has to be worked through, not worked around or avoided.

Everyone grieves in a different way. Sometimes that involves crying, and sometimes that doesn't, but whether you cry or not has nothing to do with your manhood. Real men recognize their emotions and deal with them appropriately; they don't suppress them.

I didn't make the post you quoted.

 

[lyssword]

Crying is obviously a sign of "giving up" and men would be looked down upon unless it's some dramatic circumstance. Besides, I think it is actually harder for men to cry on small things like movies/music, I can't imagine crying because of a movie no matter how touching and how much emotion I feel. Maybe a bit choked up.

In summary: hard physiologically and 0 benefit as seen in society. Men face probably more strict gender roles than women, enforced by both men and women.

 

[ThinClient]

My posts have already proven you wrong.

I'll be happy to let you have the last word, when you tell the TRUTH.

Deny! Deny! Deny! Deflect! Deflect! Deflect!

 

[sixone]

Deny! Deny! Deny! Deflect! Deflect! Deflect!

Can't let me have the last word, can you?

 

[noobsrevenge]

I think when women cry its an obvious to everyone "Yes im on my period and emotional " and in that case it would be 'embarrassing' per se.

... you know.. unless its something serious. In which case its forgiven.