What would you do if you caught a co-worker cheating on their spouse with another co-worker?

[her209]

Assume said cheating co-worker is the same sex as you and that you don't get along.

 

[rocadelpunk]

Well there's two schools of thought:

1.) Mind your own business
- pretty self explanatory


2.) Tattle

So there's multiple scenarios from here

scene 1: Confront the cheating couple and tell them to confess their sins or you'll out them.

Scene 2: Confront the spouse who's being cheated on

Scene 3: Anonymous letter doing one of the above


Your decision will be based on past experiences with loved ones/your own morals/your relationship with cheaters/cheated...and apparantly ATOT

/grabs lawnchair and popcorn



edit: I forgot about blackmail

which includes money/sex/lifetime supply of goldfish crackers...yum

 

[blurredvision]

Just leave it be, it's none of your business.

 

[SonnyDaze]

I'd just mind my own business and watch what plays out. Remember....what goes around comes around.

 

[Fritzo]

Uhhh...ask if I could join in?

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: SonnyDaze
I'd just mind my own business and watch what plays out. Remember....what goes around comes around.

Okay, but what if it was the spouse that had cheated in a previous relationship? Does that make this round justifiable then...?

 

[Mucho]

Mind my business

 

[Journer]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
Uhhh...ask if I could join in?

QFT /thread

 

[SmoochyTX]

MYOB

 

[SirChadwick]

I'd just leave it be man... it will come back to get him. I've learned my lesson by opening my mouth.

 

[drum]

I would stay the hell out of it. I have much more to be concerned with.

 

[Chaotic42]

Depends. I'd either ask for pics or gouge out my mind's eye.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: Chaotic42
Depends. I'd either ask for pics or gouge out my mind's eye.

What if I said the spouse was a hottie... would you answer be different?

Pre-emptive NO PICS!

 

[IronWing]

1) Start an office pool concerning the outcome.
2) Post a lame-o-meter on the office wall to track the participants' progress toward total destruction.
3) Start a blog.

 

[Chunkee]

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
Well there's two schools of thought:

1.) Mind your own business
- pretty self explanatory

 

[Mr Incognito]

I'm sure you are no saint that you would appreciate people being lenient on your transgressions, simply because you don't know the situation.

 

[EKKC]

yeah MYOB.
you don't want coworkers messing with YOUR personal life. do the same thing.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: EKKC
yeah MYOB.
you don't want coworkers messing with YOUR personal life. do the same thing.

What if it were you? Wouldn't you want to know that your spouse was messing around at work?

 

[EKKC]

yes i would want to know. but a smart spouse always detect something different if the SO was cheating
but at the same time i would not thank the person nor be grateful, i would tell him/her to mind their own business.

remember, you don't want this to affect you personally, what if the coworker knows someone high up in the chain of command? he may get fired and get a nice severance package while the "nosy" people are fired without reason. i remember a thread here at ATOT quite a while ago where there was a whole office relationship mess similar to this situation, and a whole bunch of people got fired, including the finger pointers.

MYOB. unless if you really want to tell the person's spouse and you can't sit well, find out a way to email anonymously. never identify yourself.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: EKKC
remember, you don't want this to affect you personally, what if the coworker knows someone high up in the chain of command? he may get fired and get a nice severance package while the "nosy" people are fired without reason.

If you got fired for doing what you considered was the right thing, would you really want to continue working at a place like that?

 

[LikeLinus]

Originally posted by: her209
Assume said cheating co-worker is the same sex as you and that you don't get along.

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
which includes money/sex/lifetime supply of goldfish crackers...yum

Coming out so soon eh?

 

[EKKC]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: EKKC
remember, you don't want this to affect you personally, what if the coworker knows someone high up in the chain of command? he may get fired and get a nice severance package while the "nosy" people are fired without reason.

If you got fired for doing what you considered was the right thing, would you really want to continue working at a place like that?

no. but what if it's one bad exec who has the power while the company in general has a great culture.

it almost seems like you have already made up your mind to expose this cheating individual, from the OP you said you do not get along with this person. I think it is selfish, if not outright childish, to get rid of someone you do not like using this tactic. Unless you can convince yourself that you want to do this for the sake of the person's spouse, by all means, go ahead. Any other reasons, then I think you should reevaluate the situation or talk to/ consult a friend or family member who have no ties to your workplace. Is it "right" because you think you want the best for the person's spouse? or right because it feels right and would be good for your own personal gains? change the individual to a person who you get along with, or a subordinate who has no issues professionally, would you do the same thing?

edit: also, what if the spouse already know about the extramarital affair and wants to handle it in their own way or perhaps repair the relationship, if someone contacts her about it, it'd only be embarrassing for both you and the person's spouse. regardless of the situation I still believe it's best to leave others' personal affairs alone in the workplace.

 

[Gigantopithecus]

The absence of light + what the postal service delivers = profit!

 

[Conky]

Extort large sums of cash.

 

[Geekbabe]

MYOB and focus on doing my work!