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What makes the ideal wife?

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Originally posted by: chambersc
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: bennylong
From the Good Wife's Guide:
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That is EXACTLY what a good wife is. My SO agrees with every single bit of it.
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Eww, I would hate to be you or your SO.
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meh, she takes great pleasure in serving me and I take great pleasure in serving her.

I really don't see why that is such a big deal. It's what a good man does. Same as what a good woman does.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: chambersc
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: bennylong
From the Good Wife's Guide:
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That is EXACTLY what a good wife is. My SO agrees with every single bit of it.
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Eww, I would hate to be you or your SO.
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meh, she takes great pleasure in serving me and I take great pleasure in serving her.

I really don't see why that is such a big deal. It's what a good man does. Same as what a good woman does.
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You didn't mention what you did for her.

Originally posted by: AnonymouseUser
What makes the ideal wife?
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The ideal husband. 😉

It's a two-way street people!
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He did mention that it's a two way street. 😉
 
Originally posted by: chambersc
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: bennylong
From the Good Wife's Guide:
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That is EXACTLY what a good wife is. My SO agrees with every single bit of it.
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Eww, I would hate to be you or your SO.
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while not what i would look for in a wife. IF she is really happy with the situation who are you to complain?

 
Source: ME

1a) A woman that will do everything she did in the sack before getting married.
1b) make sure she actually does "stuff" in the sack before getting engaged.
1c) failure to do 1b will make a1 miserable.

2) Someone that will cook ... and not try making fancy crap. Just make sure the meat is dead and I don't get sick.

3) A woman that will not snap anytime you make a recomendation on how to do something better. See (2).

4) A stay at home wife should have her chores done when I'm not home. Then we can actually spend time together. As much fun as it is going shopping with your mom for sh!t you don't need .....

Those are the big things.
Bottom line, when married this is what matters in regards to the women:
1) Sex has to be all you want
2) Food has to be OK. No fancy crap.
3) Does her work when you are at work

MONEY:
1) It's a partnership to spend your money wsely and to not overextend.
 
Originally posted by: waggy
while not what i would look for in a wife. IF she is really happy with the situation who are you to complain?
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Funny thing is that "good wife" picture and list are hanging on my refridgerator to remind her what a good wife is. And like I said she agrees with every point.
 
I'm assuming the OP wants some serious answers, so here's mine:

Some background information first I guess: I'm 23 and I work in the IT field.

My views on a wife have changed quite a bit over the last few years. I am not looking for a "traditional" wife so to speak. I am more or less looking for a partner to share life's experiences with. I do not need anyone to complete me. I am very much self-sufficient as it is.

My views have become heavily influenced with several colleged-aged girls I know pretty well. Their one goal in life is to be a stay-at-home parent. Don't get me wrong, if you and your partner are ok with this sort of relationship, then by all means go for it. It won't work for me though. It won't work because of what I've seen their attitude to be like. Hell, some of them are in college just to bag a rich guy who will take care of them for the rest of their life. I've seen it with my own eyes. I'm very good friends with a few woman who think just like that. I'm not saying all women are like that. I'm just saying this from my standpoint.

I am looking for a career-oriented, independent woman. I don't know what it is, but there is something about this type of woman that appeals to me. It might be her mentality about her career, which carries over into her personal life. She is goal-oriented and hard working. Who cares if you have this "breadwinner attitude"? She is independent and couldn't care less if you have the means to take care of her. She can take care of herself.

Of course, since we have this partnership so to speak, chores are divided between the two of us. She isn't stuck with doing all of the cooking and cleaning all of the time, or going grocery shopping every time we need something. We each do our fair share.

Will a relationship like that actually develop into a marriage? I don't know. I may just be partners with a woman and not take that leap just because of the stigma of marriage.
 
Originally posted by: bennylong
From the Good Wife's Guide:

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Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
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Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
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Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
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Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
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Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables.
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Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
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Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all the noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
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Be happy to see him.
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Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first ? remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
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Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
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Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
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Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
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Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
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Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
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Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
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Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
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A good wife always knows her place.
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Holy crap! That's crazy, especially the one saying basically "STFU and listen to what he says because what he says is more important"
 
What a crock. I don't think that FemiNazi ****** was accurate back in '71 and it sure isn't accurate today.

Maybe *MAYBE* in the 50's, but even that is a stretch.

My wife is my life 'partner' not my mother. She does not pack my lunch or arrange my doctor appointments. She does not iron my clothes or take care of me when I am sick.
 
A gourmet in the kitchen, a hostess in the living room and a whore in the bedroom (I think Lazarus long said something like that)
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: waggy
while not what i would look for in a wife. IF she is really happy with the situation who are you to complain?
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Funny thing is that "good wife" picture and list are hanging on my refridgerator to remind her what a good wife is. And like I said she agrees with every point.
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You da man. You won the game of life.
 
Originally posted by: pnad
What a crock. I don't think that FemiNazi ****** was accurate back in '71 and it sure isn't accurate today.

Maybe *MAYBE* in the 50's, but even that is a stretch.

My wife is my life 'partner' not my mother. She does not pack my lunch or arrange my doctor appointments. She does not iron my clothes or take care of me when I am sick.
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Sucks to be you.

 
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: pnad
What a crock. I don't think that FemiNazi ****** was accurate back in '71 and it sure isn't accurate today.

Maybe *MAYBE* in the 50's, but even that is a stretch.

My wife is my life 'partner' not my mother. She does not pack my lunch or arrange my doctor appointments. She does not iron my clothes or take care of me when I am sick.
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Sucks to be you.
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Don't you know that it's degrading to woman to take care of you when you're sick??? Your wife is your partner, not your nursemaid to take care of you when you're sick or ill. For shame!
 
Originally posted by: bennylong
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: pnad
What a crock. I don't think that FemiNazi ****** was accurate back in '71 and it sure isn't accurate today.

Maybe *MAYBE* in the 50's, but even that is a stretch.

My wife is my life 'partner' not my mother. She does not pack my lunch or arrange my doctor appointments. She does not iron my clothes or take care of me when I am sick.
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Sucks to be you.
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Don't you know that it's degrading to woman to take care of you when you're sick??? Your wife is your partner, not your nursemaid to take care of you when you're sick or ill. For shame!
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I took care of my SO, she took care of me when we were sick. Whats wrong with that? Kind of like the perfect servant, but with both sides getting what they want from the other. If you're happy when the other person is happy, both will be happy kinda deal.
 
This thread has potential. I'd share but I'm not sure any of the keyboard warriors here give a rat's ass, plus most of the guys here are so misogynistic they actually agree with the fake "Good Housekeeping" article that was posted previously.

I have no illusions about the difficulties of marriage or about the trials of sharing a life together, but I believe it can be a beautiful thing given commitment, compromise, and sacrifice.

I want a partner, a friend, and a lover. I want someone who will approach me as a cognizant adult, who is willing to commit to me despite my many failings. I can only offer the same in return.
 
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