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manlymatt83

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Oct 14, 2005
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Hi all,

What should I do?

My girlfriend lives about 8 hours away for College. She's home for the holidays from this past Tuesday until tomorrow morning. Even when she's home she lives 2 hours away from me. I drove up there on Tuesday and then drove back. I drove up there on Thursday and then drove back. I'm supposed to go see her again tonight but I don't really feel like driving again... however, shes going away this Spring and I'm not gonna see her for 6 months ... and also, her parents hate me for no reason even though I'm a really nice guy.

So anyway, my band wants to get together tonight to mess around and I'm having trouble deciding. Go see her again for a few hours before she leaves to go back up North? Or stay around here and go play with the band?

-Matt
 
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isasir

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Why haven't you broken up with her yet? I see no reason why you're still together with her.
 
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manlymatt83

Lifer
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I agree meltdown ..... there are two things that bother me. One is that I always go out of the way to see HER and she hardly comes here ... but part of that is her parents (mind you shes 21) ... however, every time she asks her parents, they say ok, she's just always nervous about asking them because they are die hard conservative (and I mean NOTHING about politics so I'm not trying to flame). Her dad is really rich and is one of those guys where "If you get into ONE fight I don't like him". She asked him one time why he doesn't like me, and he responded with "He's caused you a lot of angst". her response was "Yeah, but most of the time he makes me really happy." That had no affect on him.

When I'm on the phone with her, I say hi to him out of respect. He doesn't say hi back. Very rude in my opinion, but I love my girlfriend so ....... keeps me in a tight bundle. I'm whipped I guess. But you're right, sometimes I wish that she would visit me more often......
 
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manlymatt83

Lifer
Oct 14, 2005
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Band is good. Girl is hot. And no, I see her about 1-2 / month; but most of that is me. She comes to visit me maybe 10-15% of the time.
 
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hans030390

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Pics of the girl. Now.

Go see her, your band is less important...and you can see them easily any time.

What kind of band is it?
 
Saint Nick

Saint Nick

Lifer
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you are with a girl that is that far away? i think its time to move on bud... go see her, break up with her, go enjoi the band and a more local girlfriend.
 
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manlymatt83

Lifer
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jndietz: I feel the same way. Shes dissapearing for 6 months to a far far away country on a school study abroad program ..... so we won't be able to talk for 6 months let alone on top of us not seeing each other for 6 months....... so I have decisions to make.
 
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dug777

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
jndietz: I feel the same way. Shes dissapearing for 6 months to a far far away country on a school study abroad program ..... so we won't be able to talk for 6 months let alone on top of us not seeing each other for 6 months....... so I have decisions to make.
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:p if you really actually for real care for each other then that time apart shouldn't be an issue...if it's just another juvenile relationship then get on out and root another woman ;)
 
Saint Nick

Saint Nick

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now, granted, i don't really know how you guys are with each other. i don't know how secure you guys feel with each other about going off and doing things alone for an extended period. if this is an "i love you" situation, then yes... it will be a lot harder. however, if you are worried that she is going to go find some other guy, or if you have any insecurities at all, then it is time to break this one off. it will be hard and painful, but if you're young, you should have nothing to worry about :)
 
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manlymatt83

Lifer
Oct 14, 2005
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jndietz: I'm not worried about her finding another guy. I'm secure in that respect. My worry is that I never get any time to spend alone or in peson with this girl (we've been an on the phone relationship for years now) and so how am I supposed to know what she'd be like in person if I hardly ever see her in person?

I guess part of me is just tired of driving the four hours round trip. I did it on Tuesday, I did it on Thursday, and now its Saturday. She can't come down here because shes very family oriented and has to eat dinner with every one of her aunts and uncles while shes home....... but her family just invited me to dinner (even though they hate me).

I was thinking of going up there and seeing a movie with her at 3:40 PM (gives me just enough time to get there if I leave in a few). The movie is over at 6:00 PM. I could leave her house (skip dinner even though they invited me, just say I made alternate plans, which SHOULD be ok with them because I made the EFFORT to come see their daughter even if it was just for a movie!) and make it back here in time for the 9:00 PM practice....
 
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BrianH1

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it sounds like you really dont care for this girl 100%. From your posts it seems like you have already pre-determined that this girl is pretty much done with. I say while she is gone on the 6 months, you start looking for the next gf pretty hard.
 
meltdown75

meltdown75

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don't drive there again if you can help it. you're like a turkey sticking its neck out on the chopping block if you keep putting yourself out there like that. could seem like you're trying too hard.

see if she can come down. you have driven there 3 times in 1 week. that is more than enough to show you care.

if she can't make the trip, it's obvious you were meant to jam with the band tonight.
 
sixone

sixone

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
jndietz: I'm not worried about her finding another guy. I'm secure in that respect. My worry is that I never get any time to spend alone or in peson with this girl (we've been an on the phone relationship for years now) and so how am I supposed to know what she'd be like in person if I hardly ever see her in person?

I guess part of me is just tired of driving the four hours round trip. I did it on Tuesday, I did it on Thursday, and now its Saturday. She can't come down here because shes very family oriented and has to eat dinner with every one of her aunts and uncles while shes home....... but her family just invited me to dinner (even though they hate me).

I was thinking of going up there and seeing a movie with her at 3:40 PM (gives me just enough time to get there if I leave in a few). The movie is over at 6:00 PM. I could leave her house (skip dinner even though they invited me, just say I made alternate plans, which SHOULD be ok with them because I made the EFFORT to come see their daughter even if it was just for a movie!) and make it back here in time for the 9:00 PM practice....
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That sounds like a good plan - but skip the movie. If you're going to drive four hours for this girl, spend it with her, not staring at a movie screen.

 
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Xyo II

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You have to shorten her leash asap, because she is running after squirrels. And by squirrels, I mean bull dogs with big balls. If she's not hot, then she's just a b1tch that needs to get slapped.
 
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OdiN

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Well..you should break up with her.

Why?

Because if you truly were in love with her you wouldn't hesitate to drive 2 hours to see her even if you only got a few hours.

If she's going to be gone for 6 months..then yeah I would go.

So..you obviously don't really care for her so why are you still with her? Stop wasting her time (and yours) and break up with her.

Break loose so she can go find someone who appreciates her and wants to spend time with her. You obviously don't.
 
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