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Semidevil

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Here's the situation, my GF's ex is a bad guy. A pretty abusive kind of guy, and is trying to get back together with my gf. Ofcourse, my gf said no, and the guy still won't stop bugging her. He sees her at school a lot lately and says negative stuff about us, and just wont admit the fact that they have broken up and that she found someone else.

Everytime my gf sees him, they would talk and my gf would call me and tell me about what happened and tell me that she is scared of him. I"m concerned and just have no idea what to do. The main problem is that I dont go to the same school as her. We live about an hour away. so I dont see her a lot.

What can I do get the guy to stop annoying her?

I mean, the ideal way is to say "kick that guys sorry ass," but we need to face reality here.

First of all, it is 2003. I"m not in a mafia. If beating up a guy could really solve the problem and not make it worse, then I would consider it. I mean, it's not the movies.

Second, the guy is like 100x bulkier then me, so beating him up would be kind of hard.

I mean, we are all adults right? not little kids that need to go to physical confrontation to get something done.

What do you think I can do. I'm really concerned for my gf. There has to be a solution to end this thing peacefully right? If not peacefully, I don't want to get anybody physically hurt.
 
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ragazzo

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Only way is to ask your GF not to talk to him and if she sees him, turn away. Cut off all points of contact. He'll get the drift eventually. If he doesn't, a restraining order is due.
 
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Marshallj

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Originally posted by: Semidevil
First of all, it is 2003. I"m not in a mafia. If beating up a guy could really solve the problem and not make it worse, then I would consider it. I mean, it's not the movies.



Second, the guy is like 100x bulkier then me, so beating him up would be kind of hard.

I mean, we are all adults right? not little kids that need to go to physical confrontation to get something done.
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I have a feeling that if you were the one that's 100X bulkier than him, your opinion would be different and he'd be beaten up.

 
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DumbRedGuy

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Originally posted by: ragazzo
Only way is to ask your GF not to talk to him and if she sees him, turn away. Cut off all points of contact. He'll get the drift eventually. If he doesn't, a restraining order is due.
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Quoted for emphasis.
 
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human2k

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Its impossible now Ive had time to think it out. The two conditions for a limit of infinity is that a. each iteration must be breater than the last, b. the DIFFERENCE must be monotonically non-decreasing.

Now, assume that a > 1. let n be the nth iteration. for n = 1, n > 1 obviously, so n^n > n.

for n = k, the kth iteration = n, the k+1th iteration = n^a, the difference = n^a-n.
for n = k+1, the k+1th iteration = n^a, the k+2th iteration = (n^a)^a, the difference = ((n^a)^a-n^a)

now, we must prove that ((n^a)^a-n^a) > n^a-n for all a > 1.

uh, my brain is too tired to proceed from here but thats essentially what you have to prove.

Anyway. QED proof ny mathematical Induction.
 
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Christoph

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She needs to stop talking to him. If he's truly threatening her, she should get a restraining order.
 
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Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Semidevil
First of all, it is 2003. I"m not in a mafia. If beating up a guy could really solve the problem and not make it worse, then I would consider it. I mean, it's not the movies.



Second, the guy is like 100x bulkier then me, so beating him up would be kind of hard.

I mean, we are all adults right? not little kids that need to go to physical confrontation to get something done.
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I have a feeling that if you were the one that's 100X bulkier than him, your opinion would be different and he'd be beaten up.
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No crap. Let the 'legal mafia' (AKA cops) do the dirty work for you then. ;)
 
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theNEOone

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Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Semidevil
First of all, it is 2003. I"m not in a mafia. If beating up a guy could really solve the problem and not make it worse, then I would consider it. I mean, it's not the movies.



Second, the guy is like 100x bulkier then me, so beating him up would be kind of hard.

I mean, we are all adults right? not little kids that need to go to physical confrontation to get something done.
Click to expand...

I have a feeling that if you were the one that's 100X bulkier than him, your opinion would be different and he'd be beaten up.
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agree one hundred percent.


even though you're smaller you should still fight him. yah it's 2003, but honor and fighting for your woman are still ok in my book. this guy is basically spitting all over you and your relationship in front of your girlfiend. on top of that, your girlfriend feels threatened. are you seriously going to stand for that sh!t??!?!
 
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Semidevil

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Originally posted by: jemcam
Tell her to call the cops and let them take care of it.
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see, that's a problem. He's not a stalker(yet). They just happened to bump into eachother at school on their way to class and he starts talking trash, so technically, he's not "stalking" her. Right now, it's more of a verbal thing to make her unhappy.

I mean, I can tell my gf to go the other way whe she sees him, but then again, it is easier said then done. I want my gf to have a normal life at school, and if I gave her that advice, it's like not helping her at all.....



 
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Originally posted by: Semidevil
Originally posted by: jemcam
Tell her to call the cops and let them take care of it.
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see, that's a problem. He's not a stalker(yet). They just happened to bump into eachother at school on their way to class and he starts talking trash, so technically, he's not "stalking" her. Right now, it's more of a verbal thing to make her unhappy.

I mean, I can tell my gf to go the other way whe she sees him, but then again, it is easier said then done. I want my gf to have a normal life at school, and if I gave her that advice, it's like not helping her at all.....
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Still, if she goes to the school for harassment, at least they know about it before it gets worse . . ..
 
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Compton

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I've been in your situation before and it caused a lot of problems. She has to completely break contact with him. There's no reason for them to talk things over or try to come to an "understanding" or any of that bs. She has to just ignore him. If she won't do this, then I'd dump her. Good luck whatever you do.
 
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Looney

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Originally posted by: theNEOone
Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Semidevil
First of all, it is 2003. I"m not in a mafia. If beating up a guy could really solve the problem and not make it worse, then I would consider it. I mean, it's not the movies.



Second, the guy is like 100x bulkier then me, so beating him up would be kind of hard.

I mean, we are all adults right? not little kids that need to go to physical confrontation to get something done.
Click to expand...

I have a feeling that if you were the one that's 100X bulkier than him, your opinion would be different and he'd be beaten up.
Click to expand...


agree one hundred percent.


even though you're smaller you should still fight him. yah it's 2003, but honor and fighting for your woman are still ok in my book. this guy is basically spitting all over you and your relationship in front of your girlfiend. on top of that, your girlfriend feels threatened. are you seriously going to stand for that sh!t??!?!
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Obviously you've never been in a fight before. It doesn't solve anything. You think he's going to backdown if he gets beaten? If anything, he's going to want revenge. You've been watching too much TV and not living enough reality.
 
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Looney

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Originally posted by: Jehovah
Originally posted by: Semidevil
Originally posted by: jemcam
Tell her to call the cops and let them take care of it.
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see, that's a problem. He's not a stalker(yet). They just happened to bump into eachother at school on their way to class and he starts talking trash, so technically, he's not "stalking" her. Right now, it's more of a verbal thing to make her unhappy.

I mean, I can tell my gf to go the other way whe she sees him, but then again, it is easier said then done. I want my gf to have a normal life at school, and if I gave her that advice, it's like not helping her at all.....
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Still, if she goes to the school for harassment, at least they know about it before it gets worse . . ..
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Yeah, get her to report it as verbal harassment to the principal.
 
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Semidevil

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic
Originally posted by: Jehovah
Originally posted by: Semidevil
Originally posted by: jemcam
Tell her to call the cops and let them take care of it.
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see, that's a problem. He's not a stalker(yet). They just happened to bump into eachother at school on their way to class and he starts talking trash, so technically, he's not "stalking" her. Right now, it's more of a verbal thing to make her unhappy.

I mean, I can tell my gf to go the other way whe she sees him, but then again, it is easier said then done. I want my gf to have a normal life at school, and if I gave her that advice, it's like not helping her at all.....
Click to expand...

Still, if she goes to the school for harassment, at least they know about it before it gets worse . . ..
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Yeah, get her to report it as verbal harassment to the principal.
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But the so called "verbal harrassment" that I"m talking about are something like

"what does he have that I don't have"
"lets get back together"
"you should dump him"

I should have made myself clear. there not really verbal "harrassmant," but it's words that make my gf feel unhappy. I mean, the guy is like right on the line, but hasn't crossed it yet.

 
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Marshallj

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic
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Obviously you've never been in a fight before. It doesn't solve anything. You think he's going to backdown if he gets beaten? If anything, he's going to want revenge. You've been watching too much TV and not living enough reality.
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Some people always want to think that talking is the way to go about things, but when you are in a position to achieve your objective by force, that's the quickest method.

Just look at the US in Iraq... we're not talking about an 18 year old kid here, we're talking about a country. If just talking was widely known to be the "best way", we would not have gone over and removed our enemy by force.

One's words can be ignored, and the other side can always block out what you're trying to tell them. But you cannot resist overwhelming force. Crude, but effective.
 
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FoBoT

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Originally posted by: Semidevil
I should have made myself clear. there not really verbal "harrassmant," but it's words that make my gf feel unhappy. I mean, the guy is like right on the line, but hasn't crossed it yet.
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if you don't want to get a restraining order, then go for Thermonuclear War
 
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Looney

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Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Moralpanic
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Obviously you've never been in a fight before. It doesn't solve anything. You think he's going to backdown if he gets beaten? If anything, he's going to want revenge. You've been watching too much TV and not living enough reality.
Click to expand...

Some people always want to think that talking is the way to go about things, but when you are in a position to achieve your objective by force, that's the quickest method.

Just look at the US in Iraq... we're not talking about an 18 year old kid here, we're talking about a country. If just talking was widely known to be the "best way", we would not have gone over and removed our enemy by force.

One's words can be ignored, and the other side can always block out what you're trying to tell them. But you cannot resist overwhelming force. Crude, but effective.
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ok toughguy
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