What should I do if someone is threatening to kill me?

OulOat

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Okay, so I got into this fight (not very violent) with a roommate of mine just before the end of last semester, and it got pretty ugly that I ended up with a burned hand and the police was involved. Although there are still tension between us, we are still living in the same apt (4 people apt) since neither of us can afford the rent of 2 apts. I'm guessing the dust between us has pretty much settled, since I'm not looking for any more trouble.

Now, the problem is with the roommate's friend (another student). I knew the guy and we were pretty cool before the fight. Now, after the fight, the guy is yelling for my blood. First, during winter break, he runs into my ten year old sister in the library and he tells her to tell me that the next time he sees me he will kick my ass. Okay, no big deal I thought, since I'm not afraid of him. Then, I moved back into my apt a few days ago. To my surprise, today, alone in my apt, I hear a guy yelling inside my apt. I leave my room, and I see the roommate that I got into a fight with in the bathroom. As I returned to my room, I recognize the voice as my roommate's friend. I closed the door on the way in and get back to work. Then the guy comes to my door yelling how he's going to kick my ass and kill me. I ignored him, but he continues to taunt me to come out so he could kill me. I consider calling the police and letting them hear what the guy yelling, but I decided against it because I was pretty sure he was just bluffing since I didn't lock my door. Then he walks around my apt for around 5 mins screaming how he is going to kill me. Then silence (I'm guessing my roommate and him left then).

I don't know what I did to pissed off guy so bad. I haven't seen him for a semester much less talked to him (and the last time we talked, I was pretty sure we were cool). I'm guessing it must have been my roommate talking sh!t about me (which won't be surprising, considering what he did to his ex-girlfriend). My mom called and I told her about it. She's worried and told me I should have called the cops. I didn't since I hoped the guy was just bluffing, but now it's gotten me worried. Sure, I'm not afraid of fighting him straight out, but if he really wants to kill me I'm sure he can obtain the necessary devices to do so. And there is the concern of what he might do to my stuff while I'm not in my apt.

So it basically boils down to this, what should I do to get this guy to leave me alone?
 

Gulzakar

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Well, I think under the circumstances, he is threatening him. It might be ok if the guiy keeps it up
 

anxi80

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i find a pistol-whipping sends a nice, strong message.

wont kill him, but will knock him out.

of course, thats my answer to everything.

seriously, stand up, and see if he backs down. may be all talk. if not, then follow the advice in this thread. if you yourself are not physically intimidating, then, its best to take it up with local authorities.
 

LeStEr

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If you think hes serious call the cops. Dont kick his ass unless he starts its. If you start something he will just come back and get you with assault charges.
 

HappyPuppy

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The answer is simple. You call the cops and file a report. Nothing will be done, but if you show up dead some day they will go straight for him first.
 

AlienCraft

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Originally posted by: OulOat
Okay, so I got into this fight (not very violent) with a roommate of mine just before the end of last semester, and it got pretty ugly that I ended up with a burned hand and the police was involved. Although there are still tension between us, we are still living in the same apt (4 people apt) since neither of us can afford the rent of 2 apts. I'm guessing the dust between us has pretty much settled, since I'm not looking for any more trouble.

Now, the problem is with the roommate's friend (another student). I knew the guy and we were pretty cool before the fight. Now, after the fight, the guy is yelling for my blood. First, during winter break, he runs into my ten year old sister in the library and he tells her to tell me that the next time he sees me he will kick my ass. Okay, no big deal I thought, since I'm not afraid of him. Then, I moved back into my apt a few days ago. To my surprise, today, alone in my apt, I hear a guy yelling inside my apt. I leave my room, and I see the roommate that I got into a fight with in the bathroom. As I returned to my room, I recognize the voice as my roommate's friend. I closed the door on the way in and get back to work. Then the guy comes to my door yelling how he's going to kick my ass and kill me. I ignored him, but he continues to taunt me to come out so he could kill me. I consider calling the police and letting them hear what the guy yelling, but I decided against it because I was pretty sure he was just bluffing since I didn't lock my door. Then he walks around my apt for around 5 mins screaming how he is going to kill me. Then silence (I'm guessing my roommate and him left then).

I don't know what I did to pissed off guy so bad. I haven't seen him for a semester much less talked to him (and the last time we talked, I was pretty sure we were cool). I'm guessing it must have been my roommate talking sh!t about me (which won't be surprising, considering what he did to his ex-girlfriend). My mom called and I told her about it. She's worried and told me I should have called the cops. I didn't since I hoped the guy was just bluffing, but now it's gotten me worried. Sure, I'm not afraid of fighting him straight out, but if he really wants to kill me I'm sure he can obtain the necessary devices to do so. And there is the concern of what he might do to my stuff while I'm not in my apt.

So it basically boils down to this, what should I do to get this guy to leave me alone?
#1. File a report.w/ police.
#2. Advise your roomamte that it is your place also ( name on Rental Agreement?) and his friend is not welcome if he continues to act that way.
#3. Get a restraining order if the situation escalates.
#4 Prepare to defend yourself.< actually #1.
#5 Prepare to move out if it gets weird. Better to be broke and in a hotel or friends sofa than beat down and in the hospital or worse.
dude sounds bent. That BS with your sister was just plain wrong.

 

SlowSS

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I think if you continue to ignore him, his anger will continue to build and eventually will explode.
It seems you have two choices since you can't afford to move out.
Either call police or confront him and ask him what his problem is.

If police is called upon, you could press charge aginst him for assult (threat)
and should be able to get a restraining order against him.

If you decide to confront him, do it calmly and ask him why he is angry at you.
And if he throws a first punch, you could retaliate and kick his seabass.
 
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Maybe instead of just ignoring him, oh I don't know, ask him WTF his problem is and try to work it out? Either that or buy a gun and wait.
 

OulOat

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Originally posted by: Azraele
If you got the guts go kick his ass.
Why? So he can have assault charges filed against him?

Yes, he hasn't touched me yet.

Originally posted by: SlowSS
If you decide to confront him, do it calmly and ask him why he is angry at you.

I would do that, except he is like a little child. I tried talking serious with him before (when he didn't want me dead) and all his sentences contained any combinations of the following: g@y, c0ck, b!tch, nut, wh0re, @ss, etc etc. I was also there when his girlfriend broke up with him, and he was threatening to kill her new boyfriend too (that is why I think he is bluffing). But when his girlfriend or us tried to calm him down, it was like we were talking to a wall.

Originally posted by: xuanman
call the cops + get a temporary restraining order?

What is the process to get the restraining order and what does it do? Doesn't it mean that he has to stay like 500 yards away from me at all times?
 

SnapIT

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I don't get it, why not whoop his butt, it is self defense... or is the US more restraint to that than Sweden... because i did just that, and i got no punishment, i defended myself...
 

KK

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Why not record what this moron is yelling next time he does it. That way you will have some proof if your roommate and his friend try and talk their way out of it.

KK
 

spanky

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go out side and tell him to kick ur ass or shut the hell up. if he swings... sue his ass. if he keeps talking, then call the cops and tell them u have a stalker making threats at u.