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What's the longest relationship you've been in?

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Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Please post your age and what you answered in the poll.

I'm 24, and my longest relationship has been about 9 weeks.
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That's it 😕

22 and near 4.5 years. I know I'm above average here for length, but 6 months.......😕

😉
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9 weeks is 2 and a half months...UGH. People hate me. IT's funny because growin up I always recognized that personal relationships and happiness with your friends/girlfriend/wife are more important than money. Yet I have none of those things. It's probably why at one point or another during any given week I wonder why I didn't die when I was 16 and was fairly happy still. I wonder what God has in store for me.

Originally posted by: Schwan
I'm 26 - less than 3 months....
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At least I'm not alone in that.

Originally posted by: shamrock1313
I haven't had a girlfriend in around 4 years. Longest relationship 2 weeks.

I fvcking blow.
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NO NO! Join our crew of the Damned!!
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Please post your age and what you answered in the poll.

I'm 24, and my longest relationship has been about 9 weeks.
Click to expand...
That's it 😕

22 and near 4.5 years. I know I'm above average here for length, but 6 months.......😕

😉
Click to expand...

9 weeks is 2 and a half months...UGH. People hate me. IT's funny because growin up I always recognized that personal relationships and happiness with your friends/girlfriend/wife are more important than money. Yet I have none of those things. It's probably why at one point or another during any given week I wonder why I didn't die when I was 16 and was fairly happy still. I wonder what God has in store for me.

Originally posted by: Schwan
I'm 26 - less than 3 months....
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At least I'm not alone in that.

Originally posted by: shamrock1313
I haven't had a girlfriend in around 4 years. Longest relationship 2 weeks.

I fvcking blow.
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NO NO! Join our crew of the Damned!!
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eh Im not much better, 24 and 1.5 years.
 
Originally posted by: Eghck
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Please post your age and what you answered in the poll.

I'm 24, and my longest relationship has been about 9 weeks.
Click to expand...
That's it 😕

22 and near 4.5 years. I know I'm above average here for length, but 6 months.......😕

😉
Click to expand...

9 weeks is 2 and a half months...UGH. People hate me. IT's funny because growin up I always recognized that personal relationships and happiness with your friends/girlfriend/wife are more important than money. Yet I have none of those things. It's probably why at one point or another during any given week I wonder why I didn't die when I was 16 and was fairly happy still. I wonder what God has in store for me.

Originally posted by: Schwan
I'm 26 - less than 3 months....
Click to expand...

At least I'm not alone in that.

Originally posted by: shamrock1313
I haven't had a girlfriend in around 4 years. Longest relationship 2 weeks.

I fvcking blow.
Click to expand...


NO NO! Join our crew of the Damned!!
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eh Im not much better, 24 and 1.5 years.
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I knew there was a lot of older people in here who'd have a lot more than 3 years...but for ppl my age or within a couple years in either direction I REALLY hoped there'd be a lot of ppl like me...but look at the poll...geeze. Now I just feel worse.
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Originally posted by: Eghck

eh Im not much better, 24 and 1.5 years.
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I knew there was a lot of older people in here who'd have a lot more than 3 years...but for ppl my age or within a couple years in either direction I REALLY hoped there'd be a lot of ppl like me...but look at the poll...geeze. Now I just feel worse.
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well in terms of relationships, this isn't an ideal time for me cause you're supposed to be "establishing" yourself. So far all the girls I've dated want it all right now and dont think in the long term. Im busy saving up for a house, and they're wondering what the next thing they want to buy is. There are exceptions, but at least on the plus side, casual relationships (and casual sex) are a lot more common now. Either way, in the end all you need is one good one...
 
Originally posted by: shortylickens
Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
Married 19yrs + lived together for 6yrs = 25yrs, I'm 48
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Since you're sharing, how about sharing a little more.
I have noticed a genuine trend in unhappy marriages that includes the trait of not living with each other for a while before the marriage.

I asked a guy (who talking mad smack about his wife) how well he knew her before hand.
He said "Oh I was with her for a long time. We dated for a whole year and lived together for like, 3 months".

This seemed like an incredibly short time to me but he was convinced he knew what he was doing. 1.5 months after the wedding day he was calling her a fvcking byatch. Not a byatch, a fvcking byatch.

If you had a young male friend who was considering matrimony, how long would you recommend he know her and live with her before proposing?
I was thinking date her for several years and live together at least one year.
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I don't think there is any secret formula, I've known couples who lived together for 10yrs before marriage then get divorced within a couple of years, and I've seen kids marry right out of highschool never having lived together and still married after 25yrs.

I think the most important part is working hard to make the relationship work. Any marriage like a business partnership is a constant struggle to maintain balance, equity, and positive momentum. Like most things in life you get out of marriage exactly what you put into it.

If one partner losses interest and stops putting into the marriage things get out of balance and it will end badly, if both partners lose interest it just gradually dies and before you know it your two seperate people sharing a house. It takes both partners putting their family union ahead of their personal goals all the time, and working to make the union stronger and better.

I do think one of the biggest mistakes a young couple can make when moving in together is to continue to live seperate lives like college roomates. Keeping their finances seperate, having seperate friends, commitments ect..... The sooner they accept the one for all and all for one credo the better off they will be. It's not your income and my income, its our income and our bills, our responsibility. That simple concept of marriage seems to escape alot of people
 
Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
The sooner they accept the one for all and all for one credo the better off they will be.
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Thats good advice. Thank you.

My issue is with other folks like my uncle Chuck. He's been married five times. In every single relationship he lived with the girl for a while. The last one was five years. One month after the wedding they were having problems. A month after that they were divorced. And its a similar story with the other marriages.
I really dont know what he's doing wrong, but I do know I cant live like that. I want one good, solid lifetime partner or nothing.
And if she doesnt pressure me to get married, I think I can be happy with a girlfriend for the rest of my life.

 
Originally posted by: shortylickens
Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
The sooner they accept the one for all and all for one credo the better off they will be.
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Thats good advice. Thank you.

My issue is with other folks like my uncle Chuck. He's been married five times. In every single relationship he lived with the girl for a while. The last one was five years. One month after the wedding they were having problems. A month after that they were divorced. And its a similar story with the other marriages.
I really dont know what he's doing wrong, but I do know I cant live like that. I want one good, solid lifetime partner or nothing.
And if she doesnt pressure me to get married, I think I can be happy with a girlfriend for the rest of my life.
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Have you considered not living together at all until after getting married?

Most people would probably consider that old fashioned, but this is what my wife and I did and we've been married happily for almost a year. I completely agree with guitardaddy on that marriage takes serious commitment by both partners to successfully work.
 
i have known her for more than 6.5 years however we only dated for 1.5 years straight within that time, and hooked up again later for another 2 or so months but i am not counting that
 
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