Who's ever dated someone at work? Is it unusual?

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simms

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Well, I'm just curious as to if anyone ever has. I've seen a couple commericals (Like one for Tim Hortons) where that's happened, and I work part time, so I'm wondering - is that usually acceptable, is that a no-no? I'm 17, just looking for some casual going-out stuff like that.

Need the input of ATOT's fine members, as you are truly my guidance cousellor/teacher etc... :)
 
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is it unusual? no... in fact it happens more because you spend more time at work than home.....


but it is weird if you break up, or fight... now ya gotta work with someone you hate..

 
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Originally posted by: guyver01
is it unusual? no... in fact it happens more because you spend more time at work than home.....


but it is weird if you break up, or fight... now ya gotta work with someone you hate..
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I'm still a student, so it's part time - I see her about 4 hours a week during work. She goes to a school near me and we live within the same.. well about 5 min away. Not too far.
 

I have not ever dated someone at workplace. However, it is not at all unusual.

The problem with dating someone you met at workplace is, should anything go wrong, you're screwed. It will affect your job. One or both parties would feel uncomfortable and your business is likely to be exposed to the entire firm. It isn't at all recommended.
 
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i've done it a couple times. None of them worked in my favor. I still work with one of the girls...it's nothing but frustrating. IMO, i wouldn't do it again, but you only live once. Do it and you'll never know unless you do it...you may end up marrying this girl. Try before you buy ;)

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Don't get your bread where you get your butter.

Though if you don't mind the risk of losing your job go for it. Just don't complain when you lose your job. :/
 
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never date someone at work, you could get slapped with a sexual harrassment lawsuit or just get fired if something goes wrong.
 
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Married 2 from work, just be careful & use common sense...

Is there a policy against it @ your workplace?
 
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blakeatwork

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im not gonna repeat eveything that has already been said but they do raise valid points .. but if you do decide to date someone you work with you have to remember that it is work and not your own personal playground .. when your working the relationship part ie .. the hugging, kissing etc .. is better left outside of work .. keeping the professional and the personal seperate is important both for you and for the people around you who dont really care that your together ... if you can keep that in mind then there should be no problem .. if it dosent work out then you deal with that as it comes ...
 
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Ok - but maybe see this from a student's viewpoint. I'm not working full time at an office. I work at a pool, few hours a week. There are no policies - ah, I'll drop it, I guess.

It's one of those High School dilemmas :)
 
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I know a guy who worked with his wife; they rode together in the morning, worked in the same department virtually side-by-side, took their breaks and lunch together, then rode back home together. GAWD!

I don't understand how anyone could spend that much time together and not end-up doing the murder-suicide thing. People just get under my skin if I'm with them constantly, all the time, day after day, week after week, even people who are likable. This guy has done this for over 10 years! But when they are having a fight, everyone knows it, brother.

It is my personal rule not to become involved with anyone I work with. I've had several opportunities, but have never once broken this rule.

If they were in a different department WAY over in some other building, or if we worked different shifts, maybe.
 
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The more people there are at your workplace, the worse the idea of dating someone from there becomes.

People like to talk and the stories that make the rounds aren't always accurate...
 
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People like to talk and the stories that make the rounds aren't always accurate...
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In addition, I've seen people 'tip-toe' around those involved in relationships at work, they KNOW that anything they tell the one half is going to get passed to the other half. What if your complaint is with the other half? Its just a potentially uncomfortable situation for everyone, not just the two involved.
 
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Which is true. What if two co-workers are already doing it? The setting is really casual. We're all in univ/high school so everything's laid back.
 
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most of this advice seems to be geared at people on a career path. You're in HS, go for it, but what they say is right, if it ends bad, it could mean you trying to find other work.
 
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ok i have a story for you, just a few weeks ago i went out on a date with somebody from work. had a fun time mess around etc. . . then for some odd reason i decided it was weird for me, so we stopped. then a few days later she is dating my friend who also works at the same place as both of us do who originally was the middle man that hooked us up. i'm pretty sure everybody at works also knows what is going on too. in the end it doesn't bother me though, i still consider them very good friends. it will not always happen like this though i can guarantee you that. i'm still sort of surprised things are going as well as they are. the chances of somebody leaving or being very pissed off are quite high.
 
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Originally posted by: The Dancing Peacock
most of this advice seems to be geared at people on a career path. You're in HS, go for it, but what they say is right, if it ends bad, it could mean you trying to find other work.
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Thanks for clarifying that. I bet if something did happen, there'd be lots of water cooler talk about it, but the only problem is WE DON'T HAVE A WATER COOLER because we're not a Full-time company! Like... imagine yourself as a teen - would you do it? Better question.
 
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When I was in HS, I dated the twin sis of a girl I worked with... man, that turned out to be interesting... in short: It can create a few uncomfortable situations, but it's a LOT of fun. I say go for it:D
 
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simms

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I think I might, who knows? Ask to like semi or prom ..haha :) Thanks guys
 
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