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shilala

Lifer
Oct 5, 2004
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"No, but you will be applying copious amounts of friction to the weenie when we hit the parking lot."
 

Looney

Lifer
Jun 13, 2000
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Originally posted by: jtusa
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
your with the wrong girl, sorry dude. you fscked up early on by buying her everything. i've always done the 50/50 (well it's more like 70/30), but if you set that precedent early on it's hard to change things.

That's what I'm afraid of. I was expecting her to say, "Sure, I can treat you," and then I could reply, "Nah, I'm just messing, I got it."

The "Do I have to?" makes it sound like she's expecting me to pay, like I owe her or something. Am I wrong to be irritated by that?

I would definitely be as well.
 

hypn0tik

Diamond Member
Jul 5, 2005
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I split 70/30 with my gf. She'd buy me lunch or dinner in a heartbeat if I asked her. I'd do the same for her.

Edit: You on the other hand, OP, are in a pile of sh!t. I don't know why you paid for everything since day one, but that was a mistake. Get her to start paying for her own stuff. On the next date, 'accidentally' not have enough to cover the two of you.
 

FeuerFrei

Diamond Member
Mar 30, 2005
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I'd either say, "It'd be nice."

Or if I wasn't feeling pushy: "It's an idea. Nevermind, I got it."
 

0roo0roo

No Lifer
Sep 21, 2002
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depends on income gap
depends if u expect her to be a stay at home mom and she would go for that;)
 

Kadarin

Lifer
Nov 23, 2001
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Originally posted by: Alienwho
Here is a personal story that happened to me last night:

A girl i've been going out with calls ME up. She says she wants to hang out. I say okay, come over to my place. She basically says okay, but I am poor and don't want to pay for the gas (keep in mind it's probably 6 miles from her house to mine). I am then put in an awkward position so I say, "Well I don't want to pay for the gas either, so I guess I could pick you up on my motorcycle to save on gas (also keep in mind it's about 28 degrees outside). She then takes the hint that I am not going to bend over backwards for her and volunteers to drive herself over saying it's no problem.

WTF? Is that? She calls me up and then wants me to make two round trips for her when she only has to make one round trip? I mean she called me up, I didn't even want her to come over in the first place but said she could if she wanted. I didn't want to pick her up and no way I wanted to drive her home at 3 in the morning. I already knew things were going downhill with this chick but last night was a great confirmation.

But let me guess.. You did it, right?
 

Blieb

Diamond Member
Apr 17, 2000
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The answer is simple. Invite her over and start cooking meals. Make it clear that you're not gonna go out and blow all your $$ on this DFC
 

jtusa

Diamond Member
Aug 28, 2004
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I understand what everyone is getting at when you say I've spoiled her from the start. However, past g/fs, which I've treated the same way as this one, have gladly offered to pay without me even asking, sometimes I'd let them, sometimes I wouldn't. Or they'd offer to take me out every once in awhile as opposed to me taking them out, and that's great. They didn't act like me paying was owed to them or something. Maybe I've been different with spoiling this one and just didn't realize it.

To answer the one question, I make a decent amount more than her, but she still has plenty of money to where she could afford to pay. So it's not that she's unable to.