When are we going to learn that we CANNOT control how other people FEEL.

[iwearnosox]

I'm so apithetic I rely on others to figure out how I'm feeling. Then I saw that bunny with the pancake on it's head, and I've been stuck in limbo ever since.

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: LeeTJ

Originally posted by: gopunk
i think they are just trying to say that they think her feelings are dumb

that's kind of dumb isn't it?

i don't feel so... frankly, some people do have dumb feelings. hell, everyone does, it's just a matter of timing.

 

[GroundZero]

Originally posted by: Marshallj

Originally posted by: LeeTJ
This thread has really pissed me off.

What is with all these morons that think they have the right to control how others feel?? Most of us cannot control how we feel, it could be argued that NONE of us controls these impulses called feelings. what we DO control is how we choose to respond to that stimuli.

our impulses or feelings are the result of a lifetime of learned responses. learned consciously or subconsciously. we are not responsible for these impulses or feelings. feeling of murderous rage, feeling of impotence, feeling of grandeur.

these aren't what defines people's characters, what defines peoples characters is HOW THEY RESPOND.

in the thread linked people keep not because of HOW she responded but HOW SHE FELT.

anyway, it's really pissing me off that people can't seem to see the difference.

Yes, I agree in a way, but if one person feels one way and that conflicts with the way that the majority around them feels, then they are outnumbered, in the minority.

I can't expect her to feel good about it if she didn't, but you also can't expect her feelings to limit the way other people act. Sometimes people should keep their feelings to themselves.

Now out of respect for her I probably would stop joking around like that, but that would be my personal choice and not something that I feel that I'm required to do.

but you would be REQUIRED to do it.
as you would be creating an "offensive or hostile work environment" for the other employee and would there fore be subject to the workplace harrasment laws.

 

[Anubis]

Originally posted by: LeeTJ

Originally posted by: TheEvil1
or she could have done absoutly nothing., used her brian and figured out it was a joke/sarcasm and there wouldent even be an issue
you realize the whole situation would be moot if he said that to another guy dont you.
fuk people that blow things out of proportion. unless he was directly being degradeing thes no reason to ge upset.
fuking PC assholes. the world shold be clensed of these people

i have to stop. morons like you are really driving me crazy.
why is WORKPLACE different from me and my buddies??
well, if i piss off a buddy or a buddy pisses me off, we can walk away.
In a WORKPLACE many of us cannot simply walk away without serious financial repercussions, hence you should take a LOT more care what you say to people you work with than what you say to a buddy.
It's not BLOWING things out of proportion when someone wants a work enviroment where they are comfortable.
it's MORONS like you that make work more difficult than it needs to be. Why should someone be forced to listen to your STALE sense of humor day in and day out just because you have no self control and have no idea how offensive you are?

which is why i never have and never will work someplace where i have to act like I have something shoved up mu ass.

I dont dissagree with you and I compleatly understadn it. BUT there is absoutly no reason that you should have to act 1 for a certian group of people and a 2nd was for a different one. be yourself most peopel I know includeing myself woudl be more unconfortable haveint to ACT (basically LIE) a certain way at work. its actually stupid to think that you should. you have to realize how backwards this is.

peopel are people that are not perfect noone is. someone will say something you dont liek or that you take offence to theres nothing you can do about. but rather then doing something rash like getting someone fired or sueing someone. just let it go. realize that this is the way it is. move on with you live and stop being so insecure about things