That lady is full of it, somehow makes a lot of money, or bought a really crappy house. Or worse, mommy and daddy bought it for her and she has an entitlement issue.
But it is possible to live a simplified life with manageable debt. I have been only dealing with a mortgage and more recently a car payment(after owning my car for 12 years and it finally kicked the bucket). Also manage to sock away a healthy portion of my income into retirement.
What I dont have is 2 kids, 2 car payments, daycare expenses, and a house that is too big and expensive for my income, and spending more than I can afford and holding onto CC debt.
I am not going after you on this. So please dont take offense. But what your situation described is like everybody I know who complains about money. They are all running the rat race trying to one up each other, live the american dream, live a champagne lifestyle on a beer budget. These people are all up to debt to their eyes and living paycheck to paycheck. And it doesn't matter the income. I have friends with household incomes of 50K up to 300K and they all live on the edge. The people with more money just buy more house, more cars, more daycare, and stupid stuff they dont need.