When someone exits your life

[Neurorelay]

My younger brother (not related, just a term of affection) moved out of the house to be with his family after seven years hanging with me. There is this weird feeling of emptiness now. I am curious about other peope here who could relate their loss of a close person in their life and how they dealt with it.

I am 29 and have been taking care of him since he was 9, he is now 16.

As for me, I found myself cleaning house.

 

[MazerRackham]

Gotta suck it up and move on!

 

[Neurorelay]

Originally posted by: MazerRackham
Gotta suck it up and move on!

True enough, and actually gotta be a total adult now. I got to act like a kid alot when he was around because that is what guys do, we mess around.

 

[Coquito]

If you don't mind answering, what was the situation that had him living with you?

 

[IGBT]

..it's like the old saying, " you don't miss them till their gone"..rings true. especially in death.

 

[Neurorelay]

Originally posted by: Coquito
If you don't mind answering, what was the situation that had him living with you?

I had just graduated college and had still been living at home with an elderly grandparent. Well after my grandparent was no longer available I took over care of my brother, he had already been living with her. Of course, he came to live with her after his real grandmother passed away. Well fast foward seven years later and his sister and father are back in the picture and after a couple visits he decides he would like to live with his family. SInce he is 16 and close to adult hood, I figure it is reasonable to let him have that. But sure is weird only being responsible to myself now.

 

[Coquito]

Originally posted by: Neurorelay
I had just graduated college and had still been living at home with an elderly grandparent. Well after my grandparent was no longer available I took over care of my brother, he had already been living with her. Of course, he came to live with her after his real grandmother passed away. Well fast foward seven years later and his sister and father are back in the picture and after a couple visits he decides he would like to live with his family. SInce he is 16 and close to adult hood, I figure it is reasonable to let him have that. But sure is weird only being responsible to myself now.

Cook up some double cut pork chops just right. You'll feel responsible again in no time.

 

[Neurorelay]

Originally posted by: Coquito

Originally posted by: Neurorelay
I had just graduated college and had still been living at home with an elderly grandparent. Well after my grandparent was no longer available I took over care of my brother, he had already been living with her. Of course, he came to live with her after his real grandmother passed away. Well fast foward seven years later and his sister and father are back in the picture and after a couple visits he decides he would like to live with his family. SInce he is 16 and close to adult hood, I figure it is reasonable to let him have that. But sure is weird only being responsible to myself now.

Cook up some double cut pork chops just right. You'll feel responsible again in no time.

Hehe, only had bologna and wheat bread. Bachelor lifestyle again!

 

[alimoalem]

seeing how you're 29 and you enjoy taking care of people, why not find a wife or something?

 

[Coquito]

Originally posted by: alimoalem
seeing how you're 29 and you enjoy taking care of people, why not find a wife or something?

You forgot the

:lips:

 

[Neurorelay]

Originally posted by: alimoalem
seeing how you're 29 and you enjoy taking care of people, why not find a wife or something?

You are right about that, I have the time to do that dating thing.

 

[DivideBYZero]

Brokeback Apartment.

 

[Yanagi]

I sure hope it doesnt contain any tent scenes :&

 

[Mucho]

Originally posted by: Coquito
If you don't mind answering, what was the situation that had him living with you?

:evil:

 

[Injury]

I've had at least 3 situations in the past couple of months where I thought to myself "This is probably the last time we'll ever see each other." about some friends from college.

Why is it that the people I care about always seem to have crappy communication skills?

That, or they just think of me anytime a project that they need me for comes up and ditch me afterwards. Ouch.

 

[alimoalem]

Originally posted by: Injury
I've had at least 3 situations in the past couple of months where I thought to myself "This is probably the last time we'll ever see each other." about some friends from college.

Why is it that the people I care about always seem to have crappy communication skills?

That, or they just think of me anytime a project that they need me for comes up and ditch me afterwards. Ouch.

pwnage

 

[MisterJackson]

My son was born when I was 21. He's 8 now and we are like best friends. It's just me and him. My life now revolves around his. The only reason I buckled down, gave up the party life, moved into a career path and not just a job is because of him. Everyone I meet, especially people my age, tell me I act too serious, too responsible, but it's all I know now. i love it actually because it gives me a purpose. I felt lost before, like I had no direction. I truly believe without him coming into my life I'd be homeless, strung out, in jail or dead by now.

If I lost him tomorrow, God forbid, I don't know how I'd handle that. I'd probably turn to drugs and alcohol until I drank and drugged myself to death.

 

[alimoalem]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
If I lost him tomorrow, God forbid, I don't know how I'd handle that. I'd probably turn to drugs and alcohol until I drank and drugged myself to death.

then there's only one thing you can do: not lose him. i don't think you should resort to anything because of a loss, though. realize they're somewhere better and you would be doing them a disservice mourning their lives in such a fashion. just because they're body has no life doesn't mean they're spirits are gone as well.

i guess we're kinda stealing your thread OP so sorry for that. hope everything turns out for the better for you

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: Neurorelay

Originally posted by: Coquito
If you don't mind answering, what was the situation that had him living with you?

I had just graduated college and had still been living at home with an elderly grandparent. Well after my grandparent was no longer available I took over care of my brother, he had already been living with her. Of course, he came to live with her after his real grandmother passed away. Well fast foward seven years later and his sister and father are back in the picture and after a couple visits he decides he would like to live with his family. SInce he is 16 and close to adult hood, I figure it is reasonable to let him have that. But sure is weird only being responsible to myself now.

what a nice guy you are. I guess from an emotional perspective he really is your little brother, after 7 years of looking after him.