What would you do?

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
She is seeing someone else.

That should be all there is to say.

🙂

True...but she's not going to break it off with him to come to me when she has no idea how commited i am from a relationship point.

my issue is do i steal her away from him...if we are better for each other (assumption)
if yes
-test drive
-tell her to do the deed then continue

if no
-should i still tell her how i feel, or assume she knows.

Nice to have the female perspective btw...thanks 🙂

Look at what you are saying....

I like a girl who is seeing someone else and I am not sure if I should steal her away from him.

From an honor point of view, what does that say about you? I am not trying to be mean to you, or anything... but there are soooooo many girls on the planet... find one who doesnt belong to someone else. I tend to subscribe to the theory that if someome is taken, they are off limits. That may not be the fashionable thing or the fun thing, but it is the right thing.

Again, I am not trying to be mean to you.. that is just my opinion.

🙂

edit: Also she'll make comments like, me:"hey, are you interested in doing a pubcrawl tomorrow night" her:"work...something something" (she's in a rigorous program) me:*looks at her for like 2secs* her:*caves so fast as she's a party girl* but says "only if you fvck me" slick me:"don't tempt me like that...cuz i will."

Sorry, I just re-read that... are you telling me that you really want to get serious about a girl who would behave like that with a guy when she already has another boyfriend?

I thought he said he was seeing her (the other guy is), not exclusive b/f-g/f. I intrepreted it as fck buddies on and off for 2 years.

I would vote for the test-drive. But... what if she sucks at stick shifting (if ya know what I mean)? Would that be a deal breaker for ya? I've had women who'll give horrible tonsil and it's a pretty big turnoff.

she's started with the guy just this semester. Soooooo...known him 2years...together 3 to 4months.
i dont know the relationship status fully.

i think she is pretty skilled...decent anyways. If she sucks, the personality and looks counter...making the effort training worthwhile.

Most women are trainable...usually...this is my experience and friends...
MUCH harder to train a guy...so i'm told. Either you've got it or you don't.

so ya...heh

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: Mo0o

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: Mo0o
For a senior in college your spelling is atrocious

a) im not proofreading.
b) it's a fvcking forum
c) it's not that bad...(lol)
d) im still hung over
e) i'm not trying
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f) im an engineering student and have every right to have poor spelling 😉

The words weren't even typos, they're just... bad spelling.

Good thing all my writing is done in word and spellchecker is my friend.

Thanks for the useless advice though. 🙂

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: Stunt

she's started with the guy just this semester. Soooooo...known him 2years...together 3 to 4months.
i dont know the relationship status fully.

i think she is pretty skilled...decent anyways. If she sucks, the personality and looks counter...making the effort training worthwhile.

Most women are trainable...usually...this is my experience and friends...
MUCH harder to train a guy...so i'm told. Either you've got it or you don't.

so ya...heh

Well as long as that won't compromise the operation. Looks like all you have to do is get her up early for some rigorous PT. I'd personally recommend that she strap on her weapon roughly around 1 o'clock while completing the exercise. Carry on, soldier, your objectives are now clear!

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: Stunt

she's started with the guy just this semester. Soooooo...known him 2years...together 3 to 4months.
i dont know the relationship status fully.

i think she is pretty skilled...decent anyways. If she sucks, the personality and looks counter...making the effort training worthwhile.

Most women are trainable...usually...this is my experience and friends...
MUCH harder to train a guy...so i'm told. Either you've got it or you don't.

so ya...heh

Well as long as that won't compromise the operation. Looks like all you have to do is get her up early for some rigorous PT. I'd personally recommend that she strap on her weapon roughly around 1 o'clock while completing the exercise. Carry on, soldier, your objectives are now clear!

lol...that's the nerdiness i have come to expect from ATOT 😀

 

[KarenMarie]

I've always thought that it is wrong...and that is why i have the moral dilemma :S

There is your answer!

🙂 🙂 🙂

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

I've always thought that it is wrong...and that is why i have the moral dilemma :S

There is your answer!

🙂 🙂 🙂

Technically the guy isn't this chick's b/f though, so there should be no moral dilemma. She's playing the field, looking for the strongest/best mate possible, so why not buy a ticket to get into her lottery? You never know, you could strike it rich 😉

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

I've always thought that it is wrong...and that is why i have the moral dilemma :S

There is your answer!

🙂 🙂 🙂

your sex has a lot of weight on this issue...

argh...this isn't helping me at all...😛

all this solved was that there are people who have the same opinion as my conflicting ideas.

 

[KarenMarie]

The majorty of responses you are gonna get from this forum is:

Hit it!

You obviously know right from wrong or you would not have a moral dilemma to begin with. Think:

How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and she was telling some other guy to fvck her?
How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and some other guy was trying to get together with her?
What would your mom tell you to do? It is obvious that she raised a kid with high morals, or you would have just done it already.

Don't beat yourself up over the girl. Something tells me that she is a big tease and cannot be trusted for anything more than a decent lay. Certainly not worth compromising your principles, especially since there is so much out there for you to go for!

🙂

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
The majorty of responses you are gonna get from this forum is:

Hit it!

You obviously know right from wrong or you would not have a moral dilemma to begin with. Think:

How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and she was telling some other guy to fvck her?
How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and some other guy was trying to get together with her?
What would your mom tell you to do? It is obvious that she raised a kid with high morals, or you would have just done it already.

Don't beat yourself up over the girl. Something tells me that she is a big tease and cannot be trusted for anything more than a decent lay. Certainly not worth compromising your principles, especially since there is so much out there for you to go for!

🙂

and if she isnt a big tease?

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
The majorty of responses you are gonna get from this forum is:

Hit it!

You obviously know right from wrong or you would not have a moral dilemma to begin with. Think:

How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and she was telling some other guy to fvck her?
How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and some other guy was trying to get together with her?
What would your mom tell you to do? It is obvious that she raised a kid with high morals, or you would have just done it already.

Don't beat yourself up over the girl. Something tells me that she is a big tease and cannot be trusted for anything more than a decent lay. Certainly not worth compromising your principles, especially since there is so much out there for you to go for!

🙂

First off, he just explained that she isn't anyone's girlfriend, so I think she's entitled to "tease". Second, if my g/f wanted to get with the guy (which would never happen), then more power to her, she's out the door and obviously something was wrong with our relationship. Last, my mom would have told me to follow my heart, and not use women. Which isn't what the OP is trying to do, he's following his heart!

 

[alkemyst]

so many YAGT's

if she is 'seeing' someone that means whatever happens happens.

You are not the new B/F just because you get a shot at her though. Don't try to do that. If she is presenting herself, she's looking for more action, not commitment. You have to be ok with sex doesn't equal love or 'ownership' on a woman.

That's not to say it doesn't grow in to love down the road...just keep it out of your head for now.

If the guy is pissed off you nailed her, that's you and her's fault for talking. You don't really talk about women in your social circle you are boning after high school. However, some chicks though like seeing fights...YMMV.

I have been with a few married women (and yes while married / divorcing my wife saw other guys....I was ok with that and that's just the way it is...so it's all fair game) but you have to be discrete. She doesn't want the slut label so many are willing to throw at her even if her hubby is a slimeball.

Bottom line though is you have to know the 'relationship' you are getting into. There are lots of really nice chicks today that just want sex and not have it talked about later on. When I was in college if I wasn't married (the first time) and engaged (the second time) and basically actually not willing to cheat on on those two, there were a few pretty much smoking chicks I helped study that laid down a plan for a one night stand and to forget about it and there were a few more just ok to ugly chicks promoting the same speech.

Sex today is a non-issue to everyone but the self-conscious and unexperienced...or those looking for the holy grail of relationships. More often than not it's someone that wanted to play the field and then judge the other person for doing the same.

 

[jjones]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Hit it!

:thumbsup:

 

[JavaMomma]

My advice on the situtation...

If you like her and she likes you as much as it sounds like you both do, then yes.

I had sort of similar sitituation when I was younger.

Basically a friend of mine was dating this girl. He asked me to come along one night and we did the double date thing him, the girl he was dating brought out one of her friends. I started dating the girls friend, and my friend dated continued to date the same girl. After a couple weeks of this double dating thing, myself and my friends date relized we both really like each other, well to make the long story short..some peopls feelings got hurt, and myself and my friends date eventually went out.
We basically decided we both really liked each other and it seemed stupid to not to be together because of of other people, it was a mess yes, her friend got mad, my friend got mad...whatever, years later everyone got over it and it was one of the best relationships I have ever been in, and I would do it again if I could I go back.

Is that selfish? Yes probably in a way it is...

You're from BC? What school you go to? I am also a BC University student (3rd year).