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Accipiter22

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So this is back in May. Me and one of my best friends at the time meet a couple girls playing pool one night. I really hit it off with one of them, and after a couple times hanging out in a group, I invite her over for dinner one night. We end up making out for a while, and suddenly she bursts into tears. I ask her if i'm that bad of a kisser....she laughs and tells me it's that she just broke up with her bf a little over a week ago. She starts talking about how she's a slut, and a whore, and her boyfriend had always told her as such. Now, up to this point I've clicked well with this girl, so I assure her she's not a slut, it's not like we're going to fvck or anything, and we're just two people who get along well, etc. We kiss a few more times, but it is getting late so she has to leave soon. That night she IM's me, we talk for a while, she's still upset, talking about how I'll find a good girl someday, etc. I tell her again, that I'm not asking her out or anything, she just got out of a relationship and we should just keep getting to know each other better and going with the flow, and that seems to comfort her a bit. Later in the afternoon the day after I give her a call to see how she's doing and if she's feeling better...I get her voicemail....the message is her sobbing and saying 'I don't want to talk to anyone right now just leave a message'....I left a very short one saying not to feel bad and that we didn't do anything wrong, and she seems like a sweet girl and to just relax. Now my question for ATOT...what would you have done at this point, all-knowing ATOT?

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1. meet girl and hit it off, hang out later and make out
2. girl starts sobbing about how she's a slut, etc.
3. I try to comfort her, it sorta works..
4. Next day the message on her voicemail is her sobbing and saying she doesn't want to talk to anyone
5. what would you have done at this point?
 
Sphexi

Sphexi

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I'd probably stay away romance-wise, sounds like she has a lot of stuff to work out. Even if you did hook up with her, it'd be way too much trouble down the road. If you really do like her though, stay friends and help her get over this guy (who sounds like a dick), and maybe in the future you'll get your shot?
 
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Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Now my question for ATOT...what would you have done at this point, all-knowing ATOT?
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Post an inane rambling thread about it.:roll:
 
HardcoreRobot

HardcoreRobot

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well if you are nice to her you will end up on the friends ladder

and the only reason you would really be nice is to sleep with her

so yeah, you are screwed
 
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platinumike

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Find another girl. You being a pvssy and staying around through her emotioal times is gonna have her picturing you like a friend. She is not the type of girl that will date guys like you, Girls like her like jerks, you cant change her, you can only change yourself. So if you want something with this Girl tell her you like her but dont wanna waste all this time not knowing whats going on so you're gonna date other women, and offer to her that you can always go out again.I gurantee you, watch like 3 months from now, your gonna have this girl all in your mind all day, you ask her out and she gives you a mixed answer. Congrats, you wasted 1/2 a year or so on 1 girl.
 
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Accipiter22

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I won't even begin to describe what happened over the next few months...let's just say I have a one strike and you're out rule with girls and I broke it roughly 6 times with her. Eh happens to everyone sometimes. I was just wondering if it was completely retarded of me to not kick her to the curb at the time.
 
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Accipiter22

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Originally posted by: platinumike
Find another girl. You being a pvssy and staying around through her emotioal times is gonna have her picturing you like a friend. She is not the type of girl that will date guys like you, Girls like her like jerks, you cant change her, you can only change yourself. So if you want something with this Girl tell her you like her but dont wanna waste all this time not knowing whats going on so you're gonna date other women, and offer to her that you can always go out again.I gurantee you, watch like 3 months from now, your gonna have this girl all in your mind all day, you ask her out and she gives you a mixed answer. Congrats, you wasted 1/2 a year or so on 1 girl.
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eerily accurate.
 
yllus

yllus

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Too much drama for too little return. Throw this one back.
 
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kevinthenerd

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(Didn't read any of the thread, so don't mind me if it's a repeat.)

It sounds to me like she's going through a rebound phase. Give her a little space and time, but call her back if she doesn't in a couple of days.
 
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Runes911

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Originally posted by: Accipiter22
I won't even begin to describe what happened over the next few months...let's just say I have a one strike and you're out rule with girls and I broke it roughly 6 times with her. Eh happens to everyone sometimes. I was just wondering if it was completely retarded of me to not kick her to the curb at the time.
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Huh ok I am lost... Your OP is 6 months old?
 
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Accipiter22

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Originally posted by: Runes911
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
I won't even begin to describe what happened over the next few months...let's just say I have a one strike and you're out rule with girls and I broke it roughly 6 times with her. Eh happens to everyone sometimes. I was just wondering if it was completely retarded of me to not kick her to the curb at the time.
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Huh ok I am lost... Your OP is 6 months old?
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the OP was a retrospective post....back in may that all happened
 
NiKeFiDO

NiKeFiDO

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Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Originally posted by: platinumike
Find another girl. You being a pvssy and staying around through her emotioal times is gonna have her picturing you like a friend. She is not the type of girl that will date guys like you, Girls like her like jerks, you cant change her, you can only change yourself. So if you want something with this Girl tell her you like her but dont wanna waste all this time not knowing whats going on so you're gonna date other women, and offer to her that you can always go out again.I gurantee you, watch like 3 months from now, your gonna have this girl all in your mind all day, you ask her out and she gives you a mixed answer. Congrats, you wasted 1/2 a year or so on 1 girl.
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eerily accurate.
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yep.
 
PingSpike

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Yeah, she wants a guy that calls her a whore and treats her like dirt. Since you weren't willing to do that, it never had a chance of working out.
 
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Accipiter22

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Originally posted by: PingSpike
Yeah, she wants a guy that calls her a whore and treats her like dirt. Since you weren't willing to do that, it never had a chance of working out.
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winnar, [/thread]

she's back with the ex bf. My last email i ever wrote to her basically told her to just go back to him, she had blown any chance with me, and that her p.o.s. ex woudl be the best guy she ever had, and more than she even deserved so just get back with him. She wanted to sitll be able to go back and fvck him while meeting new, fun guys...and have them be ok with dating her and investing time in her while she still fvcked him.
 
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