Growin up in hawaii theres little racist compared to the mainland, an not being white cuz I'm browner then a full blooded indian lol, it wasent really offensive when blacks herd me calling them the N word. I do know theres alot of hate in that word, but I got alot of papolo friends so they call me a N- ger too...but in the end it just matters whats the occaision I ultimately respect not calling them N for when I asked a good friend of mine why is it so offensive, he said I dont know but my mom told me never to let anyone call me that...so thats good enough for me.
My boss who's black, would always scold his nephew not to say it, but I heard him sqeeze the oh fashion awesome dude please once an a while lol.
But again it depends on the occaision, for its just like another swear word. it will fly out if I'm mad enough, just like waikiki, there was this idiot all drunk an calling out everybody down near the lobby, we were up in the hotel...he was pointing at us saying what the F you looking at, I looked at my bro then looked back an said F. U. N-ger... he said come down, so me an my bro went down, by the time we got out the elevator he was gone. lol