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Whose Fault Is This: The School Or The Father

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Who is at fault here?

  • The School

  • The Father

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Soundmanred said:
Having a barber for a parent should make it easy then.
This isn't about the hair, it's about a parent disregarding a rule and a prerequisite for attending a good (a relative term) school and then blaming the school to have the audacity to stick by those rules.
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So her choices are shave her head or get her hair relaxed? :thumbsdown:
 
i place more blame of the father then the school. It is a private school and he knew the rules before he put her in. he decided to ignore them.


But the little girls hair was not that bad. nothing i would think should be a problem.
 
There's always one person in a controversial thread that is inexplicably angry and relentless in their posting - that's what I love about this place.
 
The only thing I got from all this is that the managers of that school are very uptight. I certainly wouldn't put my kids in a school that was so anal about hair.
 
Red Storm said:
The only thing I got from all this is that the managers of that school are very uptight. I certainly wouldn't put my kids in a school that was so anal about hair.
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depends. To be honest a school like that could be great for some students.
 
waggy said:
depends. To be honest a school like that could be great for some students.
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This is what this school is for. Strict and uptight, AND GETS RESULTS.
That's why they have a waiting list to get in.
If you don't want to take advantage of it, send them to a shitty public school and watch them struggle and fail. But at least they get to wear their hair the way they like! 🙂
 
Soundmanred said:
This is what this school is for. Strict and uptight, AND GETS RESULTS.
That's why they have a waiting list to get in.
If you don't want to take advantage of it, send them to a shitty public school and watch them struggle and fail. But at least they get to wear their hair the way they like! 🙂
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I like how the only other option is shitty public school. There are other good private schools that aren't so uptight with kids expressing themselves.
 
TerryMathews said:
Let's revisit this. Why does the administration being black make the rule fair?
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His original point was that white people wouldn't recognize dreads (possible) and might think she had them when she didn't, whereas most black people know what dreads look like and would make the correct call.
 
Red Storm said:
I like how the only other option is shitty public school. There are other good private schools that aren't so uptight with kids expressing themselves.
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But this is a charter school in very poor area, where your choice is a crappy public school, or get lucky (it's a lottery based admission system). They don't pay to go there, they have the privilege to go there.
If I were poor, I would scratch and claw to get my kid to go there.
 
Soundmanred said:
But this is a charter school in very poor area, where your choice is a crappy public school, or get lucky (it's a lottery based admission system). They don't pay to go there, they have the privilege to go there.
If I were poor, I would scratch and claw to get my kid to go there.
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That is different then. I was speaking more about what I would do for my own kids, but if you're in a situation where it's only those two options, then yes you go for it. I still think it's wrong for any school to be so anal about something as trivial as hair though. Creating/reinforcing a unfair negative connotation to something like dreads is a puzzling move. Why would you want to mold and send out kids that all look, talk, act, and think the same?
 
Red Storm said:
That is different then. I was speaking more about what I would do for my own kids, but if you're in a situation where it's only those two options, then yes you go for it. I still think it's wrong for any school to be so anal about something as trivial as hair though. Creating/reinforcing a unfair negative connotation to something like dreads is a puzzling choice.
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I do believe that's the inherent problem with a cursory glance at the story.
Some would say "that's insane, I'd just go somewhere else!" but that school was their best option for a good education, no doubt about it.
I'd liken it to a restaurant giving out free food, but you had to wear shoes to get it, yet refusing to wear shoes. Then complaining about it "They wanted me to wear shoes, that's not fair! I should be able to express myself!".
He looked at the gift horse and said "screw you, I'll do what I want".
 
Jodell88 said:
Oh look, not one black woman has natural hair.
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And?

That's like going to a private school that requires students to wear uniform and saying "Oh look, not one school administrator is wearing a uniform. They're all wearing suits."
 
Spirit of the rule would be to avoid distractions, like the people who look like they have a giant matted octopus of dread locks. The school seems to have selectively enforced the rule on her this year, but ignored it previously. Someone probably complained and the school had no choice but to act. The little girl's hair wasn't outrageous, but it seems like dad had an axe to grind and did it at the cost of the daughter's happiness. Dumb dad, but rule could also be reworded to avoid situations like this.
 
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