when people get married, how often do they have sex?

[jlee]

Pre-kids, every five minutes

Post-kids, a couple time a month if you're lucky.

Reason eleventy-billion why I don't want kids.

 

[Fritzo]

You dont get married for sex. You get married to initiate an arduous epic battle of passive aggressive combat over petty things with the opponent of your choice.

Well, the dishes NEED to be stacked a certain way or the dishwasher won't get them clean!

 

[CPA]

You dont get married for sex. You get married to initiate an arduous epic battle of passive aggressive combat over petty things with the opponent of your choice.

lmao, so true, so true

 

[SMOGZINN]

It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with marriage. The longer two people are together, the less urge they have to bang. People in a new relationship will screw constantly, then that will taper off steadily for the rest of the relationship. It's just the way humans work. I get the feeling that the marriages that last do find a manageable level that they stay at for a long time though. I figure once to twice a week is where a lot of healthy marriages end up.

This is a winner right here.

The straight answer to your question is, when they get married they have lots of sex, as much as they can handle. Then like anything it starts to get old and you start to do other stuff, and only each other a few times a week. Then after a few years the Coolidge effect sets in, and a few times a week becomes even less. Eventually, you just settle into a maintenance routine.

There are ways to break this pattern, but it is a lot of work that both you and your partner needs to be on board with.

 

[dougp]

Looks like a lot of relationships in this thread suffer from a lack of communication.

 

[skimple]

I dunno. It seems to rise and fall with how much you can tolerate each other this month. We go through patches where we have more sex then when we were dating. Then there's the other 11 months of the year...

 

[Mai72]

I'm having sex right now.

You are?

I'm telling a mod.

 

[Mai72]

Your hand doesn't count. :whiste:

Also L&R is three boards down.

Why?

 

[DesiPower]

Your hand doesn't count. :whiste:

Also L&R is three boards down.

+1

 

[Malak]

The new movie Sex Tape is as accurate about this topic as any movie ever will be.

Except my wife and I are way better looking.

 

[GasX]

Kids are the best form of birth control going...

 

[alkemyst]

These numbers are all out there and easily found.

As a whole it's about 60 times a year, but that is not age specific.

 

[vi edit]

Kids are the best form of birth control going...

Sure, there's about an 18 month period that extends 3-4 months pre-birth to a year or so post birth where being pregnant is either uncomfortable or undesirable and the task of caring for a newborn is both a physical and mental barrier for intimacy.

But by 1 year they should be sleeping through the night and getting a good 10+ hours of sleep.

Maybe I'm just blessed by good sleepers, or just made a hard line in the sand early on. But my 2 year old and 6 year old are in bed by 8:00 and don't get up after that. They'll sleep until 7:30 or 8:00 the next day if I let them. There's plenty of time for intimacy and kids are not an excuse.

My neighbors on the other hand are the opposite. They've got a 4 year old and a 2 year old. The 2 year old hasn't spent a single night alone. He's been in bed with the mother since he was born. The 4 year old sleeps in a separate bed with the father.

Yeah, that situation is a real blow to the bedroom. But it's all self inflicted.

 

[Engineer]

About 43 times a day is average in ATOT.

FTFY!

 

[alkemyst]

My fiancee is 6 months pregnant and we still have sex at least once a day. We have a 12 and 16 year old down the hallway as well.

 

[Blackjack200]

You include them as well?

 

[Fritzo]

Looks like a lot of relationships in this thread suffer from a lack of communication.

We all communicate with our spouses. Just VERY LOUDLY!!!! ^_^

 

[MongGrel]

Like twice a week?

As often as they want.

 

[MongGrel]

You dont get married for sex. You get married to initiate an arduous epic battle of passive aggressive combat over petty things with the opponent of your choice.

:biggrin:

:whiste:

That's pretty classic right there.

 

[BoomerD]

As often as she wants...or will allow.

 

[avinyc]

In a post-kids marriage, as often as you go out drinking.

 

[The Sauce]

The answer is as often as you want. I'm sure for some that is twice a day, for others never. Seems like there's a happy medium. Most couples I know that have torrid sexual relationships are too volatile and don't last too long.

 

[MongGrel]

As often as she wants...or will allow.

Mines usually pretty willing :biggrin:

but about 4 or 5 times a week maybe here.

YMMV.

And that's after 20 years

 

[SolMiester]

Is this a muslim or christian married couple we are talking about?

 

[SKORPI0]

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