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whats worse? a cocky girl? or one with low self esteem

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Like vi_edit said, you can't fix cocky people, while someone with low self-esteem can grow out of it.

That said, I wouldn't like a big wimp with no self-esteem who always second guesses themselves and that kinda crap. That gets annoying. Fast.

I guess it depends on other things too-- does the cocky girl have anything to back it up with? If she is smart, rich, hot and successful relative to her peers, then I'd say there is nothing wrong with that kind of behaviour.
 
Originally posted by: DarkManX
This one girl who ive meet recently constantly says "I look so cute" "I look hot today" when in fact she really is very average looking and i wouldn?t say she?s cute.

Another girl I know and am kind of involved with on the other hand, When I tell her shes cute she says ?no im not...?

I always thought that confidence was more attractive but in case of the first girl it gets annoying! How do I politely tell her that I don?t think she?s cute?
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Low self-esteem can get better with time. Once they are more comfortable with you, they'll start believing all the nice things you tell them. Perhaps they grew up with a tough time in school as an ugly duckling.
 
Originally posted by: DougK62
Often the cockiness is just a facade for low self esteem.
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So true... A previous relationship I was in pretty much came down to that. She was very cocky, and she used it to mask her low self esteem. She finally came out and admitted it 2 months after we broke up when she called to make amends and try to regain my friendship. It was hard for her to do that, but she did. Unfortunately the fact that she was "pretending" her way through life made her very unattractive to me, and I'd rather have someone with low self esteem who can atleast acknowledge it.
 
Theyre both bad.

Low self esteem -> bad in bed, but generally good to be around otherwise.

Cocky -> great in bed, but annoying as hell to spend time with otherwise.
 
Low self esteem is like cancer to a serious relationship, especially when it gets worse over time. If she's not happy with herself how can she possibly be happy with someone else?
 
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
say no to low self esteem
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Given your employer, wouldn't that be a conflict of interest? 😉

- M4H
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I don't date those girls. The only real problem with low self esteem chicks is that you have to treat them like ****** for them to stick with you. Thats just not in my nature so they don't work for me for longer than a quick fling.
 
I would say the cocky girl... low self esteem can be built up where i feel it is much harder to bring someone down from their "high horse" if they think they are too great for anyone.
JMO.
 
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Having dated both, cocky girls are much better in both day-to-day and *ahem* night-to-night activities.

- M4H
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Totally agree. Having dated both also, the low self esteem girl was very frustrating to handle. It became a chore when I had to constantly remind her that she was beautiful and pretty (which indeed she was!). I ended up breaking up with her just after 6 months. My current gf now was rather cocky the first time i met her. Not surprisingly, I put her in place after a few months of dating by being 'cockier' than her and I'm usually not the cocky guy. From my experience, low self esteem tend to tie in with other mental issues and psychiatric problems, where as cockiness is a just a personality problem/test. I'd say if you have to choose, go with the cocky (but cock-less) girl. If in time she loves you, she'll tone herself below you.
 
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I would say the cocky girl... low self esteem can be built up where i feel it is much harder to bring someone down from their "high horse" if they think they are too great for anyone.
JMO.
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thats the problem you can't bring low self esteem chicks up.....they won't stick around if you aren't treating them like ******. The need that emotional pain in the relationship.
 
Actually, the fact that she goes around saying "I look hot" indicates that she has low self esteem. Anyone who hot and knows it doesn't need to say it.
 
Originally posted by: irishScott
Actually, the fact that she goes around saying "I look hot" indicates that she has low self esteem. Anyone who hot and knows it doesn't need to say it.
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you are confusing self esteem vs. shallow vs. classy you are comparing apples and oranges here. someone who goes around saying I look hot is narcissistic and shallow. Nothing to do with self esteem.
 
Originally posted by: irishScott
Actually, the fact that she goes around saying "I look hot" indicates that she has low self esteem. Anyone who hot and knows it doesn't need to say it.
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True. I love hot girls who are so confident in their bodies that they wear baggy sweatpants and dont try to show off. Hotness ++
 
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
Originally posted by: irishScott
Actually, the fact that she goes around saying "I look hot" indicates that she has low self esteem. Anyone who hot and knows it doesn't need to say it.
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you are confusing self esteem vs. shallow vs. classy you are comparing apples and oranges here. someone who goes around saying I look hot is narcissistic and shallow. Nothing to do with self esteem.
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actually you are wrong... a lot of times girls will say that in hopes that someone else will agree and say the same thing... thus, needing constant building up of self esteem. It is a defense mechanism. Just like the girl who puts everyone down to make herself feel better.
 
Over the 2 I'd probably choose the girl with low self esteem.

Now does the girl really have low self esteem or is she just fishing for compliments?
 
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
Originally posted by: irishScott
Actually, the fact that she goes around saying "I look hot" indicates that she has low self esteem. Anyone who hot and knows it doesn't need to say it.
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you are confusing self esteem vs. shallow vs. classy you are comparing apples and oranges here. someone who goes around saying I look hot is narcissistic and shallow. Nothing to do with self esteem.
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actually you are wrong... a lot of times girls will say that in hopes that someone else will agree and say the same thing... thus, needing constant building up of self esteem. It is a defense mechanism. Just like the girl who puts everyone down to make herself feel better.
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trust me I work with low self esteem girls. They are always seeking approval "do I liook ok? How do I look? Do you like this on me" or the "I look like ******" to fish for a compliment. I agree putting people down is another indication of low self esteem.
 
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