when a couple gets divorced

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you always hear about the woman getting half of everything...in the same vein, can the man ask for half of the womans worth?

I mean can the wife get half of husbands worth and the husband get half of the wifes worth? It would seem pointless but its just a technicality I was wondering about.
 

dullard

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Laws vary by state. So we can't give you just one answer. Here are the laws in Nebraska:

You each take what you had before the marriage. Then you each take anything you specifically inherited (ie anything that said came to you in a written will - if you just inherited something without it in a will you don't 100% of it). Then everything else is split 50/50 to the penny.

So, if during the marriage, the woman earned the money, then yes the man will take half of the woman's remaining past earnings and items purchased with those earnings. There is no "asking" for it, the court gives it to you whether you want it or not.
 

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I had a thought the other day whilst cutting the grass. Women want a part of your future earnings because they have become "accustomed to a certain lifestyle." Aren't men also accustomed to a certain lifestyle? How much would it cost to have your laundry done, meals cooked, and house cleaned for the rest of your life? Seems like the women get the cash, we just have to pay up. The pendulum is certainly moving in the direction of the feminists....don't see a change in the near future.
 

Armitage

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Originally posted by: dullard
Laws vary by state. So we can't give you just one answer. Here are the laws in Nebraska:

You each take what you had before the marriage. Then you each take anything you specifically inherited (ie anything that said came to you in a written will - if you just inherited something without it in a will you don't 100% of it). Then everything else is split 50/50 to the penny.

So, if during the marriage, the woman earned the money, then yes the man will take half of the woman's remaining past earnings and items purchased with those earnings. There is no "asking" for it, the court gives it to you whether you want it or not.

It gets very messy if premarital assets and inhertances are intermingled with marital assets though. Unless you had very significant premarital assets and a prenup, it will likely cost more to figure it out then just split everything. That's what my lawyer told me at least. And premarital debt doesn't get factored in either.
 

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When you get married, and you don't have a prenuptual agreement, all of your posessions are then co-owned by the both of you. So when you get divorced, you split them 50/50. In most cases, the guy was worth more financialy than the woman before they got married. therfore she gets half of what is technically his sh!t. So, if the woman was worth more financialy before they got married, then the guy would get half of was was technically her sh!t.

 

dullard

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Originally posted by: Armitage
It gets very messy if premarital assets and inhertances are intermingled with marital assets though. Unless you had very significant premarital assets and a prenup, it will likely cost more to figure it out then just split everything. That's what my lawyer told me at least. And premarital debt doesn't get factored in either.
When I got divorced, it took maybe 30 seconds for the ex and I to agree on who had what before marriage. Sure there was a lot of anger and some yelling in that 30 seconds, but that is about all it took. It doesn't have to be messy if the two people can just agree to keep lawyer fees to a minimum. And doing that helps both parties come out better.
 

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You know what I'm thinking. It's really sad that it always turns out that every woman makes less than the man in about every marriage. Something is not right here. Really shows the greed of women? I dont know. But how come these women aren't hooking up with men that make less than them? Maybe men need to be more selective too then.

I think men maybe dont mind sharing so much. If a women makes more and pays for anything of his share though then they flip out and cant handle it and the relationship never reaches marriage. I can totally see it urking the crap out of a woman for using more of her money in a relationship. Thats just not right.
 

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Originally posted by: dullard
Originally posted by: Armitage
It gets very messy if premarital assets and inhertances are intermingled with marital assets though. Unless you had very significant premarital assets and a prenup, it will likely cost more to figure it out then just split everything. That's what my lawyer told me at least. And premarital debt doesn't get factored in either.
When I got divorced, it took maybe 30 seconds for the ex and I to agree on who had what before marriage. Sure there was a lot of anger and some yelling in that 30 seconds, but that is about all it took. It doesn't have to be messy if the two people can just agree to keep lawyer fees to a minimum. And doing that helps both parties come out better.

My ex was like that to some degree in person - but then she'd talk to her lawyer and the tune would change. I didn't get screwed nearly as bad as I could have - but it was far from fair in my opinion.
 

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Originally posted by: Armitage
Originally posted by: dullard
Originally posted by: Armitage
It gets very messy if premarital assets and inhertances are intermingled with marital assets though. Unless you had very significant premarital assets and a prenup, it will likely cost more to figure it out then just split everything. That's what my lawyer told me at least. And premarital debt doesn't get factored in either.
When I got divorced, it took maybe 30 seconds for the ex and I to agree on who had what before marriage. Sure there was a lot of anger and some yelling in that 30 seconds, but that is about all it took. It doesn't have to be messy if the two people can just agree to keep lawyer fees to a minimum. And doing that helps both parties come out better.

My ex was like that to some degree in person - but then she'd talk to her lawyer and the tune would change. I didn't get screwed nearly as bad as I could have - but it was far from fair in my opinion.
My wife and I were very careful to seperate mine, hers and ours - at least with the financial stuff. The possesions, of course, are all over the house, but I doubt we'd argue over that. If it came to it, I'd walk away satisfied if I got my share of the "our" money, a lump sum for the home equity and possesions (I'd leave it all except for the electronics, clothes and "toys"), the dogs and shared custody.

Knock on wood, we are happy together... :)
 

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Originally posted by: tk109
You know what I'm thinking. It's really sad that it always turns out that every woman makes less than the man in about every marriage. Something is not right here. Really shows the greed of women? I dont know. But how come these women aren't hooking up with men that make less than them? Maybe men need to be more selective too then.

I think men maybe dont mind sharing so much. If a women makes more and pays for anything of his share though then they flip out and cant handle it and the relationship never reaches marriage. I can totally see it urking the crap out of a woman for using more of her money in a relationship. Thats just not right.


I think there are a couple of factors here. First, men do generally make more than women (and there are various legitamate reasons for this). Second, to stereotype, women who make less will have a higher likelyhood of being golddiggers/total psychos/etc, and therefore more likely to divorce.