What should I do... huge problem

[LuDaCriS66]

I had a long talk with my older sister the other night.. My sister is 20 and lives with a roommate ... she was with a couple of friends at a big house party over the weekend.. somehow she got separated from them during the night and she woke up the next morning in someone's room.. she's got some scratches and small bruises on her shoulders, legs, and chest area.. she doesn't know what the heck happened and her friends and I think she may have been slipped some rohypnol or something sometime during the night.. she doesn't even remember who she may have been talking with

she doesn't want us to tell anyone (yet?) but it's killing me to know this.. I definately think I should tell our parents but something in me is keeping me from doing it..

crap.....

 

[fatbaby]

well it is your duty as a brother to help her

Try talking to her if that helps, if you think she was raped, definitely tell your parents asap

 

[Maleficus]

It might be time to kick some @ss. find out all you can, and talk to your sister. take pictures.

 

[monk3y]

With a matter as serious as this, I think it might be wisest to tell your parents. Let your sister know that you are going to inform your parents though. She might want to tell them what happened herself. I wish you and your sister the best of luck with the whole situation.

 

[LuDaCriS66]

I know I should tell my parents... it's just a matter of time.. and yeah I definately wanna tell her before I do it... the thing is no one knows EXACTLY what happened and her friends didn't even see her with anyone that they didn't know.. I just wish I knew who the hell it was :|

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Maybe it would be best to encourage her to look after her own health interests, as opposed to wondering if you should tell your parents (what could they do with such little information?)

At the very least she should see a doctor, explain the situation and receive any necessary medical treatment, especially if it was determined she was raped.

Who's room did she wake up in? I would think at least that person might offer some insight, however slight.

 

[bigrash]

Man good luck with everything. I hope you find the bastard who laid a hand on her.

If you need someone to kick his ass, lemme know. I'll be there in a hurry

 

[yobarman]

definately time to kick some ass.

go to a doctor or something and get tested and find out if anything happened.

 

[d33pt]

first of all..find out WHOSE room she woke up in.. beat the hell outta him and find out what happened.. then ask her friends WHEN exactly they got separated.. and tell her not to go to these parties anymore..

 

[BuckleDownBen]

i would jump to the conclusion that someone slipped her something. it's relatively common for people who drink too much to have blackouts. a friend of mine in college would regularly have blackouts. i don't know your sister and how well she can handle alchohol and how much experience she has with it, so i may be totally wrong. i also don't know what kinds of bruises they are. come to think of it, i don't see the correlation between the bruises and scratches and her being slipped rohypnol. i mean, assume she was slipped it and passed out. did the perpetrator then scratch her and punch her just for the hell of it? if she were very drunk, she may have inflicted those injuries on herself.

 

[Cyco]

Definately needs to be examined by a doctor, possibly should talk to the police. Parents should also be notified. I know if god forbid something similar happens to one of my daughters in the (hopefully far) future, that's what I would recommend them to do.

 

[Frosty3799]

def. ask her where she woke up... thats pretty key info... since its most likely connected to the person who did it to her

 

[stev0]

<< first of all..find out WHOSE room she woke up in.. beat the hell outta him and find out what happened.. then ask her friends WHEN exactly they got separated.. and tell her not to go to these parties anymore.. >>


good call d33pt...

 

[amnesiac]

You should have acted sooner.. police can complete a "rape kit" in the first 72 hours after a rape.. collects samples, etc. and lets them catch the bastard.

 

[compuwiz1]

At least, she should be tested for an STD. She should also be talked to about better protecting herself, so something doesn't happen. If she feels she was raped, police can go back to the scene of the alleged crime and look for evidence.

 

[exp]

<< I know I should tell my parents... it's just a matter of time >>

The longer you wait the less likely it becomes that this situation will ever be resolved. You need to take action *now* and hope it's not too late already.

 

[oLLie]

I'm with BuckleDownBen, I wouldn't jump to any hasty conclusions. It seems more like bruises would come from someone who is drunk and injures themselves accidentally than from some dude who drugs her and then beats an unconscious for no obvious reason...

still, though... best of luck getting everything sorted out and I hope your sister is ok.

 

[Mill]

<< rohypnol >>



I seriously doubt it. Rohypnol is not very easy to get. More likely GHB is she was slipped something. Very easy to get a hold of. Odorless and tasteless when mixed when anything. She could have possibly been slipped halcion or xanax but I doubt it seriously. More than likely just a good ole drunken blackout.

 

[rgwalt]

It doesn't matter if she blacked out or was slipped something. Either way, if someone had sex with her when she was blacked out, IT IS STILL RAPE! She should go see a gyno and/or a doctor. She could go to a planned parenthood and get checked out. Pay with cash, and it is totally confidential. Assuming that she is a student, they have excellent student rates. They might still be able to tell if she had sex. More importantly, they can start testing for STDs now. She'll need to continue to be tested for the next 6 months to a year to make sure they catch everything. They'll also be able to make sure she isn't pregnant (heaven forbid).

In truth, she probably isn't in much danger. However, she needs to make sure. The scratches and bruises will heal. She'll hopefully be smart and aware enough to watch herself much closer in the future at these parties. However, some STDs cannot be cured, but can be successfully treated to some extent, especially when caught early enough. Make her go to a doctor as soon as possible. Call up a Planned Parenthood in your area and see if they will let her come in for an emergency visit.

Best of luck to you and your sister. If you find out who did this and what happened, turn it over to the police. Beating the guy's ass will only make you feel better. It won't help your sister's situation, and it likely won't help change his habits. Being gang-raped in the showers at the state pen should straighten him out. If the cops can't do anything, then while I don't condone vigalante justice, I know I wouldn't turn you in.

Ryan

 

[gopunk]

police, even if it's unlikely that they get the guy, at least they can have a sample, in case they nail the guy later.

 

[lawaris]

this sucks big-time .....

what's the world coming to ?

 

[LuDaCriS66]

Thanks everyone.. The room she was in was a room at the house where the party was so I don't know if I can possibly track anyone down that way..
I still haven't told anyone and niether has she... but she did go to the doctor last night but I haven't been able to talk to her yet. She showed me some of the scratches and bruises and I don't think they're from punches or anything like that.. they're not that serious. She did say however she felt really sore and unfortunately that leads me to believe she was raped...
until I get to talk to her friends some more.. I have no idea what to do..

She told me she doesn't remember anything which lead me to believe maybe she was slipped rophynol.. ghb is a possibility but I hear that you still remember the events... either way, I don't think she's telling me everything.. but on the other hand I don't wanna push it out of her..

 

[Hammer]

Sorry to hear about your sis. Hopefully, the doctor can determine what happened. I don't know how much the doctor can tell since this happened over the weekend though. I would just try to find out as much as you can, to all the people you know where there and the owner of the place the party was at and see if anyone say who she was with that night and if anyone noticed her slip away with someone.

Try to remain calm and don't let on what you know, I know my first instinct would be to tear the place apart and get information out of people by whatever means necessary.

 

[GrumpyMan]

Get the cops on it. Someone needs to go to jail.

 

[Azraele]

LuDaCriS66, sorry to hear what happened to your sis.
My advice would be to not keep this secret for too long. Was she drinking? Could her blackout have been alcohol related?