When you find out your "parents" aren't your real parent.

[jonesalice34]

Did you try to talk to them frankily?

 

[ItsMeeYourDaddy]

18th birthday I got sat down for the "your real parents are talk" from dad. I know your feels.

 

[werepossum]

You guys thank you. Hell a complete broken sentence but fitting since I don't even know my nationality and hopefully in 6th week I will and by some miracle I find my real parents, I'm buying everyone a drink if they visit me I guess. The thing is I'm a tough sob and this thread is the first time I show vulnerability. I hate being lie to. I hate making mistakes and I absolutely hate being unwanted. I am happy you guys don't judge me but if you knew what I suffer through out my life (which is still a secret) you realize how destructive my life has been and how much more I could have been. I could be somebody but no I have a shitty job that pay well but it still a shitty job. I rarely seen the sun since I work night shift and I sleep in the daytime. Hell now that I know who I am not, I think I will change my name to fit my current situation. So without further adoo, I really mean it when you guys care enough to respond to my thread. I mean I been a member here for a very long time and this is the first time I post on a non pc/console sub topic.

I can certainly see how that would be a tremendous shock. That said, Smogzinn has it absolutely right; family is who raises you, not who contributed DNA to you. What's more, now you're an adult, so family is also who you choose to be your family. You're obviously a smart kid, so please don't say "I could have been somebody". You ARE somebody, and what that somebody does is now up to you. Your parents raised you as they felt was best for you. If you didn't agree, well, kids rarely do, but now whatever you become is completely in your hands. What's behind you is history, and you can no more change it than who won World War II. So don't let it bother you, and certainly don't let it control your life going forward..

As for your nationality, America is a nation of mutts and damned proud of it. Very few of us can trace our ancestry more than a handful of generations, very few of us are pure-blooded anything, and we have no great respect for those who are. Being a "white guy" or a full-blooded Vietnamese or Korean is no better than anything else. Hell, that's why we're all so pretty. Just look at Vietnam or Korea - the most beautiful people are hands down those mixed blood kids from white or black fathers. Mixed blood rules!

 

[Sonikku]

I gave away the girl of my dream because i thought she was better off with a "white guy"

This is kinda wrong.

 

[SMOGZINN]

This is kinda wrong.

There is no kinda about it. Nearly every word in that sentence has something wrong with it.
We start with the concept that you can give a person away. Move on to the idea that there is some perfect 'Dream girl' out there. And then preforms the coup d'état by assuming that if there was such a thing as a dream girl that you could give away that she would be better off with someone else. Does not sound much like a dream girl to me.

 

[agent00f]

There is no kinda about it. Nearly every word in that sentence has something wrong with it.
We start with the concept that you can give a person away. Move on to the idea that there is some perfect 'Dream girl' out there. And then preforms the coup d'état by assuming that if there was such a thing as a dream girl that you could give away that she would be better off with someone else. Does not sound much like a dream girl to me.

Frankly from the sound of it the guy does have issues, and contrary to some of the earlier comments it's possible his overly rigid parents had something to do with it. Unfortunately among the first steps to fixing any issue is recognizing/acknowledging it, and his parents at least never taught him these skills either directly or some process to acquire them. A sympathetic shoulder like OP meant this thread to be might alleviate some of the symptoms but doesn't ultimately solve anything.