What should I do?

idNut

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I've personally been doing better, going back to my psychologist, weight lifting, etc. Besides that, the girl (the one I posted about before, obvhas been affecting my life drastically. I don't know what I should do. Should I intervene or mind my own business? This is a person I've known and really felt deeply about for six years. I can't stop thinking about her and she's told me that she'll probably moving back to California or going to New York for college. This sadden me greatly but what did I expect, that she'd really live in western PA the rest of her life?

Today was kind of strange. She sat across from me and she pulled out a little seranwrap (spelling) "envelope" which held about four or five different looking pills that she gulped down with a swig of water. Her one friend asked what they were and she said something like cocaine? I didn't know or at least think you could take cocaine in a pill form. This sort of bothered me because later on in the period she started laughing and doing all sorts of strange sh!t. I don't know if it is in my head or what. I told my brother and he thinks they could be Tylenol or something of the sort. Maybe but I have no idea. The pills looked strange, different shapes ranging from a dark circular to a white capsule and such.

Am I stupid to worry about this girl or even feel for her? How do I manage to go on knowing that a very unique person is destroying herself? Am I nosey or caring? I hope you don't flame me but the reason I posted is because I really don't know what to do. None of my friends seem to know the feeling of concern and worry. Do I write a letter explaining my concern and how I've felt over the years? Or do I just allow her to be reckless and pay for her actions if the consequences lye in the future?
 

radioouman

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If she is really doing cocaine, just move on. If she was playing with you, she might be worth it and she has a good sense of humor. Maybe.... I guess that's really a bad sense of humor.

 

Orsorum

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You can't change her actions; I've found that disconnection helps, as empathetic people tend to feel pain, or try to absorb someone elses' situation or actions.
 

agnitrate

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Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Sounds like a multi-vitamin.

I have several packages in my desk drawer.

Viper GTS

Yeah, her actions were the result of Vitamin-C goodness. Multi-vitamins rule!

-silver
 

agnitrate

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Originally posted by: idNut
Originally posted by: minendo
What should I do?
Her. 'Nuff said.

Huh?

I do realize that the only person you can control is yourself but I don't think it's right to just let her keep destroying herself.

Either shutup and MYOB or tell the cops. I don't think there's a middle road here. There's no option for 'slowly gain her confidence and convince her to stop abusing drugs'. It's not going to happen.

-silver
 

pyonir

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Originally posted by: idNut
Originally posted by: minendo
What should I do?
Her. 'Nuff said.

Huh?

I do realize that the only person you can control is yourself but I don't think it's right to just let her keep destroying herself.

you aren't "letting" her. she is going to do it whether you 'let' her or not.
 

SCSIfreek

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Does she know you by any chance? or is it something like the girl next door that you couldn't ever have? If you know her then go up to her and speak your mind else you're better off minding your own business.


--Scsi
 

pyonir

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dude, you should still tell how you feel about her. just don't expect her to just change for you. and don't demand that she change.
 

idNut

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Originally posted by: pyonir
dude, you should still tell how you feel about her. just don't expect her to just change for you. and don't demand that she change.

Yeah, I'm not going to force her to do anything, what power do I have of doing that?
 

pyonir

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Originally posted by: idNut
Originally posted by: pyonir
dude, you should still tell how you feel about her. just don't expect her to just change for you. and don't demand that she change.

Yeah, I'm not going to force her to do anything, what power do I have of doing that?

what i mean is, when you tell her you like her, don't bring up the drug use. Don't be like, "but i'd like you more if you'd quit doing drugs" or "I'm just worried about your drug habit"

Know what i mean?
 

DeafeningSilence

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You said that she said "something like cocaine." Did she say codeine? Because that would explain the pill that looked like Tylenol. There's a drug called Tylenol 3, and it's a prescription painkiller (Tylenol + codeine). It's a narcotic, but it's nothing as bad as cocaine.

If it's really tearing you up, just ask her and get the story.