What would you do if you caught a co-worker cheating on their spouse with another co-worker?

[pyonir]

I kinda had a similar situation except my co-worker wasn't doing it with another co-worker...he didn't work at our company. I stayed out of it.

 

[silverpig]

Do the spouse

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: EKKC
Is it "right" because you think you want the best for the person's spouse? or right because it feels right and would be good for your own personal gains? change the individual to a person who you get along with, or a subordinate who has no issues professionally, would you do the same thing?

Its in the best interest of the spouse regardless of the relationship with the co-worker. Similarly, I could frame the situation where I was a good friend of the spouse.

 

[Compton]

Originally posted by: EKKC
yeah MYOB.
you don't want coworkers messing with YOUR personal life. do the same thing.

Wtf?

If my wife was cheating on me I sure as hell hope someone would tell me.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
Well there's two schools of thought:

1.) Mind your own business
- pretty self explanatory


2.) Tattle

So there's multiple scenarios from here

scene 1: Confront the cheating couple and tell them to confess their sins or you'll out them.

Scene 2: Confront the spouse who's being cheated on

Scene 3: Anonymous letter doing one of the above


Your decision will be based on past experiences with loved ones/your own morals/your relationship with cheaters/cheated...and apparantly ATOT

/grabs lawnchair and popcorn



edit: I forgot about blackmail

which includes money/sex/lifetime supply of goldfish crackers...yum

4. Tell HR

 

[xgsound]

I suggest this. If you tell all; the cheater, the cheater's spouse, and the "other" coworker will ALL hate you. Your fellow coworkers that feel that you should MYOB will have little use for you from now on.

If you still feel it's the right thing to do, just remember that this one will fall into the "no good deed goes unpunished" catagory.


Jim

 

[paulney]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: Chaotic42
Depends. I'd either ask for pics or gouge out my mind's eye.

What if I said the spouse was a hottie... would you answer be different?

Pre-emptive NO PICS!

Approach the spouse. Tell her the whole thing with dramatization. Then "comfort" her.

No, of course not. MYOB.

 

[f4phantom2500]

Unless you are involved on a personal level with any of the 3 people that it effects (the spouse that's being cheated on, the spouse that's cheating, or the one with whom the cheater is cheating), let's say one or more of them is your best friend or something, just leave it be it's not your business. If you are friends with one of them/any of them, talk to the cheater spouse about it to see what's up and what you can do to help your friend. If it turns out the cheater is cheating because they're just a scummy person, tell the other spouse if you're close friends. If not, just let it be because you never know what kind of trouble you can get in when you get yourself involved in a situation like that.

 

[Orsorum]

It's none of your business. Period.

 

[chowmein]

3 some

 

[Flyback]

I'd do the same thing that I would do if I witnessed a car accident: mind my own business and keep going.

 

[purepolly]

1) Start an office pool concerning the outcome.
2) Post a lame-o-meter on the office wall to track the participants' progress toward total destruction.
3) Start a blog.

LOL! 1 and 2 rock. It has been a pleasure seeing my scum bag ex slither down the evolutionary scale since I divorced him.

Karma is a wonderful thing.

 

[jjones]

I would kill them both in a fit of rage and jealousy and then drive over to the spouse's house (being sure to have my shovel, duct tape and chloroform stashed in the trunk just in case), profess my undying love to her and boast about what I just did to protect her honor, and then demand she run away with me to fulfill her destiny. Or I might just mind my own fvcking business.

 

[DainBramaged]

MYOGDB

 

[JulesMaximus]

Take pictures!

 

[cKGunslinger]

Originally posted by: Gigantopithecus
The absence of light + what the postal service delivers = profit!

Dark Postcards?

I'm not seeing where you are going with this...

 

[compuwiz1]

MYOB!
I think there should be an 11th commanent in the bible.
If you catch your co-worker or other woman, MYOB!

 

[HardcoreRobot]

myofb

 

[Pakman]

I don't think men would really care even if they didn't like the dude. This sounds like something women think about.

 

[Amused]

Absolutely nothing.

It's none of my business so long as it doesn't interfere with work.

 

[Midlander]

MYOB. Otherwise, I guarantee some of the problem will rub off on you.

 

[Jadow]

I'd stay out of it......unless I thought the wife who was being cheated on was hot and should be with me. Then I'd go after her.

 

[xgsound]

Here's a worst case scenerio. You tell the spouse and the spouse goes nuts and sprays the workplace (cheats with coworker) with lead. Helping people doesn't always go in the direction you want it to.


Jim

 

[Kanalua]

Depends. Are you in a Union job? If so, then you might have some leverage against serious repercussions against your employment status (i.e - you probably wont get fired to telling).

if you are one of the 92% of workers not organized in a Union, for the sakes of your job, I'd keep my mouth shut.

My brother-in-law caught his boss having an affair. The bosses wife was BFF with my B-i-L's wife. Of course my B.i.L told his wife and the bosses wife what he saw. B.i.L was fired the very next day after the bosses wife found out. It was a good job for a college drop out and they were expecting their second child. B.i.L and his wife would pretty much not have told on the boss if they could go back in time. My B.i.L still hasn't found a job with the same pay or benefits, and now his wife works to make ends meet (where she didn't have to before).

Also, you will lose that job reference.

 

[judasmachine]

Originally posted by: her209
Assume said cheating co-worker is the same sex as you and that you don't get along.

see if he'll share... we will call it a meeting.