What's the best thing to leave behind for your children?
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GagHalfrunt
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Drako
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Tangibles and fungibles or you're a terrible parent.
Drako, some accents of English have a very light h in words like historical and habitable. Perhaps in sandorski's accent is that way. In those accents it's occasionally written with a preceding an rather than a.
Drako, some accents of English have a very light h in words like historical and habitable. Perhaps in sandorski's accent is that way. In those accents it's occasionally written with a preceding an rather than a.
DainBramaged
Lifer
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I'm close with my parents and would most value things that remind me of them. A memorable watch, dad's tools, mom's silverware. That sorta stuff.
DainBramaged
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RossMAN
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We don't have any heirlooms (that I'm aware of), so I prefer good 'ole $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$.
Hahaha What kind of security? Hire a bodyguard for my children when I am gone? :awe:
sandorski
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Captante
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Exactly what I will be getting, nothing. If you cant make it on your own, you dont deserve to make it.
highland145
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Kaido
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I would say, generically:
1. A work ethic
2. A decent set of morals
3. Quality time spent
If you don't have a work ethic, you're going to have a hard time in life, and that includes if you're rich. I have some friends who are the sons of rich guys, grew up fairly spoiled, and are unhappy because they don't have to work & never get that good feeling from contributing to society & helping other people. So teaching a work ethic isn't just about being able to provide well for yourself, but also to feel good about yourself. It's just wired into us as human beings - using your talents to help others makes you feel good.
Society is a mixed bag of morals, so everyone will have different views on what is a good baseline here. There's some saying about having both integrity (trustworthiness) & morals (i.e. being a good guy instead of a bad guy), because without morals, you can be an honest hitman (integrity), but that doesn't make you a good human being :awe: You have to be able to live with yourself too, and if you do bad things, you're obviously not going to feel good about yourself. Of course, you could always lower your standards, or if you've got some mental & emotional issues (re: Dexter), that certainly makes it harder, but in order for society to work, you pretty much need a basic set of decent morals.
And yeah, like others have said, memories. It's not just about spending time, it's about spending quality time, even if it's just playing video games together or chilling & watching a movie. I have a buddy who travels 20 days out of the month, but he still calls & Facetimes his kids & has a great relationship with them, despite not always physically being there. One of the most emotionally scarring things for kids is having a difficult family life growing up - parents who were never there, divorced parents, parents who didn't care, parents who fought all the time. It's not hard to step up your game to act like a good parent, you just have to choose to do it, so while we can't change our past, you can still make the decision to be a good parent to your kids, if you have them.
I don't think material things like money or possessions are all that important to leave behind. While I do think there are areas where it helps - helping pay for college, co-signing for their first car loan, that sort of thing - kids are better served getting the habits baked into them growing up so that they can be self-sufficient, the whole "give a man a fish, feed him for a day, but teach a man to fish, you feed him forever" deal. It's the old story of people winning the lottery & going broke within a year - people operate off habits, so if you don't raise your kids with stuff like a work ethic, some morals, and a solid emotional foundation, they're going to have a harder time in life because they're going to have to overcome those habits by themselves if they want to lead a more fulfilling life; that is, if they ever decide to do so.
1. A work ethic
2. A decent set of morals
3. Quality time spent
If you don't have a work ethic, you're going to have a hard time in life, and that includes if you're rich. I have some friends who are the sons of rich guys, grew up fairly spoiled, and are unhappy because they don't have to work & never get that good feeling from contributing to society & helping other people. So teaching a work ethic isn't just about being able to provide well for yourself, but also to feel good about yourself. It's just wired into us as human beings - using your talents to help others makes you feel good.
Society is a mixed bag of morals, so everyone will have different views on what is a good baseline here. There's some saying about having both integrity (trustworthiness) & morals (i.e. being a good guy instead of a bad guy), because without morals, you can be an honest hitman (integrity), but that doesn't make you a good human being :awe: You have to be able to live with yourself too, and if you do bad things, you're obviously not going to feel good about yourself. Of course, you could always lower your standards, or if you've got some mental & emotional issues (re: Dexter), that certainly makes it harder, but in order for society to work, you pretty much need a basic set of decent morals.
And yeah, like others have said, memories. It's not just about spending time, it's about spending quality time, even if it's just playing video games together or chilling & watching a movie. I have a buddy who travels 20 days out of the month, but he still calls & Facetimes his kids & has a great relationship with them, despite not always physically being there. One of the most emotionally scarring things for kids is having a difficult family life growing up - parents who were never there, divorced parents, parents who didn't care, parents who fought all the time. It's not hard to step up your game to act like a good parent, you just have to choose to do it, so while we can't change our past, you can still make the decision to be a good parent to your kids, if you have them.
I don't think material things like money or possessions are all that important to leave behind. While I do think there are areas where it helps - helping pay for college, co-signing for their first car loan, that sort of thing - kids are better served getting the habits baked into them growing up so that they can be self-sufficient, the whole "give a man a fish, feed him for a day, but teach a man to fish, you feed him forever" deal. It's the old story of people winning the lottery & going broke within a year - people operate off habits, so if you don't raise your kids with stuff like a work ethic, some morals, and a solid emotional foundation, they're going to have a harder time in life because they're going to have to overcome those habits by themselves if they want to lead a more fulfilling life; that is, if they ever decide to do so.
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