What would you do in the situation?

[kmrivers]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
If you don't want to lose your girlfriend, keep out of it. Remember, that is your girlfriend's BROTHER and she will likely side with him over you.

I don't really care. Her brother is a pastor and is representing her faith. He is not treating her a a Christian should treat someone. He also masturbates to pornography on a daily basis. I have walked in. This is irrelevent but damn funny.

Anyhow, he is being dishonest with people as well. Making himself out to be mr. awesome when is reality is a pompous prick.

So... if my girlfriend gets angry at me for taking a stand. So be it. She can deal with it or walk.

 

[waggy]

ok ok she cheats on her boyfriend for 4 months and he puts her down? WELL NO FVCKIGN ******.

lucky he didnt dump the slut. she deserves it. but the way he is treating her (wich im not sure on because it sounds like you have the hots for her) while she does deserve it is wrong.


but best thing you can do is stay out of it. unless you are trying to nail (wich it sounds like) this girl then go ahead. i look foreword to the thread you post after t his blows up on you.

 

[thelanx]

Sounds like an abusive relationship, verbally if not physically. On the other hand, Sqube has a point that the girl is probably pretty screwed up too, and it's not like she'll just all of a sudden have a light bulb go on when you talk to her. She's got to come to the conclusion herself. You might be able to help, but it would probably require extensive effort on your part that could piss off your GF, her brother, and who knows who else that believes the brother is trying to help.

Originally posted by: kmrivers
I have discussed this with my girlfriend, however she thinks he is an adult and he can do what he wants.

If you decide to act, tell her you are an adult as well and can do what you think is right.

My suggestion is if this is really driving you up the wall, call some social services or some other organization, give them a recording or something and have them take care of it. Explain to them everything that you posted here.

Good luck whatever you decide.

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: DAGTA
If you don't want to lose your girlfriend, keep out of it. Remember, that is your girlfriend's BROTHER and she will likely side with him over you.

I don't really care. Her brother is a pastor and is representing her faith. He is not treating her a a Christian should treat someone. He also masturbates to pornography on a daily basis. I have walked in. This is irrelevent but damn funny.

Anyhow, he is being dishonest with people as well. Making himself out to be mr. awesome when is reality is a pompous prick.

So... if my girlfriend gets angry at me for taking a stand. So be it. She can deal with it or walk.

So we can expect a YAGT from you soon?

 

[kmrivers]

Maybe you are right. I am pretty determined to do this. I don't mean to be a jerk to you guys. I just can't take it though. I can't sit back and watch her tear her down like this. Especially considering what he tells everyone he represents.

I am not going to tell her to drop him. I just want to extend her the opportunity to talk if she would like to.

 

[kmrivers]

Originally posted by: DAGTA

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: DAGTA
If you don't want to lose your girlfriend, keep out of it. Remember, that is your girlfriend's BROTHER and she will likely side with him over you.

I don't really care. Her brother is a pastor and is representing her faith. He is not treating her a a Christian should treat someone. He also masturbates to pornography on a daily basis. I have walked in. This is irrelevent but damn funny.

Anyhow, he is being dishonest with people as well. Making himself out to be mr. awesome when is reality is a pompous prick.

So... if my girlfriend gets angry at me for taking a stand. So be it. She can deal with it or walk.

So we can expect a YAGT from you soon?

No way. I am firm. If she wants to leave for that. So be it. I don't want to be with someone who can't take it when her boyfriend takes a stand for something which is clearly not cool.

 

[Sqube]

Well... she's more than likely to be defensive about it. In my experience, that's how people tend to react in that type of situation.

That said, you get an A+ for good intentions.

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: DAGTA

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: DAGTA
If you don't want to lose your girlfriend, keep out of it. Remember, that is your girlfriend's BROTHER and she will likely side with him over you.

I don't really care. Her brother is a pastor and is representing her faith. He is not treating her a a Christian should treat someone. He also masturbates to pornography on a daily basis. I have walked in. This is irrelevent but damn funny.

Anyhow, he is being dishonest with people as well. Making himself out to be mr. awesome when is reality is a pompous prick.

So... if my girlfriend gets angry at me for taking a stand. So be it. She can deal with it or walk.

So we can expect a YAGT from you soon?

No way. I am firm. If she wants to leave for that. So be it. I don't want to be with someone who can't take it when her boyfriend takes a stand for something which is clearly not cool.

OK.

Something else to consider: many women are attracted to men that treat them that way. They see him as being strong and confident. There's a good chance she'll just go to another guy like this guy after their relationship is over.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: kmrivers
No way. I am firm. If she wants to leave for that. So be it. I don't want to be with someone who can't take it when her boyfriend takes a stand for something which is clearly not cool.

Nah, just treat her the same way and see if she likes it.

 

[kmrivers]

Originally posted by: waggy
ok ok she cheats on her boyfriend for 4 months and he puts her down? WELL NO FVCKIGN ******.

lucky he didnt dump the slut. she deserves it. but the way he is treating her (wich im not sure on because it sounds like you have the hots for her) while she does deserve it is wrong.


but best thing you can do is stay out of it. unless you are trying to nail (wich it sounds like) this girl then go ahead. i look foreword to the thread you post after t his blows up on you.

I am not going to go in and say "Dumb this asshole!" I just want to give her a friendly voice and friendly (non-manipulative) advice.

And you know. She did what she did for whatever reason she did it. I have no judgement on that. If he didn't want to be with her, then so be it. But to drag her along on his power trip isn't cool.

She messed up, I know. I am not doubting that. He had the option to walk away as I said.

 

[kmrivers]

Originally posted by: DAGTA

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: DAGTA

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: DAGTA
If you don't want to lose your girlfriend, keep out of it. Remember, that is your girlfriend's BROTHER and she will likely side with him over you.

I don't really care. Her brother is a pastor and is representing her faith. He is not treating her a a Christian should treat someone. He also masturbates to pornography on a daily basis. I have walked in. This is irrelevent but damn funny.

Anyhow, he is being dishonest with people as well. Making himself out to be mr. awesome when is reality is a pompous prick.

So... if my girlfriend gets angry at me for taking a stand. So be it. She can deal with it or walk.

So we can expect a YAGT from you soon?

No way. I am firm. If she wants to leave for that. So be it. I don't want to be with someone who can't take it when her boyfriend takes a stand for something which is clearly not cool.

OK.

Something else to consider: many women are attracted to men that treat them that way. They see him as being strong and confident. There's a good chance she'll just go to another guy like this guy after their relationship is over.

I don't know her that well. So I can't predict what she will do. This guy is good with apperances though. So I am willing to guess he pulled her in with his "charms".

 

[thelanx]

Pass this off to some neutral party or organization, maybe some women's rights group or some group that handles domestic abuse and such. Don't get yourself too involved. I know you have good intentions, but those hackneyed skits where the the arguing couple both turn on the person trying to help comes to mind. Much better to pass this on to someone else who will act directly, while you keep an eye on things from afar, since you are involved with your GF and things could blow up on you.

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: DAGTA
If you don't want to lose your girlfriend, keep out of it. Remember, that is your girlfriend's BROTHER and she will likely side with him over you.

I don't really care. Her brother is a pastor and is representing her faith. He is not treating her a a Christian should treat someone. He also masturbates to pornography on a daily basis. I have walked in. This is irrelevent but damn funny.

Anyhow, he is being dishonest with people as well. Making himself out to be mr. awesome when is reality is a pompous prick.

So... if my girlfriend gets angry at me for taking a stand. So be it. She can deal with it or walk.

It WILL get ugly if you step in.

That said, don't waste your time talking to the girl...you'll NEVER convince her or make her see the light. Women just don't think like us

Instead, concentrate your attacks on the guy...look up Bible passages, call him a hippocrite, threaten to go LoKe on him about the masturbation...did I mention that it will get ugly if you step in? You have to steel yourself to put up with a LOT of crap if you really want things to change.

Alternatively, you can just sit at the sidelines and make sarcastic comments from time to time, until he finally blows up at you and HE ends up looking like the dick.

 

[dirtboy]

It's not your problem, so it's not your fight.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: DAGTA
If you don't want to lose your girlfriend, keep out of it. Remember, that is your girlfriend's BROTHER and she will likely side with him over you.

I don't really care. Her brother is a pastor and is representing her faith. He is not treating her a a Christian should treat someone. He also masturbates to pornography on a daily basis. I have walked in. This is irrelevent but damn funny.

Anyhow, he is being dishonest with people as well. Making himself out to be mr. awesome when is reality is a pompous prick.

So... if my girlfriend gets angry at me for taking a stand. So be it. She can deal with it or walk.

It WILL get ugly if you step in.

That said, don't waste your time talking to the girl...you'll NEVER convince her or make her see the light. Women just don't think like us

Instead, concentrate your attacks on the guy...look up Bible passages, call him a hippocrite, threaten to go LoKe on him about the masturbation...did I mention that it will get ugly if you step in? You have to steel yourself to put up with a LOT of crap if you really want things to change.

Alternatively, you can just sit at the sidelines and make sarcastic comments from time to time, until he finally blows up at you and HE ends up looking like the dick.

but but he wants to be the hero and swoop in and save the girl! no matter if it destyoes his relationship with his girlfriend (wich puts him on the same level as the other guy) and makes him look like a idiot

me thinks he has seen one to many movies.

 

[JinLien]

Originally posted by: OrganizedChaos
leave it alone.

9 out of 10 times tring to be the catcher in the rye will make things worse for all involved, she needs to sort her stuff out on her own.

 

[imthebadguy]

meh i dont care

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

If she cheated on him, he needs to just get rid of her and find someone else because he IS that much better than she is and she IS that much of a horrible person which would be perfect justification for putting her down all the time.

 

[kmrivers]

ok he just told her the following:

"I wish you would die, because i Hate you"

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: kmrivers
ok he just told her the following:

"I wish you would die, because i Hate you"

now i call shens. the thread is going against you so you have to make it worse.

 

[kmrivers]

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: kmrivers
ok he just told her the following:

"I wish you would die, because i Hate you"

now i call shens. the thread is going against you so you have to make it worse.

I tried to record it, but I dont have a good device. This is not shens.

 

[kmrivers]

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: DAGTA
If you don't want to lose your girlfriend, keep out of it. Remember, that is your girlfriend's BROTHER and she will likely side with him over you.

I don't really care. Her brother is a pastor and is representing her faith. He is not treating her a a Christian should treat someone. He also masturbates to pornography on a daily basis. I have walked in. This is irrelevent but damn funny.

Anyhow, he is being dishonest with people as well. Making himself out to be mr. awesome when is reality is a pompous prick.

So... if my girlfriend gets angry at me for taking a stand. So be it. She can deal with it or walk.

It WILL get ugly if you step in.

That said, don't waste your time talking to the girl...you'll NEVER convince her or make her see the light. Women just don't think like us

Instead, concentrate your attacks on the guy...look up Bible passages, call him a hippocrite, threaten to go LoKe on him about the masturbation...did I mention that it will get ugly if you step in? You have to steel yourself to put up with a LOT of crap if you really want things to change.

Alternatively, you can just sit at the sidelines and make sarcastic comments from time to time, until he finally blows up at you and HE ends up looking like the dick.

but but he wants to be the hero and swoop in and save the girl! no matter if it destyoes his relationship with his girlfriend (wich puts him on the same level as the other guy) and makes him look like a idiot

me thinks he has seen one to many movies.

How does that put me on the same level? I am not treating my girlfriend like trash. I have already told her that I am going to do it. So I am not doing it behind her back.

I don't want to the hero. I am trying to save someone who is being driven to insanity by a pretend pastor.

 

[kmrivers]

As I stated. I just think she just needs someone other than this asshat to be there for her. Nobody else seems to have the balls because of what she did. People who make mistakes don't need friendly people any less than those who don't Think back in your own life when you wished someone would have stepped in.


Call shens if you want: "No no, you fing piece of trash, screw you"

How is this working it out?

 

[raildogg]

A lot of people are just saying sit on the sidelines while abuse occurs. Sit on the sidelines while a person is being taken advantage of. It makes sense to some degree, in fact, it makes a lot of sense.

But sometimes, you simply have to do something that is a bit senseless. Something that is morally right. It may not be effective and it may come back to bite you, but sometimes, something inside of you tells you that this is plain wrong. You have to stand up to it.

Stand up to this guy. Do what is right. But think long term.

Think about all the consequences, think about your g/f. Think broadly. Act smartly.

If you think you can handle that, then give advice to the girl. Make sure to cover your tracks. If you get caught, you must be able to stand firm and not back down. Tell whoever confronts you, if anyone finds out, that you are doing what your consience (maybe a bad choice of a word? ... it is late) is telling you.

I am a asshole myself sometimes and I cannot stand other assholes.

Either way, good luck.

 

[kmrivers]

"no, you shut up and listen to me your piece of trash, because at this point I am smarter than you"